What should I be asking for board? 28 year old
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My other half's son lives with us.
At the moment he pays £150 PCM
He works part time, claims that's all they offer him, 2 years in now. (could be true don't know)
A quick run down:
He gets ran about everywhere (can't drive or ride a bike)
He sits at computer when not at work playing games all day.
He does not help around the house or outside, leaves it to me and my partner.
He takes a shower only when he has to work, so can wreak for three days at a time.
He gets his laundry done.
He gets free anything in the kitchen, and cooked.
He gets free wifi internet.
He sees his GF once a week, we have to take and pick up from train station at 9pm at night after weve had a long day at work.
A whole host of other issues I'll spare you.
So, is £150 a month enough? should I STFU moaning? or should ask for more? or should I be grateful we get anything?
Thanks advance
At the moment he pays £150 PCM
He works part time, claims that's all they offer him, 2 years in now. (could be true don't know)
A quick run down:
He gets ran about everywhere (can't drive or ride a bike)
He sits at computer when not at work playing games all day.
He does not help around the house or outside, leaves it to me and my partner.
He takes a shower only when he has to work, so can wreak for three days at a time.
He gets his laundry done.
He gets free anything in the kitchen, and cooked.
He gets free wifi internet.
He sees his GF once a week, we have to take and pick up from train station at 9pm at night after weve had a long day at work.
A whole host of other issues I'll spare you.
So, is £150 a month enough? should I STFU moaning? or should ask for more? or should I be grateful we get anything?
Thanks advance
This one will run and run - unlike him...
Charge a decent rate, upwards of £300 a month, and it'll force him to work more. Also teach him how to ride a bike, problem solved on the transport.
Edit - make that £500, I didn't see the free food bit. Save the money and give it back to him eventually as a deposit on his own place.
Charge a decent rate, upwards of £300 a month, and it'll force him to work more. Also teach him how to ride a bike, problem solved on the transport.
Edit - make that £500, I didn't see the free food bit. Save the money and give it back to him eventually as a deposit on his own place.
Sounds like your other half has let him get away with being a lazy sod for far too long; he appears to have had a very easy life and now needs a bit of a reality check as to what life is really like, however it will be hard without your partners help and I would guess that it is probably your partners fault that he is like he is.
My parents charged me market rent, but included my food washing etc. Would be the equivalent of £400 a month or so now.
My commute was long and expensive, so it was no cheaper to stay at home than move out, but it did have stability in my early working days. I Stayed about 12 months post university before moving in with friends.
We always had chores from being young kids.
My commute was long and expensive, so it was no cheaper to stay at home than move out, but it did have stability in my early working days. I Stayed about 12 months post university before moving in with friends.
We always had chores from being young kids.
DFV said:
He gets ran about everywhere (can't drive or ride a bike)
Refuse.DFV said:
He sits at computer when not at work playing games all day.
Take the router to work.DFV said:
He does not help around the house or outside, leaves it to me and my partner.
Lock the dishes away, he needs a key to get to them or cusp/glasses and cutleryDFV said:
He takes a shower only when he has to work, so can wreak for three days at a time.
Make retching noises whenever he is around and tell him that he f
king stinksDFV said:
He gets his laundry done.
As above, don't do it.DFV said:
He gets free anything in the kitchen, and cooked.
Why? Stop cooking for himDFV said:
He gets free wifi internet.
Ad above, take the router out of the house with you.DFV said:
He sees his GF once a week, we have to take and pick up from train station at 9pm at night after weve had a long day at work.
Er, don't pick him up anymore? Tell him he will have to walk or catch a busYour Mrs will either back you up or continue mothering him, having an extra £50pm in your pocket won't make any difference.
S'not rocket physics
HTP99 said:
Sounds like your other half has let him get away with being a lazy sod for far too long; he appears to have had a very easy life and now needs a bit of a reality check as to what life is really like, however it will be hard without your partners help and I would guess that it is probably your partners fault that he is like he is.
This, your partner needs to start treating her son like a man and not a babydesolate said:
First thing I would insist on is some sort of medical assessment. He sounds like he could be clinically depressed, at the very least.
Then if he is OK, just withdraw cooperation.
He doesn't seem depressed but you never know, I don't push it as it also upsets my other half, he just inhibits our freedom of both the house and what we can do, so going places is limited in case he needs a lift etc, It's like having to drop off a 4 year old at nursery and be there to pick him up.Then if he is OK, just withdraw cooperation.
There isn't a delicate way of putting this, so I'll just come out with it.
However much it will take to make him move out.
Seriously, he sounds like he needs a rocket up his arse to get on with his life, he sounds like a 28 year hermit who lives in his bedroom unless he has to go to work. That is not healthy for anybody.
However much it will take to make him move out.
Seriously, he sounds like he needs a rocket up his arse to get on with his life, he sounds like a 28 year hermit who lives in his bedroom unless he has to go to work. That is not healthy for anybody.
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