Birthday Present ideas

[Rich_W]

Firstly. NO PICS!

I have a friend whose about to hit 30. (I'm older by a few years) She's lovely and all and we did go out on a date years ago. But it never got as far as I would have liked But we've remained casual friends. Chatting once or twice a month. Sometimes more frequently. Sometimes not for a few months. Mainly Facebook or Instagram type stuff. I haven't actually seen her face to face for a long while. Although we live about 2 miles apart, we work in different industries in different places. So meeting up after work is hard going. I joked with her a few months ago about what was a traditional present for a 30 y/o sharp, modern independent girl. She suggested "something Alcoholic"

My motivation for buying for her is to be nice. I'm fairly sure I'm in the Friendzone. So it's not got to be romantic really. But wouldn't stop her if she felt amorous, and AFAIK she's currently not seeing anyone.

Now I thought about buying a bottle of various wines, spirits or champagne. I even considered perfume. Discounted that because as someone pointed out "You're paying for her to get attention from OTHER guys" and also perfume is quite personal whether she'll like it or not. Someone suggested a DVD and a night round hers but that's a bit low rent. (and obviosuly it just reeks of I want to shag you after the credits)

Someone else considered one of those Cocktail tasting events. Obviously it would be for 2 So it could be fun. That's currently leading.

I'm London based. But don't really want to spend more than £60 but may stretch to £100 if it's an absolute showstopper. So over to you guys for alternative suggestions / Experiences of the above.

[Jonboy_t]

Wine tasting experience for 2 people off of Red Letter Days or summat. Its boozy, yet more grown up than just a bottle of something. Plus, you don't have to stipulate who she takes so she may offer the second place to you. All very grown up and mature, like

Then, when she's hammered, you get to have drunk sex with her. Like you want to

[SeeFive]

It will be top of the budget and you may need to do something else afterwards too, but it is booze plus sights...

https://secure.londoneye.com/webapp/wcs/stores/ser...

Could take her up the oxo tower (or shard) afterwards, it is just a little downstream and quite a nice walk along the embankment to get there if the weather is ok.

[anonymous-user]

100% Friendzoned (Meaning this as nicely as I can, don't go in with any expectations that anything else will happen, you'll just be disappointed if it doesn't.)

Wine or whiskey tasting, followed by a gig/comedy night somewhere? Or skip the tasting - in my experience, it's not the tasting that gets you drunk but the meal and 3 bottles in their restaurant afterwards...Do something that YOU would like to do as well, that way, if drunken sex doesn't occur then at least you've had an evening to remember.

Or something a bit more out there - www.moocanoes.co.uk will take you out kayaking on a private but guided paddle on the Thames and will take you to riverside pubs for a bite to eat? Would be memorable, if she's in to something a bit more outdoorsy? (Just as a suggestion, may spark a brainwave for you or someone else)

Good luck!

[vladcjelli]

Rubbish. Friend zone, shmendzone. I reckon you're still in with a chance.
After all, you asked her:

Rich_W said:

I joked with her a few months ago about what was a traditional present for a 30 y/o sharp, modern independent girl. She suggested "something Alcoholic"

See, she's into you.

[dingg]

Rohypnol

its the only way you're going to shag her

[jdw100]

SeeFive said:

It will be top of the budget and you may need to do something else afterwards too, but it is booze plus sights...

https://secure.londoneye.com/webapp/wcs/stores/ser...

Could take her up the oxo tower (or shard) afterwards, it is just a little downstream and quite a nice walk along the embankment to get there if the weather is ok.

Nope, take her to the bar at the Mondrian at Sea Containers house....much better for a date!

[Oldandslow]

If the object of this is to shag your "friend" you need to change the current playing field. You're on the hook as an available drone.

Get her a card. Take the remaining £58.50. Go out. Get drunk. Get jiggy with a nice random. Let your "friend" find out, subtly, women are supposed to be good at picking up on those things. This will change her perception of you, you are suddenly not so available and have options. This will either blow up in your face and she'll cut you off or she'll be on you like white on rice.

Either way you'll get out of this limbo and shag a nice random.

[anonymous-user]

OldandSlow knows.

[Oldandslow]

I'm no pick up artist and I don't play games but nothing makes you more attractive to a woman than the thought that another woman might want you.

[steveo3002]

i reckon its money wasted , maybe a card and a cheeky are you taking me out for a drink suggestion but i would spend ££ on it

better off spending the coin chasing a fresh bird or rental

[sunnygym]

Oldandslow said:

If the object of this is to shag your "friend" you need to change the current playing field. You're on the hook as an available drone.

Get her a card. Take the remaining £58.50. Go out. Get drunk. Get jiggy with a nice random. Let your "friend" find out, subtly, women are supposed to be good at picking up on those things. This will change her perception of you, you are suddenly not so available and have options. This will either blow up in your face and she'll cut you off or she'll be on you like white on rice.

Either way you'll get out of this limbo and shag a nice random.

This is bang on the money !

[sunnygym]

Oldandslow said:

If the object of this is to shag your "friend" you need to change the current playing field. You're on the hook as an available drone.

Get her a card. Take the remaining £58.50. Go out. Get drunk. Get jiggy with a nice random. Let your "friend" find out, subtly, women are supposed to be good at picking up on those things. This will change her perception of you, you are suddenly not so available and have options. This will either blow up in your face and she'll cut you off or she'll be on you like white on rice.

Either way you'll get out of this limbo and shag a nice random.

This is bang on the money !

[Hoofy]

http://amzn.to/1iaipr4

[condor]

I'll suggest a bottle of champagne and a bunch of flowers

[soad]

condor said:

I'll suggest a bottle of champagne and a bunch of flowers

Chocolates too.

[roboxm3]

I don't want to sound like a right miserable tw*t or piss on your chips in any way, so please feel free to completely ignore the following if you think I'm off the mark but, from how I've interpreted the OP...

You went on a date ages ago and nothing further happened / came of it, you live 5 minutes from eachother but never manage to meet up and you only chat on Facebook or Instagram every now and again...the pessimist in me says you're not really friends, you'd like to be (and possibly more but the chances are slim) and your level of current / likely future interaction certainly doesn't warrant any expenditure on your part. If you absolutely must, just write 'Happy Birthday X" on her wall or something.

As I said, I may be wrong and I'm a bit of a miserable sod but it might just save you £100 and some effort.

[8Ace]

roboxm3 said:

I don't want to sound like a right miserable tw*t or piss on your chips in any way, so please feel free to completely ignore the following if you think I'm off the mark but, from how I've interpreted the OP...

You went on a date ages ago and nothing further happened / came of it, you live 5 minutes from eachother but never manage to meet up and you only chat on Facebook or Instagram every now and again...the pessimist in me says you're not really friends, you'd like to be (and possibly more but the chances are slim) and your level of current / likely future interaction certainly doesn't warrant any expenditure on your part. If you absolutely must, just write 'Happy Birthday X" on her wall or something.

As I said, I may be wrong and I'm a bit of a miserable sod but it might just save you £100 and some effort.

What he said.

If you saw a male friend as frequently, would you be as generous? I doubt it.

[Simon Brooks]

http://vinopolis.co.uk/

[Crusoe]

Card + hand written voucher for a night on the town with the drinks on you (expiry date for the end of the month). If she uses it she is interested in at least being friends, from there it's up to you.