Being a bit pathetic ?
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Recently had to visit a relative in hospital and have ended up giving lifts, no problem with that but its the reasons given.
The Metrolink has been installed and was worried may go onto the tracks.
Dont know the way (car has satnav) and its basically about six miles, one of those involved used to work at part of the hospital.
Also, found out they have never, and will not ever drive on the motorway.
Sometimes we need to leave our comfort zone, that is how we learn and grow in capability.
Anyone else encounter this ?
The Metrolink has been installed and was worried may go onto the tracks.
Dont know the way (car has satnav) and its basically about six miles, one of those involved used to work at part of the hospital.
Also, found out they have never, and will not ever drive on the motorway.
Sometimes we need to leave our comfort zone, that is how we learn and grow in capability.
Anyone else encounter this ?
I can understand the not liking to drive on motorways, my mum is the same and she'll either not drive somewhere if it involves a motorway, or find some overly-long route that avoids motorways all together. Several years ago she had to go to Winchester IIRC to receive a diploma or similar during one of those "flat hat, throw them in the air" type events. She had to go, but it meant driving on a dual carriageway. She managed it and felt elated afterwards, but still won't go on motorways or dual carriageways.
Both my brother and I have tried to tell her they aren't the scary roads she has created them to be in her head, but apparently its all the "trucks, higher speeds and cars overtaking each other" that puts the fear into her. Her driving is otherwise fine though.
Both my brother and I have tried to tell her they aren't the scary roads she has created them to be in her head, but apparently its all the "trucks, higher speeds and cars overtaking each other" that puts the fear into her. Her driving is otherwise fine though.
It does seem to be ladies that suffer this affliction, especially as they get older, I wonder if its being told that driving is a mans job, genuinely not confident or really, the other option is cant be arsed and would rather be driven round.
Its the same with those ladies that are terrified of driving a car bigger than a small hatch, its kind of letting the side down after years of womens lib, feminism and the struggle for equality, then saying a Ford Focus is "far too big" seems like a backwards step.
Similarly, the spider thing, seriously we have no properly dangerous Arachnids in this country, what is all that about being cared, again genuinely bothered or just making a fuss, perhaps in a slightly emasculated world allowing us chaps chance to save the day, do they just swat them when we arent around, what would happen if men died out, would whole swathes of the country become uninhabitable due to a rumour of a "Really big spider". This seems like adopting a role more than terror at a small, hairy creature.
Mice, like UK Spiders are rarely fatal, but some get all Tom and Jerry. I find it confusing that someone who can bring a baby into the world, finds it difficult helping a Spider leave it ?
My wife is good at the car stuff, nothing phases her, has improved on the Spider thing, just need to work on her tolerance of me
Its the same with those ladies that are terrified of driving a car bigger than a small hatch, its kind of letting the side down after years of womens lib, feminism and the struggle for equality, then saying a Ford Focus is "far too big" seems like a backwards step.
Similarly, the spider thing, seriously we have no properly dangerous Arachnids in this country, what is all that about being cared, again genuinely bothered or just making a fuss, perhaps in a slightly emasculated world allowing us chaps chance to save the day, do they just swat them when we arent around, what would happen if men died out, would whole swathes of the country become uninhabitable due to a rumour of a "Really big spider". This seems like adopting a role more than terror at a small, hairy creature.
Mice, like UK Spiders are rarely fatal, but some get all Tom and Jerry. I find it confusing that someone who can bring a baby into the world, finds it difficult helping a Spider leave it ?
My wife is good at the car stuff, nothing phases her, has improved on the Spider thing, just need to work on her tolerance of me
J4CKO said:
Also, found out they have never, and will not ever drive on the motorway.
Sometimes we need to leave our comfort zone, that is how we learn and grow in capability.
Depends. There's leaving our comfort zone to experience a bit of pain vs what they consider to be utter terror and the next step towards death or serious injury.Sometimes we need to leave our comfort zone, that is how we learn and grow in capability.
They need the help of a patient driving instructor or IAM instructor.
TBH they should probably not be driving as who knows what else is going on in their heads. Do they look down at the gearstick when they change gears?
HTP99 said:
The wife has a friend who won't drive when it is dark.
I dislike driving in the dark, well, actually, it's dusk that I have a problem with as my vision is noticably poorer at dusk (to me anyway) so I'm not as confident driving then as I am usually.Whilst I'm being honest, I also have a phobia about driving over bridges
But I'm not so pathetic that I don't do it, I'm just nervous when I do
I know a bloke, early 60s, very capable, the sort of guy you'd want in your corner. He thought nothing of spending 30 years of his life crawling deep inside planet earth digging coal. He trained as a specialist mine rescue team member.
He will not drive anywhere he has not been before. He'd rather storm a machine gun nest unarmed than drive 15 miles to an out of town shopping centre.
The only exception a city 100 miles away where his daughter was at university. He had no option but to go and despite the fact he admits to enjoying driving there, he won't go anywhere else.
I once got him to talk to me about it over a couple of beers. It's an overwhelming panic attack type thing. There's no accounting for it. Just because he can happily go inside a collapsed Coal mine - which lets face it must of us wouldn't want to do - doesn't mean he isn't irrationally scared of other things.
But if you want him to do anything car based within five miles of his home, he's your man.
My wife will drive anywhere and in any vehicle. Chuck her the keys to any car from a 100 quid shed to a Rolls and she'll drive it anywhere. She was recently given the chance to take a brand new Land River off road with an instructor. She jumped in got on with it and attracted the praise of the instructor for being a natural.
She'll drive 600 miles without flinching and navigate city centres she's never been to.
However she I'll only drive to our local city if there is no other option and she absolutely refuses to drive a car onto a ferry.
People have alsorts of blocks and barriers to seemingly ordinary things. I've a friend who is scared of using the Tube. He'll do anything to avoid it,?taxis, busses,walking.
Just another phobia.
He will not drive anywhere he has not been before. He'd rather storm a machine gun nest unarmed than drive 15 miles to an out of town shopping centre.
The only exception a city 100 miles away where his daughter was at university. He had no option but to go and despite the fact he admits to enjoying driving there, he won't go anywhere else.
I once got him to talk to me about it over a couple of beers. It's an overwhelming panic attack type thing. There's no accounting for it. Just because he can happily go inside a collapsed Coal mine - which lets face it must of us wouldn't want to do - doesn't mean he isn't irrationally scared of other things.
But if you want him to do anything car based within five miles of his home, he's your man.
My wife will drive anywhere and in any vehicle. Chuck her the keys to any car from a 100 quid shed to a Rolls and she'll drive it anywhere. She was recently given the chance to take a brand new Land River off road with an instructor. She jumped in got on with it and attracted the praise of the instructor for being a natural.
She'll drive 600 miles without flinching and navigate city centres she's never been to.
However she I'll only drive to our local city if there is no other option and she absolutely refuses to drive a car onto a ferry.
People have alsorts of blocks and barriers to seemingly ordinary things. I've a friend who is scared of using the Tube. He'll do anything to avoid it,?taxis, busses,walking.
Just another phobia.
I tend to plan journeys, Google Streetview is excellent for that, you can have been somewhere without ever having been there and I find that helps, also the more I have been in stressful situations when driving, it makes you realise whats important,
Dont panic, thats when you have accidents
Dont worry too much about the thrusty cock socket in the A7 stuck to your bumpber getting irate because you are having a moemnt of indecision and have briefly dropped below 10 mph over the speed limit, you will never see him again, he will remain a penis.
One way or another, you will get there, or get home, unless on foot in the Serengeti it is unlikely you will die there, even in deepest darkest Oldham on a snowy February night.
Dont panic, thats when you have accidents
Dont worry too much about the thrusty cock socket in the A7 stuck to your bumpber getting irate because you are having a moemnt of indecision and have briefly dropped below 10 mph over the speed limit, you will never see him again, he will remain a penis.
One way or another, you will get there, or get home, unless on foot in the Serengeti it is unlikely you will die there, even in deepest darkest Oldham on a snowy February night.
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