Working at the same place as your wife.....
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Or husband...
I know a lot of couples work together because they met at work, but what is it like going to work at a place where your other half already works?
A role has come up at my wife's place. It is something that I have never done before but as I am studying part time in a related field and self-employed, it might be right for me as it isn't a full time position.
The thing is, my wife works there. Her and her boss thought it might be a good idea for me to apply though they know it isn't the sort of thing I have done before. They are looking to add some outside experience from other walks of life into the staff which tends to be a promote from within, work up from the bottom type organisation.
It is an education establishment. I would not have a teaching role.
There is no guarantee I will get the job, and I have applied because it does sound like just the sort of different challenge I am up for.
I will however be working in the same organisation as my wife. She and I would not have regular direct professional contact though there would be times when I may have to work with her, have meetings with her. If I got the role, my office would be round the corner from my wife's office and the teaching department that she runs. I naturally know all her staff, and quite a few of the other teaching and non-teaching staff from social events.
Although not working directly, she would be senior to me.
So, does anyone care to share experiences of working with your spouse. Good and bad?
Travel costs would be a saving, not that its a big deal now. I anticipate problems with internal politics and stuff like that. Plus, I guess we are going to have to draw a line between home and work - i.e. not talking work all the time.
As I say, it is an interesting role and one which could be fun, something I have no experience in, so there is a good chance that an ideal candidate will come along who will fit the bill better than me.
I know a lot of couples work together because they met at work, but what is it like going to work at a place where your other half already works?
A role has come up at my wife's place. It is something that I have never done before but as I am studying part time in a related field and self-employed, it might be right for me as it isn't a full time position.
The thing is, my wife works there. Her and her boss thought it might be a good idea for me to apply though they know it isn't the sort of thing I have done before. They are looking to add some outside experience from other walks of life into the staff which tends to be a promote from within, work up from the bottom type organisation.
It is an education establishment. I would not have a teaching role.
There is no guarantee I will get the job, and I have applied because it does sound like just the sort of different challenge I am up for.
I will however be working in the same organisation as my wife. She and I would not have regular direct professional contact though there would be times when I may have to work with her, have meetings with her. If I got the role, my office would be round the corner from my wife's office and the teaching department that she runs. I naturally know all her staff, and quite a few of the other teaching and non-teaching staff from social events.
Although not working directly, she would be senior to me.
So, does anyone care to share experiences of working with your spouse. Good and bad?
Travel costs would be a saving, not that its a big deal now. I anticipate problems with internal politics and stuff like that. Plus, I guess we are going to have to draw a line between home and work - i.e. not talking work all the time.
As I say, it is an interesting role and one which could be fun, something I have no experience in, so there is a good chance that an ideal candidate will come along who will fit the bill better than me.
My wife got offered a job as a consultant, working with a team within a company I am a director of.
I think the bloke who offered her the work thought it would curry favour with me, which it definitely didn't.
I didn't have any day to day contact, but she did work late one night and I got a shag in my office.
It was great. I'd recommend it - loads of broom cupboards in "educational establishments" from what I recall.
I think the bloke who offered her the work thought it would curry favour with me, which it definitely didn't.
I didn't have any day to day contact, but she did work late one night and I got a shag in my office.
It was great. I'd recommend it - loads of broom cupboards in "educational establishments" from what I recall.
HarryFlatters said:
My desk is about 50 feet away from my wife's, however we're in different teams.
We don't have lunch together, nor really have much contact during the day. It might sound weird, but it works for us.
I work with a guy who's desk is about 50 feet from his e-wife. Funny enough they don't communicate much during the day either. We don't have lunch together, nor really have much contact during the day. It might sound weird, but it works for us.
We've worked together at 2 different companies. In both instances I started first, he joined later.
1st one was a huge multinational, we were in the same office although on different sides of the building. My OH is very loud. I could hear him wherever he was.
Current company is a small software house, but he's on a different site most of the time and only in 'my' office 1-2 days a week.
Our jobs have nothing to do with one another so there's no issue on that side. The only difficulty comes sometimes when one of you is privy to information that you'd be desperate to share with your other half, were they not employed at the same company. We have a rule that conversations at home are off limits at work, if you see what I mean. We do discuss work, it's natural to want to air frustrations and gossip but I think we've had enough practice now that we know the deal. There are, however, some topics and information that just never get shared, it's not worth it.
It does take some getting used to. The days he's in my office can be longer than normal for me if I have to wait for him to finish meetings etc, but the flip side is that we're saving a little bit on fuel.
As I started first at both places I always worried that colleagues will think he was just brought in because of me but if he was no good at his job then he'd have been found out pretty quickly - he stands on his own merits.
I think fundamentally it boils down to whether you will actually have to work TOGETHER, or as manager and employee. We couldn't do it.
1st one was a huge multinational, we were in the same office although on different sides of the building. My OH is very loud. I could hear him wherever he was.
Current company is a small software house, but he's on a different site most of the time and only in 'my' office 1-2 days a week.
Our jobs have nothing to do with one another so there's no issue on that side. The only difficulty comes sometimes when one of you is privy to information that you'd be desperate to share with your other half, were they not employed at the same company. We have a rule that conversations at home are off limits at work, if you see what I mean. We do discuss work, it's natural to want to air frustrations and gossip but I think we've had enough practice now that we know the deal. There are, however, some topics and information that just never get shared, it's not worth it.
It does take some getting used to. The days he's in my office can be longer than normal for me if I have to wait for him to finish meetings etc, but the flip side is that we're saving a little bit on fuel.
As I started first at both places I always worried that colleagues will think he was just brought in because of me but if he was no good at his job then he'd have been found out pretty quickly - he stands on his own merits.
I think fundamentally it boils down to whether you will actually have to work TOGETHER, or as manager and employee. We couldn't do it.
I sit about 30 feet away from my wife, same floor, same office, same business.
We do however work in completely different fields (and actually through different agencies) and never see each other at work unless we arrange to.
We have an hour commute each way together but this means we can just chat about all the boring bills/plans stuff and when we get home we can just chill/enjoy.
Works for us
We do however work in completely different fields (and actually through different agencies) and never see each other at work unless we arrange to.
We have an hour commute each way together but this means we can just chat about all the boring bills/plans stuff and when we get home we can just chill/enjoy.
Works for us
I worked at the same place as my wife for about 3 years, it was fine. Sharing the commute was great as it saved us a bit of cash and luckily we both have the same taste in music!
We rarely spoke to each other at work and hardly ever had lunch together and I think that's probably the key, it still felt 'fresh' seeing each other after work even though we'd been in the same building for 8 hours if you see what I mean.
In the end I left as I hated the place but she loved it and she got fed up of me moaning about it and I got fed of her defending it!
We rarely spoke to each other at work and hardly ever had lunch together and I think that's probably the key, it still felt 'fresh' seeing each other after work even though we'd been in the same building for 8 hours if you see what I mean.
In the end I left as I hated the place but she loved it and she got fed up of me moaning about it and I got fed of her defending it!
My wife works with most of her family, mother, father, brother, nieces and nephews. I do often get asked why I don't work there too, but from the stories I hear from MrsTheWife, I think I'll stop where I am! I very much doubt I'd be able to work with the missus, even without the whole family too!
No couldn't do it.
My next door neighbour once came to me for advice, his wife (a lazy malingering cow) had applied for a position at my place. Unbeknown to either of us, as my clerical assistant.
I had a word with HR (actually they quite liked her application) so made my position quite clear. At the time I wasn't a very easy person to work with, a right s
t actually. It would have made relations next door very awkward.
My next door neighbour once came to me for advice, his wife (a lazy malingering cow) had applied for a position at my place. Unbeknown to either of us, as my clerical assistant.
I had a word with HR (actually they quite liked her application) so made my position quite clear. At the time I wasn't a very easy person to work with, a right s
t actually. It would have made relations next door very awkward. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff