Two job offers and pushy recruitment agency
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ks to the recruiter. He's trying to get you to sign so he gets his commission (that's not a dig at recruiters in general, there are good ones!)
If you're worried about this job going away before you have an offer of another one, contact company 1 and explain, or just sign up and later cancel if company 2 comes up with a better offer.
ks to the recruiter. He's trying to get you to sign so he gets his commission (that's not a dig at recruiters in general, there are good ones!)If you're worried about this job going away before you have an offer of another one, contact company 1 and explain, or just sign up and later cancel if company 2 comes up with a better offer.
With my employer hat on, do what is best for you. People pull out of accepted roles all the time so if you feel it makes sense to accept role 1 whilst waiting for the outcome of role 2, and you won't be burning any bridges for future opportunities, go for it.
As to the recruiter, tell him or her where to get off. Pushy recruiters do my head in.
As to the recruiter, tell him or her where to get off. Pushy recruiters do my head in.
Get in touch with company 1 telling then that you have yet to make a decision and why. Explain that you thought you should contact then direct due to the way the recruiter is acting and that the job has been accepted whilst you are still considering tour options against your permission. They should understand this, if not they are a dodgy as the recruiter and you will be best without then in the long run.
Whichever way it plays out i wish you the best and hope you end up in something suitable and enjoyable.
Whichever way it plays out i wish you the best and hope you end up in something suitable and enjoyable.
Sheetmaself said:
Get in touch with company 1 telling then that you have yet to make a decision and why. Explain that you thought you should contact then direct due to the way the recruiter is acting and that the job has been accepted whilst you are still considering tour options against your permission. They should understand this, if not they are a dodgy as the recruiter and you will be best without then in the long run.
Whichever way it plays out i wish you the best and hope you end up in something suitable and enjoyable.
Qfa.Whichever way it plays out i wish you the best and hope you end up in something suitable and enjoyable.
I had similar a few years ago with a pushy unethical recruitment company. I never taken the job as we couldn't get close enough on money and standby rota and went for a different job but clear, cards on the table no bs communication is respected if you are dealing with quality people.
Now I'm self employed I do the odd job for that company on a subcontract basis when they are too busy or have speciality projects on that they don't have the in house knowledge for, I don't think that would have came about if I allowed the recruiter to continue messing both parties about. If I hadn't intervened I'm pretty sure I would have been painted as the messer by the recruiter. There are good ones out there, but you can certainly see why the bad ones get the nickname slave trader.
I used to find it difficult to be assertive until I learned the following. I am a laid back guy, maybe accused of "nice guy coming last" type because i'm loyal and have integrity, and don't walk over people to get brownie points, and always like to give people benefit of the doubt before jumping to conclusions. I think the person you are in real life (outside of work) and the values you espouse should come in to work, not a two faced dual life. Unfortunately, these characteristics do not bode well in most organisations where people are opportunistic and play politics -- we don't work for meritocratic organisations, which sounds sort of crazy in the 21s century. The new digital native companies generally do reward skill and talent, hence why legacy businesses are weeing their pants and can't hold on to their best people. Anyway, I digress.
So, what is being assertive? In my opinion, being assertive is not being forceful or being a dick or domineering. It's about knowing your lines and boundaries, and making it very clear where these lie to other people - especially if they should cross them. This can be a very polite conversation, but important is you are clear of expectations.
In your situation, you simple need to layout what you expect of the recruiter and what your role is. What you want to achieve, how you want to operate, and what good looks like for you. His job is not to dictate where your next job or career is headed. You're the decision maker, remind him of that. Just say "I'm not comfortable with X..." I would explain that clearly, then ask if we can move forward on that basis and suggest what will happen next (next steps). That's the end of it.
So, what is being assertive? In my opinion, being assertive is not being forceful or being a dick or domineering. It's about knowing your lines and boundaries, and making it very clear where these lie to other people - especially if they should cross them. This can be a very polite conversation, but important is you are clear of expectations.
In your situation, you simple need to layout what you expect of the recruiter and what your role is. What you want to achieve, how you want to operate, and what good looks like for you. His job is not to dictate where your next job or career is headed. You're the decision maker, remind him of that. Just say "I'm not comfortable with X..." I would explain that clearly, then ask if we can move forward on that basis and suggest what will happen next (next steps). That's the end of it.
Edited by silent ninja on Sunday 15th April 17:03
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