Men Greeting Men

[Itsallicanafford]

I'm a handshake and maybe a slap on the back sort of chap

Recently, through our children's school I've got friendly with another dad, he seams a really nice guy.

However, everytime we meet instead of a hand shake he sort of pulls you and bumps shoulders and clinches. Its a sort of man huddle or Greco-roman wrestling hold or something, difficult to describe really. The hold last about 2-3 seconds

What's going on? Advice on how to react would be appreciated.

[Rick101]

Squeeze his bum next time.

[spud989]

He's clearly continental and is seeing if you're comfortable with masculine intimacy. As he embraces you, briefly hold the back of his head with one hand and cup his sack for a second or two with the other.

Don't do it for longer than a couple of seconds, though, or else he'll misinterpret your intentions.

[Oldred_V8S]

Itsallicanafford said:

I'm a handshake and maybe a slap on the back sort of chap

Recently, through our children's school I've got friendly with another dad, he seams a really nice guy.

However, everytime we meet instead of a hand shake he sort of pulls you and bumps shoulders and clinches. Its a sort of man huddle or Greco-roman wrestling hold or something, difficult to describe really. The hold last about 2-3 seconds

What's going on? Advice on how to react would be appreciated.

Punch him in the fanny.

I hate all these modern type greetings. Next time stand with your arm firmly outstretched showing him that's all you want; if he goes for a clinch, shout Whoa! in a very loud voice.

I also hate the practice of not shaking hands in the normal manner. I am talking about the clinch resembling an arm wrestle with maybe a clenched fist to clenched fist bump. wkers!

[R8VXF]

I do this sort of greeting, but only with close mates I have known for years. Generally just a handshake will do.

[Pixel Pusher]

Next time he does it, whisper in his ear, 'I wanna lick you all over'.

[Timmy40]

Come on chaps this is the 21st C, I think we've moved on enough for man hugs to have replaced handshakes by now. Come on group hug.

[hacksaw]

spud989 said:

He's clearly continental and is seeing if you're comfortable with masculine intimacy. As he embraces you, briefly hold the back of his head with one hand and cup his sack for a second or two with the other.

Don't do it for longer than a couple of seconds, though, or else he'll misinterpret your intentions.

This is absolutely correct and confirms with all modern etiquette rules.

[daytona365]

He clearly fancies you. Heck, how much more of a hint do you need ?!

[soad]

The cheek kiss?

[Sheets Tabuer]

Next time he pulls you in give his earlobe a playful bite then whisper "there's no one home"

Tell us what happens.

[Burwood]

Itsallicanafford said:

I'm a handshake and maybe a slap on the back sort of chap

Recently, through our children's school I've got friendly with another dad, he seams a really nice guy.

However, everytime we meet instead of a hand shake he sort of pulls you and bumps shoulders and clinches. Its a sort of man huddle or Greco-roman wrestling hold or something, difficult to describe really. The hold last about 2-3 seconds

What's going on? Advice on how to react would be appreciated.

Oh God not that. Lived abroad for many years only to return on a trip and met up with two friends (both partners at large firms). Saw them doing that with people they met whilst out. I was like WTF! How very bro

[CoolHands]

<cringe>

[bigandclever]

I suggest you wet yourself, loudly, next time he goes for a grope; he won't know if you're an incontinent old duffer or a squirter. His next move will tell you all you need to know about where the relationship is going.

[Studio117]

CoolHands said:

<cringe>

[Itsallicanafford]

hacksaw said:

spud989 said:

He's clearly continental and is seeing if you're comfortable with masculine intimacy. As he embraces you, briefly hold the back of his head with one hand and cup his sack for a second or two with the other.

Don't do it for longer than a couple of seconds, though, or else he'll misinterpret your intentions.

This is absolutely correct and confirms with all modern etiquette rules.

I'm most inclined to try this approach, however, durations appear to be crucial: -

Cup him too briefly and he could be offended (he is bigger than me)

Cup him too long and he could start lubeing up?

[steelbreeze]

On a similar note, how does one greet the ladies nowadays? I know someone who hugs all of them, young and old, often with cheek kisses too. He gets away with it and is very popular but I err on the side of caution though in case anyone gets the wrong idea. Am I being too prudish?

[No Bend]

Oldred_V8S said:

Itsallicanafford said:

I'm a handshake and maybe a slap on the back sort of chap

Recently, through our children's school I've got friendly with another dad, he seams a really nice guy.

However, everytime we meet instead of a hand shake he sort of pulls you and bumps shoulders and clinches. Its a sort of man huddle or Greco-roman wrestling hold or something, difficult to describe really. The hold last about 2-3 seconds

What's going on? Advice on how to react would be appreciated.

Punch him in the fanny.

Just what sort of bloke is he??

[Timmy40]

steelbreeze said:

On a similar note, how does one greet the ladies nowadays? I know someone who hugs all of them, young and old, often with cheek kisses too. He gets away with it and is very popular but I err on the side of caution though in case anyone gets the wrong idea. Am I being too prudish?

Always one for a hug myself, and the old peck on the cheek. The etiquette is to sort of lean into the hug so as not to press your chest against there cleavage or your nadgers against there crotch.

[Burwood]

Timmy40 said:

steelbreeze said:

On a similar note, how does one greet the ladies nowadays? I know someone who hugs all of them, young and old, often with cheek kisses too. He gets away with it and is very popular but I err on the side of caution though in case anyone gets the wrong idea. Am I being too prudish?

Always one for a hug myself, and the old peck on the cheek. The etiquette is to sort of lean into the hug so as not to press your chest against there cleavage or your nadgers against there crotch.

Can't be helped when the 'friend' has an obnoxiously large chest. The sort that can leave an impression from any angle.