Beating myself up!
Discussion
Today has been a bad time for me, this morning I was informed that a friend of mine has sadly took her own life 
. I spoke to her on Saturday and she told me she was feeling really low and couldn't see a future for herself. I tried to console her but thought it was just a cry for help as she has been up and down since her father took his life 5 years ago. I'm gutted that she's gone as she was one of the most selfless and kind hearted people I have ever known, a proper loss to every one that knew her and at such a young age too. I've been racked with guilt all day and feel like I could and should have done more to help her in her time of need when she was in such turmoil. I've even text her phone to apologise for not doing more ffs! I know she cant read it.
. I spoke to her on Saturday and she told me she was feeling really low and couldn't see a future for herself. I tried to console her but thought it was just a cry for help as she has been up and down since her father took his life 5 years ago. I'm gutted that she's gone as she was one of the most selfless and kind hearted people I have ever known, a proper loss to every one that knew her and at such a young age too. I've been racked with guilt all day and feel like I could and should have done more to help her in her time of need when she was in such turmoil. I've even text her phone to apologise for not doing more ffs! I know she cant read it.You can't and mustn't blame yourself - when people are serious about taking their own life, the decision is usually made quite a bit in advance. It's an awful thing to experience, and for those left behind it's simply devastating.
Be there for her family, but don't blame yourself. Speak to your Dr If you feel it's to much.
Sorry mate.
Be there for her family, but don't blame yourself. Speak to your Dr If you feel it's to much.
Sorry mate.
Waynester said:
You can't and mustn't blame yourself - when people are serious about taking their own life, the decision is usually made quite a bit in advance. It's an awful thing to experience, and for those left behind it's simply devastating.
Be there for her family, but don't blame yourself. Speak to your Dr If you feel it's to much.
Sorry mate.
Good post, that.Be there for her family, but don't blame yourself. Speak to your Dr If you feel it's to much.
Sorry mate.
Really sorry for the loss of your friend.
Edited by monthefish on Friday 7th August 09:15
Hindsight is a brutal tool for judgement - you spoke to her and if it had been clear this was the path she was taking, you'd have done something different - clearly.
This wasn't the case, she chose to do what she did, it's no reflection on you. My condolences on the loss of your friend. It hurts like hell to lose people you care for, it hurts no less when it's by their own hand. Stay strong.
This wasn't the case, she chose to do what she did, it's no reflection on you. My condolences on the loss of your friend. It hurts like hell to lose people you care for, it hurts no less when it's by their own hand. Stay strong.
NDA said:
Sorry to read that. Really sorry.
As above, try very hard not to blame yourself... she was clearly not at all well and you were not in a position to diagnose this and help.
Awful losing friends, even worse in this way.
Echo the above, a terrible situation. Thoughts are with you. As above, try very hard not to blame yourself... she was clearly not at all well and you were not in a position to diagnose this and help.
Awful losing friends, even worse in this way.
k, that is sGassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff