Rebuking child who doesn't live with you.

[X5TUU]

Personally I think the mother needs pulling into line as well, even separated you still need to be a united parent 'team' to get the best from the child and shape them to the best of your (combined) abilities.

I would seek a word and see how it goes

[Fozziebear]

Sounds like my old situation, my daughter is 17 now and I haven't had contact since she was 11. Every thing I did was twisted to make me look bad, couldn't even dry her at swimming pool when she was 4 without mother saying I touched her up! Not sure you will get a united front from her? You just need to stand fair when you need to advise your child she is wrong.