Accepted job, change of mind.

[deltashad]

I've been stupid.

The last month has been negotiations with a competing company to take my employment.
On Wednesday, I flew out to Germany to have a face to face with the prospective employer. I was well looked after but my contract did not state what was promised during the discussions beforehand.
I was told that I had to take the employers word for it.

I signed the contract.

After thinking about it and discussing with msDs, we decided I had made a grave error.

My current employer has informed me he will not accept my resignation without a face to face so I have no problems there.

Where do I stand with the job I now don't want?

[Mattt]

Accept the counter offer, job done (for at least 6 months until you decide you still want to leave and shouldn't have accepted the counter offer).

[yajeed]

That pretty much sums it up.

Personally, I'd be talking to my current employer about what made me feel it necessary to look for other work and whether they can do anything to address that.

If you're not happy with your job then ultimately you'll leave unless your job changes.

Your employer will know that - if you simply tell them you've had a change of heart it'll damage your prospects IMHO as they'll question your loyalty (i.e. you've interviewed elsewhere and resigned already).

[Gargamel]

In relation to the Job you don’t want, tell them quickly.

The sooner the better, be honest with them. Tell them the contract and specifically the lack of detail around terms, has made you very nervous, and after speaking to friends and family you have realised it is not something you wish to pursue. Apologise to them, and say you fully appreciated that your mistake has left them without a person for their role, but that it is better to discover that now, than after they have paid for your relocation.

From a contractual legal point of view, they could try to pursue you for any losses incurred due to your bad faith, however this never happens IME, as it costs at lot of money, and it is hard to prove they have incurred any losses and it gives them a fairly substantial reputational problem when they look for a replacement person.


In term of your current employer, just tell them, you weren’t looking, they approached you, you liked the idea of international and they flattered you. Ultimately you realise your long term prospects are still very well served by remaining with your exissiting company, however there are one or two frustrations…..

HTH