Relocating for new role
Discussion
This is something I've been pondering on too, having done it a couple of times in my early twenties and now being mid-thirties ...
I think it depends on many things (age/ commitments being a huge one) - it made for a great social life back then, being young (and not fussy as to who I hung out with, so long as they wanted to go out on the razz and weren't complete t
ts!) and working in big companies with plenty of people to meet...
These days I'm older (although don't really feel it!) and prefer to keep my private life completely separate from my professional one, so I'm not so sure... I've been approached about a few roles of late that have made me think I'm treading proverbial water and need to seriously think about taking a new opportunity whilst I have no ties, rather than regret it further down the line...
I've watched a mate do it successfully enough recently - I think it helps hugely if you at least have one or two decent contacts to start your 'network' with wherever you're moving to, and the internet helps a lot these days... He joined 'City Socialising' and seems to have at least started a new social life through that... I'd also never consider internet dating under normal circumstances (prefer the traditional approach of meeting girls in bars!) but if I was moving somewhere new, I think I'd quite fancy making some new 'acquaintances' (to one degree or another) that way!
I think it depends on many things (age/ commitments being a huge one) - it made for a great social life back then, being young (and not fussy as to who I hung out with, so long as they wanted to go out on the razz and weren't complete t
ts!) and working in big companies with plenty of people to meet... These days I'm older (although don't really feel it!) and prefer to keep my private life completely separate from my professional one, so I'm not so sure... I've been approached about a few roles of late that have made me think I'm treading proverbial water and need to seriously think about taking a new opportunity whilst I have no ties, rather than regret it further down the line...
I've watched a mate do it successfully enough recently - I think it helps hugely if you at least have one or two decent contacts to start your 'network' with wherever you're moving to, and the internet helps a lot these days... He joined 'City Socialising' and seems to have at least started a new social life through that... I'd also never consider internet dating under normal circumstances (prefer the traditional approach of meeting girls in bars!) but if I was moving somewhere new, I think I'd quite fancy making some new 'acquaintances' (to one degree or another) that way!
I moved from Glasgow to Aberdeen in summer last year to take up a new job. The distance is 150 miles and takes 2 - 2.5 hours to drive. I live in a flat in Aberdeen Monday - Friday and drive straight back to Glasgow after work on a Friday where I stay until Sunday night, then drive back to Aberdeen Sunday night for work on Monday.
In short, it's a pain and I miss being around people important to me during the week, however my job has excellent career prospects and I will be able to relocate back to Glasgow at a later date to work in Glasgow or Edinburgh, so I'm really just sacrificing my social life and extra time with friends and family for now for a better life for myself and them I hope in years to come.
The only other down side is living expenses, it probably costs me just shy of £1k per month to rent a second home, council tax, bills etc plus fuel driving up and down every week, but it's not forever. Circumstances would be different if I was bringing family with me to Aberdeen but I'm not.
Hope that helps.
In short, it's a pain and I miss being around people important to me during the week, however my job has excellent career prospects and I will be able to relocate back to Glasgow at a later date to work in Glasgow or Edinburgh, so I'm really just sacrificing my social life and extra time with friends and family for now for a better life for myself and them I hope in years to come.
The only other down side is living expenses, it probably costs me just shy of £1k per month to rent a second home, council tax, bills etc plus fuel driving up and down every week, but it's not forever. Circumstances would be different if I was bringing family with me to Aberdeen but I'm not.
Hope that helps.
Thanks guys.
Gf is concerned we won't have any friends. I have found a place down there which solves all my problems ( where to park all our vehicles, contain living costs) so it's a more straightforward question now.
If this works out I could theoretically save 1.5k pcm towards house deposit... So it'll be like a 2 year deposit funding mission.
Gf is concerned we won't have any friends. I have found a place down there which solves all my problems ( where to park all our vehicles, contain living costs) so it's a more straightforward question now.
If this works out I could theoretically save 1.5k pcm towards house deposit... So it'll be like a 2 year deposit funding mission.
Edited by MotorcyclesFish on Tuesday 15th January 07:41
MotorcyclesFish said:
Thanks guys.
Gf is concerned we won't have any friends. I have found a place down there which solves all my problems ( where to park all our vehicles, contain living costs) so it's a more straightforward question now.
If this works out I could theoretically save 1.5k pcm towards house deposit... So it'll be like a 2 year deposit funding mission.
In that case, I don't see why not. Do it.Gf is concerned we won't have any friends. I have found a place down there which solves all my problems ( where to park all our vehicles, contain living costs) so it's a more straightforward question now.
If this works out I could theoretically save 1.5k pcm towards house deposit... So it'll be like a 2 year deposit funding mission.
Edited by MotorcyclesFish on Tuesday 15th January 07:41
MotorcyclesFish said:
Gf is concerned we won't have any friends. I have found a place down there which solves all my problems ( where to park all our vehicles, contain living costs) so it's a more straightforward question now.
If this works out I could theoretically save 1.5k pcm towards house deposit... So it'll be like a 2 year deposit funding mission.
Tread carefully then would be my advice - I did a 'mini relocation' a few years ago (my work was between our old location and new, so didn't make much difference to me) for my GF's new job (it would have been too much of a commute for her)...If this works out I could theoretically save 1.5k pcm towards house deposit... So it'll be like a 2 year deposit funding mission.
Edited by MotorcyclesFish on Tuesday 15th January 07:41
I coped fine (also saw my 'reduced' social life and living costs as being an easy way to a house deposit and a better life together), she didn't as she was too far away from friends and family and it lead to the demise of our relationship - it obviously wasn't meant to go the distance if we could split over something so fickle, but don't underestimate how much pressure it can put on things if either of you needs/ both of you need some space mid-week and can't pop round a friend's etc. - presumably more so if there's a chance you'll be the one who ends up being 'blamed' for the situation! I don't mean to put you off as everyone should further their career opportunities - just be aware of the potential pitfalls as some people cope with change better than others!
Ultuous said:
Tread carefully then would be my advice - I did a 'mini relocation' a few years ago (my work was between our old location and new, so didn't make much difference to me) for my GF's new job (it would have been too much of a commute for her)...
I coped fine (also saw my 'reduced' social life and living costs as being an easy way to a house deposit and a better life together), she didn't as she was too far away from friends and family and it lead to the demise of our relationship - it obviously wasn't meant to go the distance if we could split over something so fickle, but don't underestimate how much pressure it can put on things if either of you needs/ both of you need some space mid-week and can't pop round a friend's etc. - presumably more so if there's a chance you'll be the one who ends up being 'blamed' for the situation! I don't mean to put you off as everyone should further their career opportunities - just be aware of the potential pitfalls as some people cope with change better than others!
Good point. In our situation that's less likely however as for the first six months of our relationship she was living in Tuscany and I in Surrey. That should NEVER have worked, nor should her moving in with me after those six months have.I coped fine (also saw my 'reduced' social life and living costs as being an easy way to a house deposit and a better life together), she didn't as she was too far away from friends and family and it lead to the demise of our relationship - it obviously wasn't meant to go the distance if we could split over something so fickle, but don't underestimate how much pressure it can put on things if either of you needs/ both of you need some space mid-week and can't pop round a friend's etc. - presumably more so if there's a chance you'll be the one who ends up being 'blamed' for the situation! I don't mean to put you off as everyone should further their career opportunities - just be aware of the potential pitfalls as some people cope with change better than others!
It's the one issue I'm trying to bottom out.
Ultuous said:
Tread carefully then would be my advice - I did a 'mini relocation' a few years ago (my work was between our old location and new, so didn't make much difference to me) for my GF's new job (it would have been too much of a commute for her)...
I coped fine (also saw my 'reduced' social life and living costs as being an easy way to a house deposit and a better life together), she didn't as she was too far away from friends and family and it lead to the demise of our relationship - it obviously wasn't meant to go the distance if we could split over something so fickle, but don't underestimate how much pressure it can put on things if either of you needs/ both of you need some space mid-week and can't pop round a friend's etc. - presumably more so if there's a chance you'll be the one who ends up being 'blamed' for the situation! I don't mean to put you off as everyone should further their career opportunities - just be aware of the potential pitfalls as some people cope with change better than others!
I don't even see this as a negative - if a relationship is going to fail you might as well have it happen before you buy her half a house I coped fine (also saw my 'reduced' social life and living costs as being an easy way to a house deposit and a better life together), she didn't as she was too far away from friends and family and it lead to the demise of our relationship - it obviously wasn't meant to go the distance if we could split over something so fickle, but don't underestimate how much pressure it can put on things if either of you needs/ both of you need some space mid-week and can't pop round a friend's etc. - presumably more so if there's a chance you'll be the one who ends up being 'blamed' for the situation! I don't mean to put you off as everyone should further their career opportunities - just be aware of the potential pitfalls as some people cope with change better than others!
Thanks for the advice all. Accepted the new role and waiting for 2 weeks to pull the trigger on the current role. Basic is only 13% higher but cash equivalent part of package is 30% higher and total package is 60% better. Progression and expansion is assured conditional on performance.
Gonna miss my friends but local connections are already cropping up.
Fingers crossed!
Gonna miss my friends but local connections are already cropping up.
Fingers crossed!
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