Is 28 too young to be married or have kids?
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Someone asked me if I was married or had children, I instinctively said no I'm too young, and when I said I was 28 they looked at my incredulously.
Now obviously there are many people my age who are married or have kids but that to me that seems like a step into adult hood and I'd rather bask in my imaginary adolescence.
Admittedly I've had more than one girlfriend who broke up with me because there was no prospect of marriage, which is fine by me as I don't chase women I replace them.
Anyway, anyone else?
Now obviously there are many people my age who are married or have kids but that to me that seems like a step into adult hood and I'd rather bask in my imaginary adolescence.
Admittedly I've had more than one girlfriend who broke up with me because there was no prospect of marriage, which is fine by me as I don't chase women I replace them.
Anyway, anyone else?
Edited by Ollie123 on Monday 26th October 20:47
I'm the same age as you and can't say I've been given evils because I'm not married. Hell, I'm still at home with my mum, though not for much longer. My last relationship ended for the same reason, that I didn't want marriage. But then, maybe it was because I actually didn't want to be with her.
People get married when they're ready. Two good friends of mine got married 3 years ago at 25, having been together since they were 15, and my best mate is getting married next year, he'll be 29 by then. He'd been with his other half 6 months before moving in together, and they got engaged after a year, but I know they're right for each other.
My other friends who are in long term relationships have no desire for marriage, neither do their respective partners. Getting their own homes is a priority for them all.
EDIT: Funny that this should be the first thing I see on Facebook after posting here:
People get married when they're ready. Two good friends of mine got married 3 years ago at 25, having been together since they were 15, and my best mate is getting married next year, he'll be 29 by then. He'd been with his other half 6 months before moving in together, and they got engaged after a year, but I know they're right for each other.
My other friends who are in long term relationships have no desire for marriage, neither do their respective partners. Getting their own homes is a priority for them all.
EDIT: Funny that this should be the first thing I see on Facebook after posting here:
Edited by Ste1987 on Monday 26th October 20:48
Sheepshanks said:
Around 30 seems OK to have kids - any later and you're going to be in no fit state to childmind their kids as you'll be in your 60's. 
There was a bit of stuff in the press recently about women's fertility dropping off dramatically over 25. So you best marry someone a bit younger.
I was thinking enjoy myself till mid 30's then trophy wife it?There was a bit of stuff in the press recently about women's fertility dropping off dramatically over 25. So you best marry someone a bit younger.
Op I was kind of like you. Messed around, serial monogamist since uni moving from one to the next. Married at 34, first kid 38, just having second at 41.
On the one hand very pleased I did a lot of living before settling down, on the other can't help feeling I wish I'd started on the kids bit sooner, at least 5 years sooner.
Got no probs keeping up with them but they're so much fun I wish I'd done it sooner.
On the one hand very pleased I did a lot of living before settling down, on the other can't help feeling I wish I'd started on the kids bit sooner, at least 5 years sooner.
Got no probs keeping up with them but they're so much fun I wish I'd done it sooner.
Married at 27 and first child at 30, second at 33.
Looking back, even though the early years are hard, I would say i got the timing spot on.
Much earlier and I would have missed out on precious 'young' years and too much later and i think the early years would have been even harder.
Plus it means that they should be young adults when I am around 50, so plenty of time to enjoy myself afterwards!
Looking back, even though the early years are hard, I would say i got the timing spot on.
Much earlier and I would have missed out on precious 'young' years and too much later and i think the early years would have been even harder.
Plus it means that they should be young adults when I am around 50, so plenty of time to enjoy myself afterwards!
ks to anyone who tells you otherwise. I was married at 30, and 36 when my first child was born.
Whilst sometimes I feel too old to be running around after my kids, it does mean that my wife and I have managed to do a lot of things that we would not have been able to have done if we'd had children sooner, and we're in a much more secure position financially than our friends who settled down sooner.
Don't leave it too late to have the children though....
Whilst sometimes I feel too old to be running around after my kids, it does mean that my wife and I have managed to do a lot of things that we would not have been able to have done if we'd had children sooner, and we're in a much more secure position financially than our friends who settled down sooner.
Don't leave it too late to have the children though....
HairyMaclary said:
Married a week after my 23rd birthday. Kids at 30 and 33. Was planned not to have kids until 30. We were lucky it only took a couple of goes.
Snip for my 34th birthday!
Somewhat similar. Met Mrs Champers when 25, her 20. Got married after over five years together, first child after eight, second four years after that. Been together 25 years, the girls are nearly 17 and 13. I am sure the time together before we had children made sure the bonds were strong enough to withstand the strains the impact children have on a relationship; it can be bloody tough; ours were hard work for both of us, especially the upheaval caused by the first. Happy with all of it though Snip for my 34th birthday!
I accept the children bit isn't for everyone, but for my part, I'm happy to be a Dad 
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