evicting an abusive son
Discussion
Friends of ours are going thru hell at the moment with their adult (early 20s) son who refuses to move out of the family home, causing lots of stress to both them (his parents) and younger siblings. Won't go into too much detail except to say the guy has a temper and has been physically abusive to both siblings and parents over a long period. Needless to say everything has been tried to help him and (when that wasn't accepted) to stop his abuse. It's recently escalated to police level. Everybody involved wants and needs him to move out but he is refusing to budge. Are there any legal avenues the parents can explore?
crofty1984 said:
I have no practical advice, but surely if he's in his 20's they have no legal requirement to house him? He's just a lodger that won't f
k off.
Surely this. Parental responsibilities in the strictest sense ended about 8 years ago. Just change the locks and be ready to call the police when he comes home and illustrates his disappointment on the begonias.k off.Change the locks, and when he breaks in, phone the police.
Let it go to court, and one of the conditions of his bail will be not to return to the premises. If he does,jail time.
Or, just MTFU and throw the little bd out by the scruff of the neck?
The police route is the easiest/quickest way, and a complete waste of their time and resources.
Let it go to court, and one of the conditions of his bail will be not to return to the premises. If he does,jail time.
Or, just MTFU and throw the little b
d out by the scruff of the neck?The police route is the easiest/quickest way, and a complete waste of their time and resources.
One small difficulty with the 'change the locks' strategy is that he never leaves the house. In fact he only leaves his room at night when the rest of the family is in bed, presumably to stock up on food. He has put a lock on the inside of his room door.
I understand that the police are sympathetic with the family's plight and would be willing to help within the usual legal constraints. Again the problem being that something illegal needs to be happening in order for them to intervene.
Could the parents give him a moving-out ultimatum, and give the police fair warning of that time also?
I understand that the police are sympathetic with the family's plight and would be willing to help within the usual legal constraints. Again the problem being that something illegal needs to be happening in order for them to intervene.
Could the parents give him a moving-out ultimatum, and give the police fair warning of that time also?
Edited by Blackpuddin on Monday 30th April 17:28
Blackpuddin said:
One small difficulty with the 'change the locks' strategy is that he never leaves the house. In fact he only leaves his room at night when the rest of the family is in bed, presumably to stock up on food. He has put a lock on the inside of his room door.
Put a lock on the outsideBlackpuddin said:
He has put a lock on the inside of his room door.
If this was happening in my house i would simply kick it through. Son or not, he does not have the right to start fixing locks all over the place. He will have to live by the house owners rules and if he feels violence is the answer, have him arrested for assualt.
I know kicking the door in is extreme, but i think it may shock him enough to think differently.
Blackpuddin said:
One small difficulty with the 'change the locks' strategy is that he never leaves the house. In fact he only leaves his room at night when the rest of the family is in bed, presumably to stock up on food. He has put a lock on the inside of his room door.
What about when he signs on payner2008 said:
If this was happening in my house i would simply kick it through. Son or not, he does not have the right to start fixing locks all over the place.
He will have to live by the house owners rules and if he feels violence is the answer, have him arrested for assualt.
I know kicking the door in is extreme, but i think it may shock him enough to think differently.
Sadly I suspect that it would also catalyse a destructive rampage. He will have to live by the house owners rules and if he feels violence is the answer, have him arrested for assualt.
I know kicking the door in is extreme, but i think it may shock him enough to think differently.
rogerthefish said:
Blackpuddin said:
One small difficulty with the 'change the locks' strategy is that he never leaves the house. In fact he only leaves his room at night when the rest of the family is in bed, presumably to stock up on food. He has put a lock on the inside of his room door.
What about when he signs on Blackpuddin said:
Sadly I suspect that it would also catalyse a destructive rampage.
Then the police should be present for the 'eviction'. All they have to say is that he's not welcome and is technically trespassing.He will just get nicked and wont have chance to smash his family's stuff up.
4keymonsta said:
I can't see a way that this could end without damage. If they are going to get the police involved anyway then they may aswell get them around now and say that he has already broken in and locked himself in that room. They will kick the door down drag him away and arrest him.
I suspect this may be the only answer too. The parents don't want to have him arrested, who would want that to happen to their own son, but they are in an impossible situation. The bod in question is incredibly intelligent and could easily obtain employment but chooses to live an entirely virtual lifestyle. Blackpuddin said:
rogerthefish said:
Blackpuddin said:
One small difficulty with the 'change the locks' strategy is that he never leaves the house. In fact he only leaves his room at night when the rest of the family is in bed, presumably to stock up on food. He has put a lock on the inside of his room door.
What about when he signs on Eventually, he will have to go out or starve.
When he goes out, rush back in, change locks, fix damage, fortify windows and doors.
Call police if/when necessary.
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