How much (cash) money should you give in a wedding?

[Homer Jay]

A colleague from work is getting married next month and I am going to the evening venue (buffet in a function room in Northampton) with my wife.

We were thinking of giving her a card with £100-£150 inside.

Do you think that is OK?

Edited by Homer Jay on Wednesday 17th February 21:13

[davepoth]

Depends on (mainly) how rich you are. If they're good friends they'll really appreciate £10 if they know it's a lot of money to you.

[h0b0]

Do you want to come to my wedding? Just don't tell my wife.

[Adam B]

why cash?

is this an Indian wedding where giving cash is the norm?

[Evanivitch]

It's not Okay, no.

What is this, the council thread?

[Japveesix]

I normally give about £1k cash money but if they're good friends and I've known them for more a year or more then usually chuck in a but more.

[CubanPete]

For an evening invite, as swerni says, £50 abs max and go for a gift rather than cash.

[Bridgewaterfalls]

Japveesix said:

I normally give about £1k cash money but if they're good friends and I've known them for more a year or more then usually chuck in a but more.

Realy! £1K as a wedding guest, that is a ridiculous sum. You are talking £250 shy of net weekly income on £100K gross a year, and that does not consider pension provision.

You are either in an exceptional social circle/socio-economic group or being (socio)economical with the truth....

[valiant]

A colleague from work?

Just get them a toaster and be done with it.

[Troubleatmill]

WTF? Handing over £1000!!
Maybe this is multicultural Britain etc etc...

Most folks pick an item from the wedding list.

Who on earth gives £1000? And who expects £1000? Total madness.

[Captain Muppet]

The last time I went to a colleagues wedding all they got was to see my face for 20 seconds while I said congratulations.

If it means neither of them invites me to their next one I call it a win.

[Liszt]

Japveesix said:

I normally give about £1k cash money but if they're good friends and I've known them for more a year or more then usually chuck in a but more.

Either th bit more chucked in is a whoosh parrot or its your wedding the OP is invited to.

[The Mad Monk]

Homer Jay said:

A colleague from work is getting married next month and I am going to the evening venue (buffet in a function room in Northampton) with my wife.

We were thinking of giving her a card with £100-£150 inside.

Do you think that is OK?

Edited by Homer Jay on Wednesday 17th February 21:13

Is this from the council thread?

[85Carrera]

Japveesix said:

I normally give about £1k cash money but if they're good friends and I've known them for more a year or more then usually chuck in a but more.

Brilliant! Love the splenetic responses too

[Laurel Green]

A framed photo of myself would suffice.

[oldcynic]

I don't think anyone can answer for your personal situation, but I wish I'd invited Japveesix to my wedding!

Personally a £10-£20 budget for a work colleague, £50 for a close friend, possibly more for best friend/immediate family. I presume my PH account will now be revoked on account of my financial circumstances.

[Bungleaio]

I hate giving money as presents on any occasion but when wedding invitations specifically ask for money I really don't like it.

The last one we went to we gave enough to cover the cost of the food they had laid on. Well we thought we had until we found out it was a carvery!

[Adam B]

Bungleaio said:

I hate giving money as presents on any occasion but when wedding invitations specifically ask for money I really don't like it.

The last one we went to we gave enough to cover the cost of the food they had laid on. Well we thought we had until we found out it was a carvery!

Cannot stand this either, had one where they wanted to pay for their honeymoon, why not cut back on the wedding budget and I'll buy a gift and buy my own drinks or something

[z4RRSchris]

isn't giving money a very Asian thing?

toaster or a blender is the norm

[simoid]

Homer Jay said:

A colleague from work is getting married next month and I am going to the evening venue (buffet in a function room in Northampton) with my wife.

We were thinking of giving her a card with £100-£150 inside.

Do you think that is OK?

Edited by Homer Jay on Wednesday 17th February 21:13

£150? I'd be inviting a lot more work colleagues if that's the going rate for an evening buffet...!