Going without a life
Discussion
Right. I had to get up in the morning at ten o'clock at night, half an hour before I went to bed, eat a lump of cold poison, work twenty-nine hours a day down mill, and pay mill owner for permission to come to work, and when we got home, our Dad would kill us, and dance about on our graves singing "Hallelujah."
The first year and a half out of university was like that. I'd go to the pub one day a week (on cheapy student night - I'd pretend to be a student) and have one bottle of Magners and ask for the glass to have loads of ice in it so that it would dilute the drink slowly and make it last all night.
I'm planning to go back to Uni for a teacher training course so I'll be doing that again I imagine.
I'm planning to go back to Uni for a teacher training course so I'll be doing that again I imagine.
You don't have no life.
You just have no money.
Find fun things to do that are cheap.
(Like your mum).
(Sorry)
Um.
Yes,
Find fun inexpensive stuff, every town has parks, museums, ruins and stuff to walk around.
Charity shops sell board games.
There will be various volunteer clubs around.
Or get a part time evening job for fun money.
You just have no money.
Find fun things to do that are cheap.
(Like your mum).
(Sorry)
Um.
Yes,
Find fun inexpensive stuff, every town has parks, museums, ruins and stuff to walk around.
Charity shops sell board games.
There will be various volunteer clubs around.
Or get a part time evening job for fun money.
I run a business. For the six months at the beginning I had less than no money - had to eat koos koos, rice etc every day, couldn't have the heating on, went out to meet friends on the weekend but rarely could afford a pint, my business partner sold his car and motorbike choosing to walk several miles a day.
It was seriously tough to start with but by the end you wonder why you spent so much cash in the first place. Do you really NEED that twix/car magazine/<insert frivolity here>.
Find things that are fun and cheap - go for walks together, in summer go swimming in rivers and cycling, go explore new places but take a packed lunch. It also makes you fitter and healthier!
It definitely put a big strain on my relationship - but it had to be done. Looking back I'd have dedicated more time than I did to the above activities to stay close with the other half.
Now I'm much better off financially but still relatively frugal, a good place to be. Good luck.
It was seriously tough to start with but by the end you wonder why you spent so much cash in the first place. Do you really NEED that twix/car magazine/<insert frivolity here>.
Find things that are fun and cheap - go for walks together, in summer go swimming in rivers and cycling, go explore new places but take a packed lunch. It also makes you fitter and healthier!
It definitely put a big strain on my relationship - but it had to be done. Looking back I'd have dedicated more time than I did to the above activities to stay close with the other half.
Now I'm much better off financially but still relatively frugal, a good place to be. Good luck.
Edited by Freddy88FM on Friday 13th December 14:09
I'm pretty strapped for cash at the moment due to a combination of bigger mortgage, two young kids and wife not working. So things like nice cars and Holidays are not on the agenda. I have just learnt to appreciate other things in life and accepted that you can't have your cake and eat it.
Mate, I had years of being skint, driving a hundred quid Metro "Clubman", shopping only at Aldi (Before it got all gentrified and attained middle class approval) and had three small kids, loads of bills and no time to do anything I wanted. Still busy and dont have unlimited funds but the pressure is definitely off, can move forward now, just need to keep your head down, it is temporary and if you work hard and try to progress it will come good for you, it can be hard, you come on here and see people talking about shopping cars or track slags that are better than what you can afford, need to remember for some they are living the dream, some big it up, some are in debt, just dont worry about what other people have, sometimes your up, sometimes you arent and you find it goes in cycles, not that I want to see anyone fail but it is amazing how things change, the one constant needs to be to keep trying, keep looking for ways to save money, to earn more and things will come good.
shiftydave said:
Justayellowbadge said:
Right. I had to get up in the morning at ten o'clock at night, half an hour before I went to bed, eat a lump of cold poison, work twenty-nine hours a day down mill, and pay mill owner for permission to come to work, and when we got home, our Dad would kill us, and dance about on our graves singing "Hallelujah."
Hahaha, I was wondering how long a post like that would take.shiftydave said:
The wife and I moved house this year, the new house would be better with a new kitchen, I then wanted a new car, and now we need to get a new boiler as well. Financially I've pushed us to the absolute limit by buying stuff I don't need and realistically we can't afford to 
Fixed that for you.Story of society today sadly.
Edited by tannedstamina on Friday 13th December 14:17
You have to look at the bigger picture as hard as it is, I had to go home, and tell my wife and kids, that I have just been made redunant driving home to tell them that was not easy.
However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
Things could be a lot worse, for me and a lot better. However I can still do things, that many people cannot do.
However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
Things could be a lot worse, for me and a lot better. However I can still do things, that many people cannot do.
Edited by SEE YA on Friday 13th December 14:28
SEE YA said:
You have to look at the bigger picture as hard as it is, I had to go home, and tell my wife and kids, that I have just been made redunant driving home to tell them that was not easy.
However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
I have a similar story, but the kid crossing the road was in good health.However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
So I ran him over.
I then realised my problems were nothing compared to his and cheered up.
My wife and I got into a habit of just nipping up to the pub for a couple of pints on a couple of occasions each week. Along with eating out and two nights becoming 3 or 4 we realised we'd better reign it in a bit.
We weren't getting hangovers from boozing all night; or going bankrupt but after deciding to not drink during November - which I carried on in to December on account of having an operation on the 27th - I've just realised I'm considerably better off this month than I was at the same time last month.
It really is the little things that you don't need. Obviously you can put off buying a TV / laptop / car. But what will make the difference is cutting out / down on booze; making lunches rather than buying them out etc, etc.
I ordered a new car (lease) recently and when that arrives in Jan it will be another monthly expenditure. I budgeted so I know I can afford it but it's nice to know that if I'm struggling then I can hop back on the wagon and free up some cash.
We weren't getting hangovers from boozing all night; or going bankrupt but after deciding to not drink during November - which I carried on in to December on account of having an operation on the 27th - I've just realised I'm considerably better off this month than I was at the same time last month.
It really is the little things that you don't need. Obviously you can put off buying a TV / laptop / car. But what will make the difference is cutting out / down on booze; making lunches rather than buying them out etc, etc.
I ordered a new car (lease) recently and when that arrives in Jan it will be another monthly expenditure. I budgeted so I know I can afford it but it's nice to know that if I'm struggling then I can hop back on the wagon and free up some cash.
Snowboy said:
SEE YA said:
You have to look at the bigger picture as hard as it is, I had to go home, and tell my wife and kids, that I have just been made redunant driving home to tell them that was not easy.
However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
I have a similar story, but the kid crossing the road was in good health.However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
So I ran him over.
I then realised my problems were nothing compared to his and cheered up.
Helpful comment not.SEE YA said:
Snowboy said:
SEE YA said:
You have to look at the bigger picture as hard as it is, I had to go home, and tell my wife and kids, that I have just been made redunant driving home to tell them that was not easy.
However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
I have a similar story, but the kid crossing the road was in good health.However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
So I ran him over.
I then realised my problems were nothing compared to his and cheered up.
Helpful comment not.shiftydave said:
Justayellowbadge said:
Right. I had to get up in the morning at ten o'clock at night, half an hour before I went to bed, eat a lump of cold poison, work twenty-nine hours a day down mill, and pay mill owner for permission to come to work, and when we got home, our Dad would kill us, and dance about on our graves singing "Hallelujah."
Hahaha, I was wondering how long a post like that would take.I came into a bit of money a few years back. Not miwwioins, but enough to take the panic off day to day stuff. The things i enjoy most really are free things though.
Funkycoldribena said:
SEE YA said:
Snowboy said:
SEE YA said:
You have to look at the bigger picture as hard as it is, I had to go home, and tell my wife and kids, that I have just been made redunant driving home to tell them that was not easy.
However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
I have a similar story, but the kid crossing the road was in good health.However on the way home, I stopped at a set of traffic lights to let people cross and saw a boy in a wheelchair I thought my problems are nothing to his everyday in his life.
It made me stop feeling sorry for myself, it was not my fault last one in first one out policy.
So I ran him over.
I then realised my problems were nothing compared to his and cheered up.
Helpful comment not. Its made me, take nothing for granted in life each day is a bonus for me.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff