Attending a meet up (meetup.com).
Discussion
MrFappyFappy said:
I've got a feeling I should become more sociable and get a girlfriend (30 yr old billy no mates) but I've not really got many options. I wondered if anyone had attended a meet up group and wondered what you thought of it?
Quite a few. You'll have to try them. You could go for a general social one or something related to a sport you play or fancy playing.BTW have made some great friends from it.
Edited by Hoofy on Thursday 7th January 23:02
A few years ago went to a photography meet listed on there. 4 of the individuals are now some of my closest friends. I've moved away now but still we meet up weekly if we can and its changed from photography to Motorsport and photography!
So yes go for it! Even if you don't find a Mrs you may just find some likeminded people that you enjoy spending time with.
So yes go for it! Even if you don't find a Mrs you may just find some likeminded people that you enjoy spending time with.
CC07 PEU said:
I attend Meetups in London all the time. It can be a good source of leads if you're looking to get a girlfriend. It's a form of snake seduction though i.e. indirect so is ok if you don't mind playing the long game.
I knew I recognised that posting style, get back in the match thread and cause some more hilarity 
I joined meetup when in London and generally had a great time- made some good friends, improved my photography, kept fit, etc. Never met my girlfriend though there, but some friends have. I think it's also a good way to try out a new hobby with less commitment than joining a proper club. Plenty of crap groups out there too, mind, but you don't have to join them all.
Got chatting to a rather attractive South American lass in a pub who was setting up for a reading club she was running.
Immediately discovered an overpowering interest in literature and turned up to the next meetup. Needless to say I also discovered she had a boyfriend too.
Her fella was nice bloke to be fair. Rest of them were a mixed bag, some weirdos and some interesting people you woulnd't usually get to meet.
Ended up going for a few months, read some interesting books and had some good drunken arguments about them.
What groups are you interested in OP?
Immediately discovered an overpowering interest in literature and turned up to the next meetup. Needless to say I also discovered she had a boyfriend too.
Her fella was nice bloke to be fair. Rest of them were a mixed bag, some weirdos and some interesting people you woulnd't usually get to meet.
Ended up going for a few months, read some interesting books and had some good drunken arguments about them.
What groups are you interested in OP?
eltax91 said:
Hoofy said:
eltax91 said:
Friend of my wife did one. Met her now husband through it. They have a baby together now too
Go for it, nothing to lose
Christ, don't scare off the OPer before he's even attended his first meetup.Go for it, nothing to lose
Edited by Hoofy on Saturday 9th January 11:25
I'm a big advocate of using such meet-ups to broaden your horizons, meet like-minded people, and the opportunity to meet in a less pressurised setting than online dating.
That said, unless you join a dating group, it is better to have a modicum of interest in the meet-up topic.
Used to regularly go and co-host a Chinese meet-up, and am a very infrequent member of London on Board.
Met my now fiancee via Gumtree (language exchange).
That said, unless you join a dating group, it is better to have a modicum of interest in the meet-up topic.
Used to regularly go and co-host a Chinese meet-up, and am a very infrequent member of London on Board.
Met my now fiancee via Gumtree (language exchange).
I have been in Meetup for 5 years now. Started my own group locally in 2011, handed it over after 3 years as I had grown tired of the pettiness of a number of individuals.
The groups which are just “go out and socialise”, are usually 60% women, and 70% not unheard of. A number of the women have an issue with the men shortage…. A number of groups do seem to specialise in overweight late 40’s divorcees with “baggage”.
Go with the “nothing to lose” approach.
Don’t judge that particular group on your first Meetup, go to more, if you don’t like them after 4 - then leave it. Give it a few chances for you to settle in. It’s easy enough to join another, or start your own – it costs about £125 p.a.
Make sure you have some reasonable conversation matter.
The groups aren’t wall to wall Playboy playmates, but then I’m not Brad Pitt either.
Some of the groups are INCREDIBLY cliquey, and new people really aren’t made welcome at all. There’s one near me that has got a terrible reputation for it. I’m sorry to say, it seems to be a female issue.
I’ve met someone who really is something else via a Meetup group, so fingers crossed.
The groups which are just “go out and socialise”, are usually 60% women, and 70% not unheard of. A number of the women have an issue with the men shortage…. A number of groups do seem to specialise in overweight late 40’s divorcees with “baggage”.
Go with the “nothing to lose” approach.
Don’t judge that particular group on your first Meetup, go to more, if you don’t like them after 4 - then leave it. Give it a few chances for you to settle in. It’s easy enough to join another, or start your own – it costs about £125 p.a.
Make sure you have some reasonable conversation matter.
The groups aren’t wall to wall Playboy playmates, but then I’m not Brad Pitt either.
Some of the groups are INCREDIBLY cliquey, and new people really aren’t made welcome at all. There’s one near me that has got a terrible reputation for it. I’m sorry to say, it seems to be a female issue.
I’ve met someone who really is something else via a Meetup group, so fingers crossed.
bucksmanuk said:
I have been in Meetup for 5 years now. Started my own group locally in 2011, handed it over after 3 years as I had grown tired of the pettiness of a number of individuals.
The groups which are just “go out and socialise”, are usually 60% women, and 70% not unheard of. A number of the women have an issue with the men shortage…. A number of groups do seem to specialise in overweight late 40’s divorcees with “baggage”.
Go with the “nothing to lose” approach.
Don’t judge that particular group on your first Meetup, go to more, if you don’t like them after 4 - then leave it. Give it a few chances for you to settle in. It’s easy enough to join another, or start your own – it costs about £125 p.a.
Make sure you have some reasonable conversation matter.
The groups aren’t wall to wall Playboy playmates, but then I’m not Brad Pitt either.
Some of the groups are INCREDIBLY cliquey, and new people really aren’t made welcome at all. There’s one near me that has got a terrible reputation for it. I’m sorry to say, it seems to be a female issue.
I’ve met someone who really is something else via a Meetup group, so fingers crossed.
Bizarre behaviour. What is the point in them running it, then? They should just resort to a private Facebook group.The groups which are just “go out and socialise”, are usually 60% women, and 70% not unheard of. A number of the women have an issue with the men shortage…. A number of groups do seem to specialise in overweight late 40’s divorcees with “baggage”.
Go with the “nothing to lose” approach.
Don’t judge that particular group on your first Meetup, go to more, if you don’t like them after 4 - then leave it. Give it a few chances for you to settle in. It’s easy enough to join another, or start your own – it costs about £125 p.a.
Make sure you have some reasonable conversation matter.
The groups aren’t wall to wall Playboy playmates, but then I’m not Brad Pitt either.
Some of the groups are INCREDIBLY cliquey, and new people really aren’t made welcome at all. There’s one near me that has got a terrible reputation for it. I’m sorry to say, it seems to be a female issue.
I’ve met someone who really is something else via a Meetup group, so fingers crossed.
You're right about the lazy 40-something divorcees with baggage. I now avoid purely drinking social groups as the best they will come up for is a walk on a summer's day. I have tried organising more active sessions and the response has been really low.
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