Am I being unreasonable?
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I've got a shared driveway and on the whole our neighbours (and there have been many over the years) have been fairly considerate.
Apart from the odd occasion, there's an unwritten rule that nobody blocks the driveway without asking the other and it's worked quite well.
A few years ago, the neighbouring property was sold to a couple, having been let out for the previous ten years.
I'm fairly easy going and have a fairly live and let live attitude but in my mind I think I may have created a growing resentment towards my neighbours and i'm not sure whether I'm being reasonable or not.
At the end of our driveway, it widens and I have a parking space and my garage. It's a handy area for storing stuff and general tinkering etc., and it's out of sight from the road. I have a workshop in the garage and can stick the front of the car in it and work on it in privacy. If i need to go out and get a part or whatever, i can leave everything unlocked.It's one of the things which sold me the house.
The neighbours are very nice and we get on well with them, but we're not in and out of each others houses.
What's really bugging me is that the lady next door is an osteopath and has had a therapy room built in her garden and there is a constant stream of clients during the day. They arrive every half hour, often with their partners waiting outside in a car, taking up parking spaces in the road. Don't shoot me down for mentioning the parking - I appreciate they are entitled to park where they like on the road.
What really bugs me is the fact that I've got strangers walking down our shared driveway, past my daughters bedroom window (it's a bungalow), and past my once private parking area. When I'm out there working I find it quite awkward having to acknowledge these people and I feel it's violating my enjoyment of the property.
I don't want to fall out with anyone over it but it's starting to niggle me now. I am open to any serious or less serious suggestions
Apart from the odd occasion, there's an unwritten rule that nobody blocks the driveway without asking the other and it's worked quite well.
A few years ago, the neighbouring property was sold to a couple, having been let out for the previous ten years.
I'm fairly easy going and have a fairly live and let live attitude but in my mind I think I may have created a growing resentment towards my neighbours and i'm not sure whether I'm being reasonable or not.
At the end of our driveway, it widens and I have a parking space and my garage. It's a handy area for storing stuff and general tinkering etc., and it's out of sight from the road. I have a workshop in the garage and can stick the front of the car in it and work on it in privacy. If i need to go out and get a part or whatever, i can leave everything unlocked.It's one of the things which sold me the house.
The neighbours are very nice and we get on well with them, but we're not in and out of each others houses.
What's really bugging me is that the lady next door is an osteopath and has had a therapy room built in her garden and there is a constant stream of clients during the day. They arrive every half hour, often with their partners waiting outside in a car, taking up parking spaces in the road. Don't shoot me down for mentioning the parking - I appreciate they are entitled to park where they like on the road.
What really bugs me is the fact that I've got strangers walking down our shared driveway, past my daughters bedroom window (it's a bungalow), and past my once private parking area. When I'm out there working I find it quite awkward having to acknowledge these people and I feel it's violating my enjoyment of the property.
I don't want to fall out with anyone over it but it's starting to niggle me now. I am open to any serious or less serious suggestions
Hmmm. Osteopath, you say?
It would annoy me too OP. Very much so.
I know they are just folk innocently attending an appointment and are not to blame, but I'd get f
ked off with it pretty quickly.
I'm a bit of an anti social type who can't be arsed making an effort with strangers
It's just a drawback of having a shared driveway I guess.
I know they are just folk innocently attending an appointment and are not to blame, but I'd get f
ked off with it pretty quickly.I'm a bit of an anti social type who can't be arsed making an effort with strangers
It's just a drawback of having a shared driveway I guess.
imo it's not unreasonable as they shouldn't be performing a business in a residential area.
Make an anonymous call to authorities saying you think there's an unlicensed brothel operating or just use your workshop to do workshop type work when clients arrive (using noisy machinery).
Looked at a house for sale a while back as saw it was for a much cheaper price compared to other properties, the reason was that the next door neighbours were running a nursery.
Make an anonymous call to authorities saying you think there's an unlicensed brothel operating or just use your workshop to do workshop type work when clients arrive (using noisy machinery).
Looked at a house for sale a while back as saw it was for a much cheaper price compared to other properties, the reason was that the next door neighbours were running a nursery.
untakenname said:
imo it's not unreasonable as they shouldn't be performing a business in a residential area.
Make an anonymous call to authorities saying you think there's an unlicensed brothel operating or just use your workshop to do workshop type work when clients arrive (using noisy machinery).
Looked at a house for sale a while back as saw it was for a much cheaper price compared to other properties, the reason was that the next door neighbours were running a nursery.
I can think of hundreds, probably thousands of businesses being run in residential areas, many of them from houses. It's ridiculous to think it shouldn't happen. As for making anonymous phone calls, dear oh dear...Make an anonymous call to authorities saying you think there's an unlicensed brothel operating or just use your workshop to do workshop type work when clients arrive (using noisy machinery).
Looked at a house for sale a while back as saw it was for a much cheaper price compared to other properties, the reason was that the next door neighbours were running a nursery.
Living next door to a nursery - try living under a flight path, near a major road or close to a railway, there are far worse noise sources than young children.
I think that running the business from home is not a problem nowadays, even though the deeds say it shouldn't be done.
I've read that the council turn a blind eye to it .
What bugs me is that I've got members of the public walking down the driveway on a regular basis. I've got to work out a subtle way of deterring them
I've read that the council turn a blind eye to it .
What bugs me is that I've got members of the public walking down the driveway on a regular basis. I've got to work out a subtle way of deterring them
fouronthefloor said:
I think that running the business from home is not a problem nowadays, even though the deeds say it shouldn't be done.
If there's a covenant in place, then that's for the beneficiary of the covenant to enforce, if they CBA.Planning permission is another question.
If neither of those are an issue, then the neighbour is doing nothing wrong.
I run my own business from home so I don't have a problem with that.
What I have a problem with is a constant stream of people walking down my once private shared driveway which is not a business premises.
This also happens in the evenings, Saturdays and Sundays.
Fortunately, my business doesn't involve having visitors but if it did, I'd go and rent premises elsewhere.
If it wasn't a shared driveway I wouldn't have a problem with it.
What I have a problem with is a constant stream of people walking down my once private shared driveway which is not a business premises.
This also happens in the evenings, Saturdays and Sundays.
Fortunately, my business doesn't involve having visitors but if it did, I'd go and rent premises elsewhere.
If it wasn't a shared driveway I wouldn't have a problem with it.
Edited by fouronthefloor on Tuesday 9th January 09:05
fouronthefloor said:
I run my own business from home so I don't have a problem with that.
What I have a problem with is a constant stream of people walking down my once private shared driveway which is not a business premises.
This also happens in the evenings, Saturdays and Sundays.
Fortunately, my business doesn't involve having visitors but if it did, I'd go and rent premises elsewhere.
If it wasn't a shared driveway I wouldn't have a problem with it.
It's not private - it's shared.What I have a problem with is a constant stream of people walking down my once private shared driveway which is not a business premises.
This also happens in the evenings, Saturdays and Sundays.
Fortunately, my business doesn't involve having visitors but if it did, I'd go and rent premises elsewhere.
If it wasn't a shared driveway I wouldn't have a problem with it.
Edited by fouronthefloor on Tuesday 9th January 09:05
And it is a bit ridiculous to expect her to rent premises - and hence incur costs - because you don't like people walking down the driveway.
I can understand why you don't like it, but in answer to your title question - yes, you are being unreasonable.
fouronthefloor said:
I run my own business from home so I don't have a problem with that.
What I have a problem with is a constant stream of people walking down my once private shared driveway which is not a business premises.
This also happens in the evenings, Saturdays and Sundays.
Fortunately, my business doesn't involve having visitors but if it did, I'd go and rent premises elsewhere.
You are being an unreasonable wuss, man up.What I have a problem with is a constant stream of people walking down my once private shared driveway which is not a business premises.
This also happens in the evenings, Saturdays and Sundays.
Fortunately, my business doesn't involve having visitors but if it did, I'd go and rent premises elsewhere.
If you don't want to say hello then don't, how much time do you actually spend outside anyway.
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