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Foliage said:
No, but I do believe in self fulfilling prophecies, that your subconscious and conscious mental attitude to something can have an affect on the outcome. So you thinking your unlucky will make you 'unlucky' but are you really subconsciously sabotaging yourself or self destructive?
This. The people I know who believe themselves to be "cursed with bad luck" seem to make most of the situations worse for themselves by blaming it on bad luck, and not bad decisions which they could learn from and not make again.
My friend's mum seems to be the worst at this... she's an entirely lovely person, and always ready to help others when they need it, but in doing so, often finds she neglects things she should do, like the other week when her car broke down, she'd ignored a warning light on the dashboard for some time and then it was just bad luck that it happened to her, right at at time when she was due to take her mum to the doctors, so she had to get a taxi whcih cost £x etc etc.
The Beaver King said:
Nope. In fact, I'm pretty convinced I live a charmed life.
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t does happen, but everything seems to work out alright in the end. I suppose it is all about perspective really.
Yes, perspective is the key but I can clearly remember many situations when I thought how lucky or how unlucky I was. Like surviving almost unhurt in a terrible car crash.s
t does happen, but everything seems to work out alright in the end. I suppose it is all about perspective really.No, I think of myself as a lucky person generally. Everything usually turns out right in the end. In fact I live in fear of the enormous karmic rebalancing I'm sure must be due.
That said I believe we make a lot of our own luck. Being an analytical person who overthinks everything and is good at manipulating people is a good way to avoid a great deal of 'bad luck'.
That said I believe we make a lot of our own luck. Being an analytical person who overthinks everything and is good at manipulating people is a good way to avoid a great deal of 'bad luck'.
Orchid1 said:
Has anyone ever felt they've had really bad luck
Every single f*cking day!I literally cant do anything without something going wrong. It gets to the point where I expect it to go wrong.
I also very rarely think "today has been a good day" because when I do something bad happens.
red_slr said:
Every single f*cking day!
I literally cant do anything without something going wrong. It gets to the point where I expect it to go wrong.
I also very rarely think "today has been a good day" because when I do something bad happens.
You own a Porsche and Ferrari though so you can't be all that unlucky.I literally cant do anything without something going wrong. It gets to the point where I expect it to go wrong.
I also very rarely think "today has been a good day" because when I do something bad happens.
The Beaver King said:
Nope. In fact, I'm pretty convinced I live a charmed life.
s
t does happen, but everything seems to work out alright in the end. I suppose it is all about perspective really.
Afraid you're wrong there. I'm almost certain that you and all your loved ones will die.s
t does happen, but everything seems to work out alright in the end. I suppose it is all about perspective really.
Yes, life is s
t and then you die; it's up to you whether you focus on the s
tty things or soldier on through and focus on the positives.TurboHatchback said:
No, I think of myself as a lucky person generally. Everything usually turns out right in the end. In fact I live in fear of the enormous karmic rebalancing I'm sure must be due.
That said I believe we make a lot of our own luck. Being an analytical person who overthinks everything and is good at manipulating people is a good way to avoid a great deal of 'bad luck'.
I'm totally with you on this. You can't wish for good luck, but you can make sure you're in exactly the right position if/when good luck happens to strike.That said I believe we make a lot of our own luck. Being an analytical person who overthinks everything and is good at manipulating people is a good way to avoid a great deal of 'bad luck'.
Hoofy said:
The Beaver King said:
Nope. In fact, I'm pretty convinced I live a charmed life.
s
t does happen, but everything seems to work out alright in the end. I suppose it is all about perspective really.
Afraid you're wrong there. I'm almost certain that you and all your loved ones will die.s
t does happen, but everything seems to work out alright in the end. I suppose it is all about perspective really.See! Perspective

In comparison with what I have seen others go through I believe I have led a charmed life.
I could reel off the multiple redundancies, the financial crises, the work stress levels, the minutiae of plans that were made and turned to s**t and events that are way beyond anything that I would disclose in a forum such as this.
What do they matter when friends of ours have been through or are going through neonatal deaths, a pregnancy that was non-viable through brittle bone disease, a suicide in the family, a child with cancer, partners with alcoholism, sudden death of a husband in his early forties and other equally traumatic and life changing experiences?
I am healthy, financially comfortable with a fantastic wife and two brilliant kids.
For sure, things could have gone better. Every day we roll the dice and sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. That is the difference between "odds" and "luck". Odds are that life will throw you some horrors.
But what right have I to do anything other than look at my life and consider myself to be incredibly fortunate? The horrors have been few and each time we have survived. The joys have been many and varied and each has led to yet more.
Generally I go with this approach - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yoEezZD71sc
I could reel off the multiple redundancies, the financial crises, the work stress levels, the minutiae of plans that were made and turned to s**t and events that are way beyond anything that I would disclose in a forum such as this.
What do they matter when friends of ours have been through or are going through neonatal deaths, a pregnancy that was non-viable through brittle bone disease, a suicide in the family, a child with cancer, partners with alcoholism, sudden death of a husband in his early forties and other equally traumatic and life changing experiences?
I am healthy, financially comfortable with a fantastic wife and two brilliant kids.
For sure, things could have gone better. Every day we roll the dice and sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. That is the difference between "odds" and "luck". Odds are that life will throw you some horrors.
But what right have I to do anything other than look at my life and consider myself to be incredibly fortunate? The horrors have been few and each time we have survived. The joys have been many and varied and each has led to yet more.
Generally I go with this approach - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yoEezZD71sc
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