Family finances - brother in law can't manage his money
Discussion
Short version.
- Mother in law wrote off her car last weekend
- She had been good to me and is my only surviving parent. Helped no end emotionally. Really been there for me.
- She is not well off and still works her fingers to the bone. Despite having a fully functioning and able bodied 27 year old sponging of her. I'm talking about her son here.
- always overdrawn to f
k. Screams poverty but can go on holidays galore (he is on one right now), wears designer gear, goes without nothing.
- he is a manager for two mechanical garages and earns around 15k apparently.
Anyway, me and the wife are doing OK, blah blah. I decided fuk it I'm gonna buy her a car outright. So I went out and paid cash for a 2013 Audi A4 Sline.
Presented it with a bow and all that. Old dear cried and was happy. She loved it and it made my day.
Before her cock of a son fd off on holiday he promised me he would pay her tax and he had apparently bought a private plate for her.
So I found out today the made his mom pay up for the tax before he jetted off and having rang the DVLA I found out the dick had not bought the plate.
So there are two things fking wrong here.
1. He lied to me and my wife
2. His mother once again is paying up.
To say I want a face to face when he lands back on UK soil is an understatement.
We are going on holiday with the old dear next week for two weeks. He arrives back from his own holiday and would have been left alone with the motor.
The keys are gonna go to his grandad. He can be fd If he thinks he is driving her car while she ain't there.
I am early thirties. Are all 27 year old like this? He needs to be kicked out of home and quit sponging.
Always asking her for money but smokes a 20 pack a day. Goes on about M6 and RS6 this and that but fg can't even afford to pay 170 quid for road tax.
spoilt . My wife is spitting blood and to say she is sick of this tt leeching of his mother is an understatement.
Do not circumnavigate the swear filter it's there for a reason.
- Mother in law wrote off her car last weekend
- She had been good to me and is my only surviving parent. Helped no end emotionally. Really been there for me.
- She is not well off and still works her fingers to the bone. Despite having a fully functioning and able bodied 27 year old sponging of her. I'm talking about her son here.
- always overdrawn to f
k. Screams poverty but can go on holidays galore (he is on one right now), wears designer gear, goes without nothing. - he is a manager for two mechanical garages and earns around 15k apparently.
Anyway, me and the wife are doing OK, blah blah. I decided fuk it I'm gonna buy her a car outright. So I went out and paid cash for a 2013 Audi A4 Sline.
Presented it with a bow and all that. Old dear cried and was happy. She loved it and it made my day.
Before her cock of a son f
d off on holiday he promised me he would pay her tax and he had apparently bought a private plate for her. So I found out today the
made his mom pay up for the tax before he jetted off and having rang the DVLA I found out the dick had not bought the plate. So there are two things f
king wrong here. 1. He lied to me and my wife
2. His mother once again is paying up.
To say I want a
face to face when he lands back on UK soil is an understatement. We are going on holiday with the old dear next week for two weeks. He arrives back from his own holiday and would have been left alone with the motor.
The keys are gonna go to his grandad. He can be f
d If he thinks he is driving her car while she ain't there. I am early thirties. Are all 27 year old like this? He needs to be kicked out of home and quit sponging.
Always asking her for money but smokes a 20 pack a day. Goes on about
M6 and RS6 this and that but fg can't even afford to pay 170 quid for road tax. spoilt . My wife is spitting blood and to say she is sick of this tt leeching of his mother is an understatement. Edited by HannsG on Friday 18th September 22:59
Do not circumnavigate the swear filter it's there for a reason.
Edited by Big Al. on Saturday 19th September 18:04
Why on earth are you so closely involved with your wife's family?
I'm shocked that you know how much folks earn. What's that to you?
I'd have retained ownership of the car and let her use it on a long term loan basis. Not ideal but that way you'd have reason to stop matey using the car because it is yours.
Sadly this is all down to the 'old dear' as you call her. It's her money, her son and her decision to indulge him. She is the cause and perpetuator of this. He's just a useless sounding twunt. A little mummy's boy. This situation will not change. He will be a lost little man when she dies. Although he has a responsibility he's clearly been treated like 'Mummy's little prince' all his life. It is for him a way of life.
His lifestyle though he sounds appalling, is not your concern. If it emerges he is doing something illegal - scamming her, stealing, coercion type stuff then step in by gathering evidence and informing the authorities.
Just keep your distance. No need to be this closely involved with your wife's family. A couple of Sunday lunches a year and Christmas is about right.
It all comes across as a bit council to me mate.
I'm shocked that you know how much folks earn. What's that to you?
I'd have retained ownership of the car and let her use it on a long term loan basis. Not ideal but that way you'd have reason to stop matey using the car because it is yours.
Sadly this is all down to the 'old dear' as you call her. It's her money, her son and her decision to indulge him. She is the cause and perpetuator of this. He's just a useless sounding twunt. A little mummy's boy. This situation will not change. He will be a lost little man when she dies. Although he has a responsibility he's clearly been treated like 'Mummy's little prince' all his life. It is for him a way of life.
His lifestyle though he sounds appalling, is not your concern. If it emerges he is doing something illegal - scamming her, stealing, coercion type stuff then step in by gathering evidence and informing the authorities.
Just keep your distance. No need to be this closely involved with your wife's family. A couple of Sunday lunches a year and Christmas is about right.
It all comes across as a bit council to me mate.
Edited by wildcat45 on Saturday 19th September 09:37
wildcat45 said:
Why on earth are you so closely involved with your wife's family?
I'm shocked that you know how much folks earn. What's that to you?
I'd have retained ownership of the car and let her use it on a long term loan basis. Not ideal but that way you'd have reason to stop matey using the car because it is yours.
Sadly this is all down to the 'old dear' as you call her. It's her money, her son and her decision to indulge him. She is the cause and perpetuator of this. He's just a useless sounding twunt. A little mummy's boy. This situation will not change. He will be a lost little man when she dies. Although he has a responsibility he's clearly been treated like 'Mummy's little prince' all his life. It is for him a way of life.
His lifestyle though he sounds appalling, is not your concern. If it emerges he is doing something illegal - scamming her, stealing, coercion type stuff then step in by gathering evidence and informing the authorities.
Just keep your distance. No need to be this closely involved with your wife's family. A couple of Sunday lunches a year and Christmas is about right.
It all comes across as a bit council to me mate.
I think you're guilty of spending far too much time on this. I'm shocked that you know how much folks earn. What's that to you?
I'd have retained ownership of the car and let her use it on a long term loan basis. Not ideal but that way you'd have reason to stop matey using the car because it is yours.
Sadly this is all down to the 'old dear' as you call her. It's her money, her son and her decision to indulge him. She is the cause and perpetuator of this. He's just a useless sounding twunt. A little mummy's boy. This situation will not change. He will be a lost little man when she dies. Although he has a responsibility he's clearly been treated like 'Mummy's little prince' all his life. It is for him a way of life.
His lifestyle though he sounds appalling, is not your concern. If it emerges he is doing something illegal - scamming her, stealing, coercion type stuff then step in by gathering evidence and informing the authorities.
Just keep your distance. No need to be this closely involved with your wife's family. A couple of Sunday lunches a year and Christmas is about right.
It all comes across as a bit council to me mate.
Edited by wildcat45 on Saturday 19th September 09:37
She's skint yet they bought her a private plate was quite amusing though....
Don't rant online after beer applies here, go on son, let your true personality shine through.
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