Workplace bullying
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anonymous-user

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76 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Badda

3,560 posts

104 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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anonymous said:
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That's called incentivising, not blackmail.

I can't see any bullying here at all!

BoloH4wes

100 posts

112 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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How is offering an incentive bullying?

DanL

6,581 posts

287 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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anonymous said:
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What happens if / when she says no?

ApexCult

4,922 posts

175 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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I 'ardly t'ink t'at offering extra pay or paid transport to cover additional s'ifts as workplace bullying?

Unless t'ere's more to t'is, from w'at you've written it sounds like the manager is s'ort staffed and is desperately trying to cover t'ese s'ifts so is offering all of t'ese incentives.

Bit c'eeky asking w'en s'e is on 'oliday but a simple text back either saying yes or no s'ould deal wit' it?

deckster

9,631 posts

277 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Not bullying.

Care homes are desperately short of staff so I'm not surprised they are begging everybody on their books to come in as often as they can.

resolve10

1,182 posts

67 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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The employer is asking for help and making it as simple/appealing for your OH as possible. As long as the employer accepts no as an answer, I'd say they are doing nothing wrong at all.

If your OH is only wanting to work her contacted hours and no more, she should have a conversation with her manager which should stop the requests.

StevieBee

14,746 posts

277 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Has / is your wife been:

Forced to do something she's not be trained to do?
Forced to do something she physically finds difficult to do?
Shouted at, ridiculed or laughed at?
Has she had incorrect rumours about her spread amongst colleagues?
Threatened with the sack for no reason that aligns with her contract?
Verbally or physically abused at work by other staff?

Whilst you're lounging in the Algarve with a little time, you'd do well to look up the meaning of 'blackmail' and 'bullying' because the descriptions you've provided come nowhere near close.

What you've described is an employer practicing good planning practice and applying 'beyond the call of duty' levels of support to staff to help them come into work.

I hope you and your wife never have to experience workplace bullying or blackmailing - there's not enough 'H's in the world that could be dropped to accommodate your descriptions.


Countdown

46,950 posts

218 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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anonymous said:
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She needs to tell her Manager that he's pressurising her and she really doesn't want to do the extra shifts.
If that doesn't work then speak to HR.
If that doesn't work then submit a formal grievance
If that doesn't work then it might be best for her to leave.

n3il123

2,761 posts

235 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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What is the writing like Arthur Daley all about?

Driver101

14,451 posts

143 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Does she feel she can't refuse to do the work? Can she not firmly say no and that's the end of it?

I don't see the additional pay as blackmail. A lot of workers would happily work extra for premium overtime rates. If your wife isn't happy and doesn't work to work extra she shouldn't be forced. If the extra wages are enough to tempt her to work more that is different. It's an incentive and not blackmail.

I do think it's a bit off that you can't enjoy your holiday without the company having communication. They should be leaving your wife alone to enjoy the break.

Muzzer79

12,632 posts

209 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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anonymous said:
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Not bullying. It's a manager trying to get the most out of their staff and offering incentives to boot.

It would only be bullying if there were consequences for saying no.

Why do you say "''er" instead of "her"? confused

Terzo123

4,638 posts

230 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Who would want to be an employer these days, if this is classed as bullying?

OP should give his head a wobble.


Rockets7

476 posts

152 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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sutoka

4,716 posts

130 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Wouldn't say asking her to do extra for money is bullying. If she is doing her contracted hours then that's fine.

The problem would arise if the manager gets arsey and abusive for turning down extra shifts and overtime.

Johnnytheboy

24,499 posts

208 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Nuclear option is to tell her manager that if the texts don't stop, she'll leave.

Brainpox

4,286 posts

173 months

Monday 14th March 2022
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Care homes are desperate. They can't have nobody on site for a shift so they'll exhaust all options they have to get cover. That will include offering enhanced payments and contacting those on leave.

If your wife doesn't want to be contacted she should ask to be left alone outside of work hours and block her manager's number if it persists.

vulture1

13,435 posts

201 months

Tuesday 15th March 2022
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Johnnytheboy said:
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Nuclear option is to tell her manager that if the texts don't stop, she'll leave.
Sensible option. Ask yo sit sit down with manager and explain she really only wants to do the contracted hours no extras ever. I have 35 staff I look after some just want the bare minimum and others want automatically signed up to as many shifts as possible.

Boozy

2,427 posts

241 months

Tuesday 15th March 2022
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Why do you write 'er when her is the same number of keystrokes?

KAgantua

5,079 posts

153 months

Tuesday 15th March 2022
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Id take them to an employment tribunal. Could be a nice little earner. World is your lobster.