Lockdown 2 - 1st Year Students at University
Discussion
Hi,
I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who has a child in halls of residence at University at the moment.
What are your thoughts on Lockdown 2? Do they have a "reading week" coming up? What are your thoughts on that?
My daughter is in this situation, and as far as she is aware the 2 * 1 hour in person seminars that she has will continue to be in person - how this pans out remains to be seen.
Ignoring all the noise about University halls being a covid hotbed and the rules say she's got to stay where she is, I am much more concerned about her mental health (she has suffered from very serious mental health issues previously). I want her to stay where she is and try and tough it out, and she is prepared to give this a go. She was looking forward to coming home for a few days during reading week - but that's now out of the window.
I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who has a child in halls of residence at University at the moment.
What are your thoughts on Lockdown 2? Do they have a "reading week" coming up? What are your thoughts on that?
My daughter is in this situation, and as far as she is aware the 2 * 1 hour in person seminars that she has will continue to be in person - how this pans out remains to be seen.
Ignoring all the noise about University halls being a covid hotbed and the rules say she's got to stay where she is, I am much more concerned about her mental health (she has suffered from very serious mental health issues previously). I want her to stay where she is and try and tough it out, and she is prepared to give this a go. She was looking forward to coming home for a few days during reading week - but that's now out of the window.
Sophisticated Sarah said:
Personally, if she was my daughter I’d just go and fetch her if she wants to come home for a few days.
Me too.Our daughters are a long way off University but my wife suffered badly from depression whilst she was at Uni, mostly because her Dad told her to "toughen up" and pretty much forced her to stay somewhere she didnt want to be, for a course she really wasnt suited for. All she needed was to go home and focus on what SHE actually wanted to do.
I understand that everyone is different, but please beware that even when our kids say they're fine and they'll be OK, that's not always the case.
My son (first year at Birmingham Uni) came back two weeks ago. His lectures are all online anyway and he was pretty much locked down with just his 4 flatmates in the halls. He felt like the rising number of COVID cases were getting closer and closer to him. He's kept most of his stuff there and will review things nearer Christmas. There was so little of the usual extra-curricular stuff and social events running so he doesn't feel like he is missing out and he has plenty of work to keep him occupied as his course is challenging.
I'm disappointed for him, especially after his final year at school was such a washout also, but it was totally his choice.
I'm disappointed for him, especially after his final year at school was such a washout also, but it was totally his choice.
My Daughter is in her 1st Year at York. As the area has gone into Tier 2 restrictions the Uni has now gone to online only tution on her course. She seems to be enjoying the overall experience though, enjoying her independance, and is sharing a Uni house with around 13 others and they seem to be a good supportive and helpful bunch. There is talk of some going home early and others staying over Xmas. For her, the uni experience is more than the course, it's an overdue social and independance life experience that she would not get if she returned home.
Besides her accommodation is paid for and no refunds will happen unless the Uni tell everyone to go home, so she might as well stay and have fun with her housemates.
Besides her accommodation is paid for and no refunds will happen unless the Uni tell everyone to go home, so she might as well stay and have fun with her housemates.
My daughter is a 1st year at Bristol.
She came home for a few days last week, mainly to get some decent sleep and home cooking, and has now returned.
She is mostly online for lectures, but is dissecting something for the first time today (Medicine) - no idea if that will continue in lockdown.
She is in a bubble of 42 in halls, so having lots of fun - she can come home any time she likes, but seems very happy there enjoying her independence, even though she has been in lockdown for four out of the five weeks she has been there so far.
On that point, there is no chance that any of her 42 haven't had it - it swept through within a week of them starting.
She came home for a few days last week, mainly to get some decent sleep and home cooking, and has now returned.
She is mostly online for lectures, but is dissecting something for the first time today (Medicine) - no idea if that will continue in lockdown.
She is in a bubble of 42 in halls, so having lots of fun - she can come home any time she likes, but seems very happy there enjoying her independence, even though she has been in lockdown for four out of the five weeks she has been there so far.
On that point, there is no chance that any of her 42 haven't had it - it swept through within a week of them starting.
My son is at uni now, he's in his second year but has a place in a hall of residence.
He's OK but says it's boring and he may as well be at home - he has one face to face seminar per week.
Look, this is simple. If a child of mine was struggling with their mental health, and bringing them home would improve their state of mind, I'd be offering to bring them home immediately. If for some reason the "rules" (law, guidance, advice, whatever) said I couldn't then I'd ignore those rules - although "preventing harm" surely overrides any such rules I'd imagine.
There's really no other course of action open to a parent, in my opinion.
He's OK but says it's boring and he may as well be at home - he has one face to face seminar per week.
Look, this is simple. If a child of mine was struggling with their mental health, and bringing them home would improve their state of mind, I'd be offering to bring them home immediately. If for some reason the "rules" (law, guidance, advice, whatever) said I couldn't then I'd ignore those rules - although "preventing harm" surely overrides any such rules I'd imagine.
There's really no other course of action open to a parent, in my opinion.
In case you are wondering about rules, in the latest guidance it says this:
"If you live at university, you must not move back and forward between your permanent home and student home during term time. You should only return home at the end of term for Christmas. We will publish further guidance on the end of term."
That comes from here: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/new-national-restricti...
Like I said, preventing harm surely takes precedence, but there you go.
"If you live at university, you must not move back and forward between your permanent home and student home during term time. You should only return home at the end of term for Christmas. We will publish further guidance on the end of term."
That comes from here: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/new-national-restricti...
Like I said, preventing harm surely takes precedence, but there you go.
omniflow said:
Hi,
I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who has a child in halls of residence at University at the moment.
What are your thoughts on Lockdown 2? Do they have a "reading week" coming up? What are your thoughts on that?
My daughter is in this situation, and as far as she is aware the 2 * 1 hour in person seminars that she has will continue to be in person - how this pans out remains to be seen.
Ignoring all the noise about University halls being a covid hotbed and the rules say she's got to stay where she is, I am much more concerned about her mental health (she has suffered from very serious mental health issues previously). I want her to stay where she is and try and tough it out, and she is prepared to give this a go. She was looking forward to coming home for a few days during reading week - but that's now out of the window.
echo what others have said - You do what is best for your Daughter. Fek any rules. I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who has a child in halls of residence at University at the moment.
What are your thoughts on Lockdown 2? Do they have a "reading week" coming up? What are your thoughts on that?
My daughter is in this situation, and as far as she is aware the 2 * 1 hour in person seminars that she has will continue to be in person - how this pans out remains to be seen.
Ignoring all the noise about University halls being a covid hotbed and the rules say she's got to stay where she is, I am much more concerned about her mental health (she has suffered from very serious mental health issues previously). I want her to stay where she is and try and tough it out, and she is prepared to give this a go. She was looking forward to coming home for a few days during reading week - but that's now out of the window.
My daughter has also suffered with mental heath issues although she is younger but my wife and I "broke" lots of "rules" when the "care" she was receiving was s
t and damaging her more. You know your daughter better than anyone, talk with her, support her, be there for her, listen to her and what she wants and is saying. You want her to outlive you so you do what is best for her and fek any rules which says otherwise which I know you will as a Father.Edited by superlightr on Monday 2nd November 17:14
omniflow said:
Completely agree with all of the posts, and I will probably end up going to collect her this weekend. She can then be at home for what will, I'm assuming, reading week, then we can see if she wants to go back.
Are you suggesting that she'll come home just for a week? Can't go back and forth, certainly not suring lockdown. If she comes home now, she would need to stay put until after the Christmas break I should think.It must be really hard for students right now, there's no way I'd have started uni this year in these circumstances.
omniflow said:
Hi,
I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who has a child in halls of residence at University at the moment.
What are your thoughts on Lockdown 2? Do they have a "reading week" coming up? What are your thoughts on that?
My daughter is in this situation, and as far as she is aware the 2 * 1 hour in person seminars that she has will continue to be in person - how this pans out remains to be seen.
Ignoring all the noise about University halls being a covid hotbed and the rules say she's got to stay where she is, I am much more concerned about her mental health (she has suffered from very serious mental health issues previously). I want her to stay where she is and try and tough it out, and she is prepared to give this a go. She was looking forward to coming home for a few days during reading week - but that's now out of the window.
It may not be practical depending on distance, but don’t forget that travelling for education is allowed, so if the distance isn’t more than a couple of hours each way she could go to her seminars from home for two a week.I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who has a child in halls of residence at University at the moment.
What are your thoughts on Lockdown 2? Do they have a "reading week" coming up? What are your thoughts on that?
My daughter is in this situation, and as far as she is aware the 2 * 1 hour in person seminars that she has will continue to be in person - how this pans out remains to be seen.
Ignoring all the noise about University halls being a covid hotbed and the rules say she's got to stay where she is, I am much more concerned about her mental health (she has suffered from very serious mental health issues previously). I want her to stay where she is and try and tough it out, and she is prepared to give this a go. She was looking forward to coming home for a few days during reading week - but that's now out of the window.
I picked up my daughter from Liverpool last week. I wouldn't worry what the rules may or may not be this week, just go and get them.
It's no fun a the moment and with most lectures on line, they're better off at home I think. Unfortunately her friend is doing Pharma so has to stay until Xmas as it's mostly lab work, but she's one of the few that is staying.
It's no fun a the moment and with most lectures on line, they're better off at home I think. Unfortunately her friend is doing Pharma so has to stay until Xmas as it's mostly lab work, but she's one of the few that is staying.
superlightr said:
My daughter has also suffered with mental heath issues although she is younger but my wife and I "broke" lots of "rules" when the "care" she was receiving was st and damaging her more.
I think you and I have exchanged posts around this topic before (maybe) - I totally agree with you on the "care" available for mental health issues for kids - it's appalling. I could write a book on all of the ft and damaging her more. k-ups during 7 years "treatment" from Camhs.Electro1980 said:
It may not be practical depending on distance, but don’t forget that travelling for education is allowed, so if the distance isn’t more than a couple of hours each way she could go to her seminars from home for two a week.
Is that factual, or is a couple of hours each way just a stab in the dark?Gassing Station | News, Politics & Economics | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff