Do you hold grudges?

[Ollie123]

I’m not sure if I hold grudges or if it’s just because I’m fussy with who I associate with but once I’ve decided I don’t like someone then there is zero chance of ever being friends (again).

What’s more is I don’t even have to put any effort it, I do it subconsciously without even thinking about it. I’m never rude or unpleasant because that’s classless but I will never make any effort with said person.

While I try my best to keep a really useful attitude throughout life the forgive and forget doctrine does not come into it. There are millions of awesome humans out there you've yet to meet, why would you want to be friends with someone who tried/did fk you over?

I won’t bore you with anecdotes but I am interested in my fellow PH’ers thoughts.

[groucho]

Not as much as I used to. It would depend on the nature of the grudge.

[HTP99]

If someone massively pisses me off, I mean properly pisses me off or fks with me or my family then I will just drop them; are you listening step mum and step brother?!!

Is that holding a grudge; or is it just moving on and cleansing ones life of people that have wronged you?

[GT03ROB]

Nope, total waste of emotional energy.

[Mobile Chicane]

GT03ROB said:

Nope, total waste of emotional energy.

Indeed.

Holding onto hatred is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

[Impasse]

...or like giving them a bear hug as you step off the bridge.

[bloomen]

Dunno what the definition of grudge is but it might imply you still see said person.

If people take the blatant piss then it's good night for all eternity. As the years go by I've developed a lower and lower tolerance for any type of errant behaviour. One strike and you're out.

[jas xjr]

To my understanding ,bearing a grudge just means having nothing to do with the person that has pissed me off. I have not spoken to one of my siblings for around three years.

[kwaka jack]

No, to much effort. Just forget about them and move on.

[mybrainhurts]

Yes. When I take over, there will be walls and rifles and blindfolds.

Hell, I might even withhold the blindfolds...

[Ollie123]

Mobile Chicane said:

GT03ROB said:

Nope, total waste of emotional energy.

Indeed.

Holding onto hatred is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Thats the thing, I don't invest any energy in doing it. It's just like a switch is flipped in my brain.

Hate is for losers anyway.

[mondeoman]

There are people I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire.

Is that bearing a grudge?

[Monkeylegend]

No, not even with the guy my ex wife went off with.

What's the point, get on with your life, don't worry about theirs.

[MrFappyFappy]

Generally I dislike most people, so yes I develop and maintain grudges naturally.

[vinnie01]

Its just easier for me to walk away. I live pretty transiently anyway, or at least feel like I do so walking way from someone who has wronged me is really easy. A grudge will always make you feel like there is a score to settle.

[ApOrbital]

Yes loads but only the very nasty ones.

[Tribal Chestnut]

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I love it when folks get all 'big-business' in their personal life.

WTF goes through their head, particularly when trying to be assertive?? It's as bad as 'don't you know who I am' type bks.

[Ilovejapcrap]

Yep have people who have been dicks to me and now I try to avoid.

Plays on my ins sometimes, that's my only gripe.

But why spend your life being st on. fk em

[Steve H]

There are a few 100% amazing people out there and a few 100% utter tts, fortunately I very rarely seem to come across the latter but I can think of a couple to whom this definitely applies -

mondeoman said:

There are people I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire.

[anonymous-user]

I don't hold grudges but I am very selective in the company I keep.