Fearing retirement
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cheddar

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4,637 posts

204 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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A good friend of mine retires next month, this has come a little sooner than he envisaged after a fallout with an outspoken employee.

He's a greenskeeper and has been all his life, a proud man with impeccable diligence and work ethic, he confided in me that he's frightened about depression due to lack of purpose and relatively poor health that means he has limited mobility (his lungs are a bit buggered so he can't walk very far), I'd like to help him but I'm not sure of the best way how, any advice from those reading this would be appreciated

mph1977

12,467 posts

198 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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cheddar said:
A good friend of mine retires next month, this has come a little sooner than he envisaged after a fallout with an outspoken employee.

He's a greenskeeper and has been all his life, a proud man with impeccable diligence and work ethic, he confided in me that he's frightened about depression due to lack of purpose and relatively poor health that means he has limited mobility (his lungs are a bit buggered so he can't walk very far), I'd like to help him but I'm not sure of the best way how, any advice from those reading this would be appreciated
volunteering ?

U3A ?

is there a 'men's shed ' nearby ?

jonah35

3,940 posts

187 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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The obvious answer is dont retire. Do something else. Go on holidays, travel etc

cheddar

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4,637 posts

204 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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jonah35 said:
The obvious answer is dont retire. Do something else. Go on holidays, travel etc
Hi Jonah, the only work he knows is greenkeeping, 50 years of experience at it and due to his remote location he can't just walk into another job. Regarding holidays, his limited lung capacity means that travelling any reasonable distance can be uncomfortable

Bree

621 posts

241 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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A friend of mine retired last year, and decided it was time to do all the things she'd wanted to do when she was younger and didn't have the money/time/opportunity to do. She's currently learning Italian and doing an OU degree in History.

55palfers

6,387 posts

194 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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50 years of work
Limited lung capacity

Your man has earned a rest

Take it easy, read books, travel as far as he can, spend time with his family, new / old hobbies, learn a language, improve fitness, grow the best lawn in his street...


Robertj21a

18,009 posts

135 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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Take up photography, painting/drawing, bird spotting, fishing, classic cars etc etc. As he's been an outdoors type most of his life, surely he's interested in wildlife, trees, flowers, plants - or similar ?

alfie2244

11,292 posts

218 months

Thursday 4th August 2016
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Bit of part time local gardening work,,,, we have a 70yr old chap who comes and goes for a couple of hours at a time to suit himself.

DickyC

58,799 posts

228 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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With forty years' experience in a skill no one wants and a clean driving licence, I took up driving. After a spell of Trade Plate driving - which is hopeless and I wouldn't recommend to anyone - I became a delivery driver for a local garage. It's not very well paid but it's great; not too taxing and occasionally a nice car to drive. It's the sort of job where a lot of employers prefer well turned out older folk.

TR4man

5,544 posts

204 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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Very important to to do something mentally and physically active otherwise you are just waiting to die.

TwigtheWonderkid

49,201 posts

180 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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Allotment?

RizzoTheRat

29,062 posts

222 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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alfie2244 said:
Bit of part time local gardening work,,,, we have a 70yr old chap who comes and goes for a couple of hours at a time to suit himself.
This. A chap who worked for us as a farm had for decades retired and was soon looking after all the older peoples gardens in the village, which I think meant as much time chatting and drinking tea as it did gardening biggrin

I should think any local cricket club would live to have a retired greenskeeper on hand for a bit of help and advice too.

Joey Ramone

2,155 posts

155 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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TR4man said:
Very important to to do something mentally and physically active otherwise you are just waiting to die.
This. Sitting around reading and watching TV will be a death sentence

Jasandjules

72,646 posts

259 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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Hospital Driver person?

BoRED S2upid

21,088 posts

270 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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Jasandjules said:
Hospital Driver person?
I was just going to say this or something very similar. Plenty of charities out there who need volunteers to do a whole variety of jobs from driving to manning a shop to checking stock or even just talking to people. Make some calls for him.

DervVW

2,223 posts

169 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
Allotment?
That was my thought!

putonghua73

615 posts

158 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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RizzoTheRat said:
This. A chap who worked for us as a farm had for decades retired and was soon looking after all the older peoples gardens in the village, which I think meant as much time chatting and drinking tea as it did gardening biggrin

I should think any local cricket club would live to have a retired greenskeeper on hand for a bit of help and advice too.
Yet another nodding of one's head here.

A friend's father fell into a state of depression leading to hospitalisation. Once out, he took up gardening in his block of flats. He initially talked to the council, but they were not particularly interested. Fortunately, the local nature reserve people were interested and provided compost material and other bits to get him started.

He transformed the strips of grass around the back of the flats into an area full of flowers, plant pots, completely transforming it. Other neighbours volunteered and joined in. Fast forward a couple of years and the grass strips at the front and back of the block of flats have been transformed.

He told my mother that he should have done this "Years ago" because it has changed his life for the better, got him out of the flat, socialised with people, and contributed to improving his neighbourhood.


TwigtheWonderkid

49,201 posts

180 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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DervVW said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Allotment?
That was my thought!
Great minds thing alike / fools rarely differ.

Delete as applicable.

cheddar

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4,637 posts

204 months

Friday 5th August 2016
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NeMiSiS said:
If he wants to keep his job part time, go and see what happened and try to straighten it out.
I'm onto this, trying to get him 2 days a week, which he'd love, there's some nasty dark forces at play but it'd be a win win for all

Thanks for the helpful input by everyone