Upset my neighbour yesterday, was I wrong?
Upset my neighbour yesterday, was I wrong?
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Hammersia

Original Poster:

1,564 posts

44 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Orange block is my drive. Yellow block is his drive. Green block is public highway (cul de sac).

Bin day.

I was having some professional house photos done in the morning so I moved my bins from the blue dots to the orange dots (ie public highway).

Was going to be temporary but photographer was trying to catch the sun when it was out, so the bins were in the highway for an hour or so while we went in and out to do internal photos.

Came back outside after an hour (sun arrived) and my bins had been put back on my drive.

My neighbour, we will call him Cyril, (92 years old), immediately came up to me, very in my face, said "I'm not happy, had to move your bins out of my driveway, you blocked me in".

Eh? I brushed him off relatively brusquely if I'm honest, he is a bit of a whinger at the best of times, but I thought he was being unreasonable.

I believe that his complaint can only be that the temporary bin position, on the corner, made him swing his "small" car out another two feet to get round them. I don't believe the bins were in line with his drive.

Was I in the wrong?


Fast and Spurious

1,802 posts

117 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Not really.

mickk

30,459 posts

271 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Never used to get these problems when the dustmen were allowed on your property and slung the metal bins on their back.

anonymous-user

83 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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I take it from the rest of your post you are planning on moving! I think you are making the right decision as your neighbour sounds like an arse

Baroque attacks

6,247 posts

215 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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I’d say not really too.

Plus, if he’s a PITA he won’t be for much longer, being blunt.

surveyor

18,691 posts

213 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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At 92 I'd give him a pass. He probably finds driving and manoeuvring a bit of a pain. I'd be careful to park out of his way though...

Fallingup

1,746 posts

127 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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I thought blue and yellow made green.

normalbloke

8,880 posts

248 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Move. Having neighbours is very un PH.

usn90

2,037 posts

99 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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A possibility could be the bin men had been and then dumped them across his driveway thinking they were his.

Were they empty when your neighbour returned them?

Julian Thompson

2,717 posts

267 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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You did nothing wrong.

But.

He's 92. Take him a box of chocolates and say sorry.

Bluevanman

10,189 posts

222 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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usn90 said:
A possibility could be the bin men had been and then dumped them across his driveway thinking they were his.

Were they empty when your neighbour returned them?
Good point, you think like Sherlock Holmessmile

Tyre Tread

10,680 posts

245 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Similar problem with my neighbours - Bin wars!

Now, apparently, because I occasionally help friends with small jobs on their cars, I'm running a garage. rolleyes

We are moving as soon as possible.

Hammersia

Original Poster:

1,564 posts

44 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Bluevanman said:
usn90 said:
A possibility could be the bin men had been and then dumped them across his driveway thinking they were his.

Were they empty when your neighbour returned them?
Good point, you think like Sherlock Holmessmile
That was my initial thought as he came storming up, but no, bin lorry hadn't yet been. He did it, his fingerprints all over my bins.

Mark V GTD

3,160 posts

153 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Julian Thompson said:
You did nothing wrong.

But.

He's 92. Take him a box of chocolates and say sorry.
Exactly this - should have just said 'Sorry mate - I completely forgot about them' at the time and that would have been that.

Hammersia

Original Poster:

1,564 posts

44 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Julian Thompson said:
You did nothing wrong.

But.

He's 92. Take him a box of chocolates and say sorry.
I should, I should, I just..... can't.


speedking31

3,916 posts

165 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Hammersia said:
He did it, his fingerprints all over my bins.
If you have all your neighbour's fingerprints on file then perhaps you are not suited to living cooperatively.

anonymous-user

83 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Julian Thompson said:
You did nothing wrong.

But.

He's 92. Take him a box of chocolates and say sorry.
Why, he's old enough to know better

Pistom

6,414 posts

188 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Julian Thompson said:
You did nothing wrong.

But.

He's 92. Take him a box of chocolates and say sorry.
This sounds like the best advice here.

Honestly - what has become of us!!!


Richard-390a0

3,508 posts

120 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Ignore & move on. You moved your bins to take some pics as a one off then I don't see the issue tbh.

Stuart70

4,163 posts

212 months

Friday 5th April 2024
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Hammersia said:
Julian Thompson said:
You did nothing wrong.

But.

He's 92. Take him a box of chocolates and say sorry.
I should, I should, I just..... can't.
And so you weren’t in the wrong, but you are now. A bit of empathy would not go amiss.
May be a lot to ask these days though.