Teenager not talking - think he is worried about exams
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New one for me, my son has decided to stop talking to me or his mum and stopped eating at home. Pretty much know he is concerned with his mock exam marks which we were all disappointed with. I have reiterated many times, that regardless of the marks we will always love and support him in what he chooses to do but i think he is putting pressure on himself.
It has been so far 3 days, I am hoping that he will regain himself soon. Any advice from the PH Massive?
It has been so far 3 days, I am hoping that he will regain himself soon. Any advice from the PH Massive?
Take him out for a long walk, and ask for his advice on some scenario you are going thru at work. Tell him you need a younger persons perspective on it. Make something up, an issue with a young person in your office or some crap. Make him feel important, that you need him and his value his input. Show him that you haven't got life worked out either and you have problems to deal with. Hopefully, once you've discussed your made up scenario, he might feel more open about discussing his issues.
I used this tactic with my kids when they were teens. You can't imagine how special a 15 y/o feels when his dad comes to him and says "son, I need a bit of advice". A real ego boost.
Ps. Now they are older and far cleverer than me, I actually do need their advice for loads of things, for real. Like how to work f
king Sky Q!
I used this tactic with my kids when they were teens. You can't imagine how special a 15 y/o feels when his dad comes to him and says "son, I need a bit of advice". A real ego boost.
Ps. Now they are older and far cleverer than me, I actually do need their advice for loads of things, for real. Like how to work f
king Sky Q! TwigtheWonderkid said:
Take him out for a long walk, and ask for his advice on some scenario you are going thru at work. Tell him you need a younger persons perspective on it. Make something up, an issue with a young person in your office or some crap. Make him feel important, that you need him and his value his input. Show him that you haven't got life worked out either and you have problems to deal with. Hopefully, once you've discussed your made up scenario, he might feel more open about discussing his issues.
I used this tactic with my kids when they were teens. You can't imagine how special a 15 y/o feels when his dad comes to him and says "son, I need a bit of advice". A real ego boost.
Ps. Now they are older and far cleverer than me, I actually do need their advice for loads of things, for real. Like how to work fking Sky Q!
This sounds like good advice if it doesn't come across too contrived given you say you're not the best in these scenarios. I used this tactic with my kids when they were teens. You can't imagine how special a 15 y/o feels when his dad comes to him and says "son, I need a bit of advice". A real ego boost.
Ps. Now they are older and far cleverer than me, I actually do need their advice for loads of things, for real. Like how to work f
king Sky Q! My daughter would scratch the back of her neck in the run up to big exams, until it bled, scabbed and bled again. It was basically involuntary or unconscious (I should ask her she's doing her phycology masters atm). We just moved her into the living room when studying and told her to stop scratching when she started, worked simple and effective.
My feeling here is your lad feels he's let you down, my lad can not stand disappointing me. You need to talk to him and lower the stakes whilst taking on some blame. I'd tell him you're sorry if he feels you put too much pressure on him, you thought pressure was a good motivator but you got it wrong. Tell him you love him and you're worried about him and you know you're not the best in these kind of situations, he's your priority not his exams. Ask him what you can do? Some might say this is the snowflake generation answer but in your shoes I'd be very concerned especially as my lad never shuts up except to eat. Good luck
Edited by Jaroon on Thursday 9th November 17:27
Every teenager is different and you guys know him best. As a recent teenager, my changes in mood were drive. By the following:
t you got up to! Being open yourself will encourage even the most stubborn teenager (talking from experience of being a stubborn teenager)
- cannabis
- girls
- cars
t you got up to! Being open yourself will encourage even the most stubborn teenager (talking from experience of being a stubborn teenager)AndStilliRise said:
mock exam marks which we were all disappointed with. I have reiterated many times, that regardless of the marks we will always love and support him
If you weren’t all disappointed you wouldn’t have had to reassure him. You need to speak to him or someone needs to friend, cool uncle, brother, sister, cousin anyone.
Don’t let him bottle it up and do something silly.
Mocks really don’t matter. I was D’s I think at mocks I tried for the real things and got 3 B’s.
I read an article today about a 52 year old homeless who had just got into Cambridge to study for a degree proves it’s never too late for education. Far too much pressure on kids these days.
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