Mumsnet wedding gift refusal - chortle

[hornetrider]

Well, this is rather amusing.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/26309...

OP said:

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

[sidekickdmr]

I thought linking to mumsnet was a big no-no

Funny story and unbelievable that someone would actually send that.

[Levin]

"Destroy the cheque, you're getting fk all."

[Vaud]

My response would be comedy. Have a one of those big charity award sized cheques printed and have it delivered to her work.

"I have adjusted the size of my contribution. Have a nice life"


Off topic. I like how Mumsnet shows the original post at the top of each page.

[EnthusiastOwned]

The biggest mistake was sending a cheque with her name on it.

I always put money in a blank envolope and leave it anynomous.

[sidekickdmr]

EnthusiastOwned said:

The biggest mistake was sending a cheque with her name on it.

I always put money in a blank envolope and leave it anynomous.

So rather than being renowned for potentially being a bit tight, you get the reputation of giving absolutely nothing

Genius!

[red_slr]

I would stop the cheque that's for sure! Even if it cost me £25 or whatever. Morons.

[Dog Star]

Is this seriously how some people behave these days? Jeeez!
I'd be stopping the cheque.

[andburg]

I'd be writing a snotty response, reminding them its a gift not something they have earnt, cancelling the cheque and ending any relationship with the ungrateful bds.

[steveo3002]

yeah stop the cheque ..no contact ever again

[Pixel Pusher]

Cheque was cashed apparently.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3582662/...

[BoRED S2upid]

I'd be stopping the cheque as well the cheek of it! I refuse to give money as a gift they may as well sell tickets to their wedding.

[krisdelta]

I wonder what kind of messed up world they live in to think it's going to achieve anything but being told to go and jump, and ending that relationship pronto.

[patmahe]

What planet do these people live on, apart from this sentence I'm actually lost for words.

[Vaud]

krisdelta said:

I wonder what kind of messed up world they live in

The "entitled" generation of spoiled brats.

At my wedding I was just glad to see my friends, some had come around the world to share the day. That was enough of a gift!

[Jasandjules]

Wow, I would say this is a made up story, but you just know it would be true.

It appears the bride and groom were not so offended by such a "low" sum from an ex-colleague that they didn't bank the cheque though...

I wonder if any other guests received similar..

[Impasse]

Cheque. A cheque. I remember them. How quaint.

[xRIEx]

steveo3002 said:

yeah stop the cheque ..no contact ever again

This (although unfortunately the cheque was cashed, I see) - it's an ex-colleague - not even listed as 'friend'; I'd say £100 is already generous in that situation.

[TIGA84]

If its not a fake (which it probably is) then I'd like to know whether you could do something like a small claims against them saying it was a loan or an invoice or something rather than a gift and get a CCJ against them, but I'm not clever enough to think how.

[xRIEx]

TIGA84 said:

If its not a fake (which it probably is) then I'd like to know whether you could do something like a small claims against them saying it was a loan or an invoice or something rather than a gift and get a CCJ against them, but I'm not clever enough to think how.

I don't think there's a situation where that wouldn't be kicked out in short order. However, I was also thinking along the lines of "I'd send them an invoice for the 'adjustment'."