Ian Wright: Home Truths
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Randy Winkman

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Friday 7th May 2021
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I thought this programme about domestic violence a few days ago was really good.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m000vt7g/ian...

An example of where a "celebrity" presenting a programme was a real benefit because it showed that what you might see in the media isn't the whole story about someone.

anonymous-user

77 months

Friday 7th May 2021
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I thought it was a pretty good program, despite having some therapy myself it has made me realise I probably need some more regarding my childhood

Randy Winkman

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Sunday 9th May 2021
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Thanks for replying MonkeyMatt. It took me a couple of days to think of what to say in reply.

Anyway, thanks for your openness. I'm lucky that I've not been subject to the sort of issues that were described in the programme. But I have experienced some degree of mental pressure and I do know that trying to work through these sorts of things can bring rewards. I don't think that many (or possibly any) of us will find the golden ticket but I have certainly learned a couple of techniques that have changed the way I think and make me a happier person.

If you don't seek, you don't find. Good luck to you.

davidc1

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185 months

Sunday 9th May 2021
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Was a good programme. Anything to highlight what some nippers have to deal with is a positive.
My own dad was an uneducated guy who worked on a building site and he would go v over the top with the discipline. He didnt know no better i guess.

He passed 3 weeks ago. And he mad thing is the morphine he was on and the way he was on it, Eyes bulging and unpredictable ness bought back bad memories. Especially when he tried to attack with with a walking cane! . Bless him . Morphine is a horrible drug to see someone on.

TwigtheWonderkid

47,947 posts

173 months

Sunday 9th May 2021
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When Ian Wright said his mum was too old and frail to take part in the programme, the truth is probably too ashamed.

I never had the greatest childhood, brought (dragged) up by grandparents who were too old and impatient to be doing the job, but I was never subject to any sexual abuse or physical abuse beyond the odd hiding that many parents dished out in the 60s & 70s. So can't really complain. Plenty of verbal/emotional abuse, but fortunately my character was such that it was water off a ducks back, and not getting any affection didn't bother me one bit.

But I know a few people who had horrendous childhoods, miles worse than mine, who are to this day, running around and taking all kinds of crap off their now elderly parents, who were fking useless parents anyway. I just don't get it. fk 'em I say. It's only a few strands of DNA, and not worth ruining your life over. Cut them out completely and move on, that's my mantra.

That aside, I fking love Ian Wright. Loved the way he played (although I hate Arsenal), and loved his passion for playing for England. Him talking about Sydney Pigden on Desert Island Discs was just fabulous stuff.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VplePNEU2PI

Edited by TwigtheWonderkid on Sunday 9th May 18:12

Wacky Racer

40,645 posts

270 months

Sunday 9th May 2021
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
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Good post, Very true.

Randy Winkman

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Monday 10th May 2021
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Wacky Racer said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Stuff
Good post, Very true.
Yes - a very honest and thought provoking post. I'm in the awkward position where I have one 80something parent who I love and one who I never really cared for. They are bound almost inextricably together since the latter has alzheimers and it's my role to help the former to do the caring. A temporary situation though. The sooner it ends, the better.

TwigtheWonderkid

47,947 posts

173 months

Monday 10th May 2021
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Randy Winkman said:
Wacky Racer said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Stuff
Good post, Very true.
Yes - a very honest and thought provoking post. I'm in the awkward position where I have one 80something parent who I love and one who I never really cared for. They are bound almost inextricably together since the latter has alzheimers and it's my role to help the former to do the caring. A temporary situation though. The sooner it ends, the better.


Christ, that's tough. I'd never really considered that scenario. I guess the love for the good parent has to trump the distain for the bad one. Like the law that says if one Siamese twin commits murder, they both have to go free hehe