Paying the bill?
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It was Mrs SLRs birthday and we went out for a meal with her sister and S/O.
We invited them.
As it was her birthday I thought it would be the decent thing if I paid the bill, £300 ish.
Our money is joint as we have a joint income but I took it as "my" treat to take her and 2 others out.
Mrs SLR says I was wrong to do this without asking her first.
Arguments have ensued, pans thrown, locks changed etc etc.... now she says "ask your stupid internet friends".... yeah.... so..
(she called you all stupid..)
We invited them.
As it was her birthday I thought it would be the decent thing if I paid the bill, £300 ish.
Our money is joint as we have a joint income but I took it as "my" treat to take her and 2 others out.
Mrs SLR says I was wrong to do this without asking her first.
Arguments have ensued, pans thrown, locks changed etc etc.... now she says "ask your stupid internet friends".... yeah.... so..
(she called you all stupid..)
Countdown said:
To be fair to Mrs SLR she's ended up paying for 50% of her own "treat" - Doesn't sound like much of a treat....
Well how do you do it if it all is 50:50 on the business, you only have a joint account and then she shines that you have paid for her sister and S/O... Its just weird that she would complain and I would state that its find, just deduct it from my half of the bank account and tell her to do one.
This is why you need joint money, your money and her money so she has no gripes like this and likewise you can’t moan at her for spending hundreds of pounds on a handbag out of her money. Mrs Bored Stupid and I have never once argued about money I buy bikes and watch football she goes on rediculous expensive spa breaks.
Du1point8 said:
Countdown said:
To be fair to Mrs SLR she's ended up paying for 50% of her own "treat" - Doesn't sound like much of a treat....
Well how do you do it if it all is 50:50 on the business, you only have a joint account and then she shines that you have paid for her sister and S/O... Its just weird that she would complain and I would state that its find, just deduct it from my half of the bank account and tell her to do one.
red_slr said:
It was Mrs SLRs birthday and we went out for a meal with her sister and S/O.
We invited them.
As it was her birthday I thought it would be the decent thing if I paid the bill, £300 ish.
Our money is joint as we have a joint income but I took it as "my" treat to take her and 2 others out.
Mrs SLR says I was wrong to do this without asking her first.
Arguments have ensued, pans thrown, locks changed etc etc.... now she says "ask your stupid internet friends".... yeah.... so..
(she called you all stupid..)
That last bit had me in stitches.We invited them.
As it was her birthday I thought it would be the decent thing if I paid the bill, £300 ish.
Our money is joint as we have a joint income but I took it as "my" treat to take her and 2 others out.
Mrs SLR says I was wrong to do this without asking her first.
Arguments have ensued, pans thrown, locks changed etc etc.... now she says "ask your stupid internet friends".... yeah.... so..
(she called you all stupid..)
Mrs geeks and I get paid into the same Joint Account where all the bills are paid, we then split what is left own the middle and pay it out to our own accounts, thus if I wish to treat her it goes on my card not the JA nor hers, our "floats" are ours to do with as we wish, I race cars, she dotes on the dogs!
With all that said, she called me stupid, so f
k her frankly she should just be grateful you let her out the kitchen and dinner prepared for her not by her etc etc! 
Edited by geeks on Thursday 2nd August 13:14
Tell her you should trust each other. Sometimes she'll spend on things you don't agree with and vice versa but that you'll always back each other when one makes a judgement call. Helps if you are both generally as cautious as each other. Works with my wife. Don't have a joint account but never question what each other spends - if it's a lot the other figures it must be important, bargain or just meant a lot to them at that moment. Used to have a joint account but budgeting was much tougher.
I kind of get where she is coming from but surely she must realise that this arrangement (i.e, one bank account, etc) is always going to have these issues.
Whenever either of you want to buy something for yourself do you have to ask for permission from the other? What happens at Christmas? Do you spend exactly the same on each other?
Personally, we have a joint account which we pay enough into to cover all monthly bills and any else stays in our accounts to do as we want with. Works for us.
Whenever either of you want to buy something for yourself do you have to ask for permission from the other? What happens at Christmas? Do you spend exactly the same on each other?
Personally, we have a joint account which we pay enough into to cover all monthly bills and any else stays in our accounts to do as we want with. Works for us.
red_slr said:
Mrs SLR says I was wrong to do this without asking her first.
Arguments have ensued, pans thrown, locks changed etc etc.... now she says "ask your stupid internet friends".... yeah.... so..
(she called you all stupid..)
Wait... she called us something? Arguments have ensued, pans thrown, locks changed etc etc.... now she says "ask your stupid internet friends".... yeah.... so..
(she called you all stupid..)
Erm, my experience is that when your Wife/GF says that you're wrong, accept that you're wrong even if it violates a law of thermodynamics.
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