Getting old
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TheHighlander

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1,667 posts

227 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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The past few years have flown by for myself and the misses.

I'm 28 now and getting married next year and I suppose a baby will follow at some point.

Where does time go?

Its literally been a blur as we bought a house ect and I changed job and booked our holiday its come round very fast.

Growing up has been fast and now I feel "old" at a young age haha.

Surely I'm not the only one.

Mr Roper

14,232 posts

223 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Wait till you have kids...then you will see time fly.

My eldest starts high school next year. It's still sinking in.

Steffan

10,362 posts

257 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Indeed not. I am 68 years old now and the grim reaper is definitely getting closer. Being a compulsive/ obsessive nutcase with a daft lifestyle to match and some five marriages gone by (I enjoyed every one!!) it is remarkable that I am still alive as my doctors regularly confirm to me and anyone else interested enough to ask. Probably more remarkable that none of the wives actually killed me although I suspect a few contemplated the process. Enjoy every minute of you life. Take and make every opportunity you can. This is not a dress rehearsal.

The Beaver King

6,095 posts

224 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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TheHighlander said:
The past few years have flown by for myself and the misses.

I'm 28 now and getting married next year and I suppose a baby will follow at some point.

Where does time go?

Its literally been a blur as we bought a house ect and I changed job and booked our holiday its come round very fast.

Growing up has been fast and now I feel "old" at a young age haha.

Surely I'm not the only one.
I'm 28 in a few months.

Occasionally I'll feel like I'm getting old; then I realise I still have at least another 30 years of working in me and I feel quite young again.

You though, you're fked. Marriage and shortly kids....

You are old.

LordGrover

34,158 posts

241 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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28, old? hehe

Not quite up there with Steffan but 28 is a distant memory... in many ways feels like it was only yesterday though.

Johnnytheboy

24,499 posts

215 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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I think Winston Churchill, in advanced age said something like "when you get to my age, you seem to eat breakfast every five minutes".

TheHighlander

Original Poster:

1,667 posts

227 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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The Beaver King said:
I'm 28 in a few months.

Occasionally I'll feel like I'm getting old; then I realise I still have at least another 30 years of working in me and I feel quite young again.

You though, you're fked. Marriage and shortly kids....

You are old.
haha I know. Been with my misses since I was 18.........

My MK2 RS makes me feel young when I drive it haha.

But life seems to be flying by. I remember school, college like it was yesterday and can remember how slow that time went.

Growing up happens so fast.

GadgeS3C

4,727 posts

193 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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TheHighlander said:


Growing up happens so fast.
You have to grow old, you don't have to grow up.

anonymous-user

83 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Steffan said:
and some five marriages gone by
hehe

Mr Trophy

6,811 posts

232 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Completely agree OP, 26 here and I feel old.

I remember wishing my life away when I was younger wanting to be older, so I could, drive etc.

I kind of wish now I enjoyed my youth abit more?

sjabrown

2,085 posts

189 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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I'm nearing 30 (10 weeks to go), and realising that life is starting to accelerate away.
Few changes this year - first is to be working less and living more.

Stedman

7,461 posts

221 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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My dad has started saying this recently. My parents live in France and he finds it absolutely amazing that between my best mate and me, he could be flown to England by one of us and then have his train driven by the other. We're 'only' 24, but I guess we're still 12 in his eyes!

vixen1700

28,993 posts

299 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Just got out of a dull four year relationship when I was 28, went partying for a year, had to go off to a kibbutz to sort my splintered brain out after a year and a crazy relationship.

Never felt old at 28. smile

I'll be 48 this year, nearly 50. frown


Zod

35,295 posts

287 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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My eldest was eight last weekend. A few weeks ago he asked me, "Daddy, why is it that, as I get older, life seems to go by quicker and quicker?"

Dr Jekyll

23,820 posts

290 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Mr Trophy said:
Completely agree OP, 26 here and I feel old.

I remember wishing my life away when I was younger wanting to be older, so I could, drive etc.

I kind of wish now I enjoyed my youth abit more?
But when you were a kid you basically wanted to be the age you are now, and you'll spend the rest of your life thinking 'if only I was still 26'.

Steffan

10,362 posts

257 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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GadgeS3C said:
TheHighlander said:


Growing up happens so fast.
You have to grow old, you don't have to grow up.
That is indeed a profound statement. I decided when I was 4 that getting more adult was a bad idea and I gave it up. Probably explains the many excesses there have been. I have enjoyed myself much more than I should or is good for me. Apparently. It has definitely worked for me but I suspect there are those who are less thgan impressed. C'est la vie: well it is in my life!

Shaw Tarse

31,887 posts

232 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Zod said:
My eldest was eight last weekend. A few weeks ago he asked me, "Daddy, why is it that, as I get older, life seems to go by quicker and quicker?"
Serious answer, it's to do with the %age of your life

Wrathalanche

696 posts

169 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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A couple of years ago I felt I was growing old beyond my time. I was 25 (which is a silly age to feel such things), settled down with my long term GF sharing a mortgage, had a decent job but together we were only just managing to get by so did little to no socialising. And this was also part due to a large chunk of my friends just outright refusing to grow up altogether. I was lazy, grumpy and unwilling to try new stuff.

Now, I'm also 28, and engaged. Our lives have totally turned around. Getting out of the more expensive fixed period at the start of the mortgage and the rest of our petty debts out the way was good - that means we have plenty more scratch to play with each month to go out to places and do stuff (although thats all going towards the wedding now to be fair - roll on November).

But the key thing was concentrating on building relationships with the friends we had that were in the same situation as us. So rather than waste time in the same dingy cheap pubs I had been going to since I was 18 - with the same large crowd of people desperately trying to cling onto their teens and constantly pleading poverty, drinking pint after pint of Tennents or Red Stripe - we now frequent some nicer, trendy places, where everyone still has all their own teeth and it feels like we are amongst our own, yuppie kind with married friends or committed couples we know. We still have just as much fun with our more settled friends, and if anything, get even sillier on nights out. Despite what that sounds like, I'm not talking about swinging.

You'll feel old if you are trying to hang on to a previous lifestyle that no longer suits you (I have no way of knowing if that is what you are doing).

Take a look at your life, look at the folk around you and see if they are at the same points in their lives as you are. Let the ones who aren't go to some extent, and bring the ones that are closer. I refute any suggestion that getting married means your life is over. Neither you or your fiancee should willingly be entering into that. Since I got engaged I feel like mine is just starting to kick off.

Zod

35,295 posts

287 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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Shaw Tarse said:
Zod said:
My eldest was eight last weekend. A few weeks ago he asked me, "Daddy, why is it that, as I get older, life seems to go by quicker and quicker?"
Serious answer, it's to do with the %age of your life
That's what I told him, after I thought better of saying "You've seen nothing yet, kid!"

Muzzer79

13,042 posts

216 months

Wednesday 30th April 2014
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I'm in my mid-30s and certainly don't feel old.

I have noticed however that time goes so much faster as you get older. Only seems like a few weeks ago it was Christmas or even summer last year and here we are now in May.

People's age seems to be different too. My Grandad died at 60 and looked, to my child eyes, like an old man; a pensioner.
My dad is now the same age and looks younger for his years to me; likewise my in-laws.

Maybe a sign of the different lifestyles in eras