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Hi,
my sister would not stand for my child which I thought was very odd.
she is married herself with no children.
She agreed to do it and told my uncle she would but then when I offically asked her she said I should ask my brother. such an odd reply.
Later in the year my brother and older sister who also had childeren asked her to be a god parent and she agreed.
Now another brother has asked her to stand for his child, I do want to go to the church because of what she did to me? and I do not want to carry my child that she did not stand for to see this.
I forgot the mention she and her husband are rich with no children so everyone expect her to leave the children something in her will.
Nobody saw anything wrong with my sister not standing for my child but I am now the odd person in the family refusing to go and watch her stand for another child. any advice on the matter?
am I wrong here ???
thank you
my sister would not stand for my child which I thought was very odd.
she is married herself with no children.
She agreed to do it and told my uncle she would but then when I offically asked her she said I should ask my brother. such an odd reply.
Later in the year my brother and older sister who also had childeren asked her to be a god parent and she agreed.
Now another brother has asked her to stand for his child, I do want to go to the church because of what she did to me? and I do not want to carry my child that she did not stand for to see this.
I forgot the mention she and her husband are rich with no children so everyone expect her to leave the children something in her will.
Nobody saw anything wrong with my sister not standing for my child but I am now the odd person in the family refusing to go and watch her stand for another child. any advice on the matter?
am I wrong here ???
thank you
Almost anybody can be a Godparent, but in my experience, the role of Godparent distinguishes that person from the rest of the family.
I am by no means an expert, but I have 5 Godchildren and had not heard of aunts and uncles being Godparents before.
It's like being a director and a non-executive director all at the same time.
I am by no means an expert, but I have 5 Godchildren and had not heard of aunts and uncles being Godparents before.
It's like being a director and a non-executive director all at the same time.
Tell me I'm not the only one who immediately thought "Marlon Brando"
OP, are you religious, is your sister? As I always understood it traditionally god parents were supposed to be involved I the religious upbringing of the kid, if one of you're religious and the other isn't I could see how she might not want to as it would mean different things to each of you.
OP, are you religious, is your sister? As I always understood it traditionally god parents were supposed to be involved I the religious upbringing of the kid, if one of you're religious and the other isn't I could see how she might not want to as it would mean different things to each of you.
NDA said:
Almost anybody can be a Godparent, but in my experience, the role of Godparent distinguishes that person from the rest of the family.
I am by no means an expert, but I have 5 Godchildren and had not heard of aunts and uncles being Godparents before.
It's like being a director and a non-executive director all at the same time.
It's just a symbol for many nowadays. Just because you'd never heard of it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Two of us on here are in that position so now you have. ;-)I am by no means an expert, but I have 5 Godchildren and had not heard of aunts and uncles being Godparents before.
It's like being a director and a non-executive director all at the same time.
Eric Mc said:
It's not odd at all. In our family, all the Godparents were aunts and uncles.
ANYBODY can be asked to be a Godparent and the person asked is completely free to accept or decline the invitation.
I know they can be. But I thought the point was the person was separate from immediate family so could give impartial guidance. Family already have a link and responsibility. ANYBODY can be asked to be a Godparent and the person asked is completely free to accept or decline the invitation.
Godparents need to be trusted by the child that anything they say will be held in confidence, which is trickier with family?
valais said:
I know they can be. But I thought the point was the person was separate from immediate family so could give impartial guidance. Family already have a link and responsibility.
Godparents need to be trusted by the child that anything they say will be held in confidence, which is trickier with family?
My niece is far more likely to get some impartial and confidential advice from me than she is from either of her parents friends. Godparents need to be trusted by the child that anything they say will be held in confidence, which is trickier with family?
LoonR1 said:
My niece is far more likely to get some impartial and confidential advice from me than she is from either of her parents friends.
Fair enough - like others, I hadn't encountered a relative being a godparent. I don't have aunts, uncles or godparents so had to make up my own advice...Going to be honest, I actually hurt my head trying to translate that.
From what I can gather, your sister has rejected your offer of being Godparent to your child. Yet, she has been the Godparent to your other sibling's children?
Okay, I'm gonna ignore the whole 'leaving money in the will' thing.
How about she is sick of being asked to be a Godparent? Maybe she feels awkward that she keeps getting asked and instead thinks it would be better if another sibling had that responsibility? She did suggest asking your brother, maybe because she thinks somebody else in the family deserves the role?
Or maybe she hates you.... and your ugly baby...
Who knows....?
From what I can gather, your sister has rejected your offer of being Godparent to your child. Yet, she has been the Godparent to your other sibling's children?
Okay, I'm gonna ignore the whole 'leaving money in the will' thing.
How about she is sick of being asked to be a Godparent? Maybe she feels awkward that she keeps getting asked and instead thinks it would be better if another sibling had that responsibility? She did suggest asking your brother, maybe because she thinks somebody else in the family deserves the role?
Or maybe she hates you.... and your ugly baby...
Who knows....?
valais said:
Eric Mc said:
It's not odd at all. In our family, all the Godparents were aunts and uncles.
ANYBODY can be asked to be a Godparent and the person asked is completely free to accept or decline the invitation.
I know they can be. But I thought the point was the person was separate from immediate family so could give impartial guidance. Family already have a link and responsibility. ANYBODY can be asked to be a Godparent and the person asked is completely free to accept or decline the invitation.
Godparents need to be trusted by the child that anything they say will be held in confidence, which is trickier with family?
I was brought up in Ireland and it was by much more common BY FAR to have aunts and uncles as Godparents.
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