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What's all this these days with handshakes turning into man hugs? Surely a good hand shake is enough but some guys seem to do it all the time even when I don't know them that well. It's all a bit fake and awkward. It reminds me of the fake kisses on the cheek that women do to each other. You're another bloke, I don't want to hug you but it's even more awkward when you try to avoid it.
It's like when football players scored a goal and there all this hugging and god knows that else. There seems to be a distinct lack of testosterone at times!
It's like when football players scored a goal and there all this hugging and god knows that else. There seems to be a distinct lack of testosterone at times!
Robbo 27 said:
I was out in Manchester last weekend, very surprised to see a number of straight looking blokes kiss each other on meeting, on the lips. I remarked on it to a male friend, he just shrugged.
... he wouldn't kiss you?Ps. How could you tell their sexual persuasion from looking at them?
Frimley111R said:
What's all this these days with handshakes turning into man hugs? Surely a good hand shake is enough but some guys seem to do it all the time even when I don't know them that well. It's all a bit fake and awkward. It reminds me of the fake kisses on the cheek that women do to each other. You're another bloke, I don't want to hug you but it's even more awkward when you try to avoid it.
It's like when football players scored a goal and there all this hugging and god knows that else. There seems to be a distinct lack of testosterone at times!
Rugby players and wrestlers touching too. It's just not cricket.It's like when football players scored a goal and there all this hugging and god knows that else. There seems to be a distinct lack of testosterone at times!
Robbo 27 said:
I was out in Manchester last weekend, very surprised to see a number of straight looking blokes kiss each other on meeting, on the lips. I remarked on it to a male friend, he just shrugged.
a meeting of footballers?if any man I know went to kiss me on the lips I'd accidentally lamp him one
reflexes and all that.
ill hug my guy friends, and if im drunk and met a friends friend and gotten on with them ill hug them too.
with some people who i think might not be into full hugging I will give the half hug. the one where you sort of do a hand shake and while holding that hand you get a a loose hug/tap on the back.
with some people who i think might not be into full hugging I will give the half hug. the one where you sort of do a hand shake and while holding that hand you get a a loose hug/tap on the back.
Being a 43 yo man who isn't great with physical contact with anyone outside of close family (I like my own space), including handshakes (however I make myself do it) I find the whole trend of hugging difficult.
I always stay back when leaving somewhere, the wife is always all over her mates; hugs, kisses etc, I stay back so as not to get dragged in to it, as it feels awkward for me.
My BIL will always give me a hug when we depart, I extend my hand for a handshake, he always pulls me in for a hug and a slap on the back, I've known him 15 years and still it always takes me by surprise and still I am not overly comfortable with it. (however knowing what he is like I wouldn't be surprised if he has twigged that I'm not overly comfortable with it and does it on purpose!)
The wife and I spent a day with one of her far younger (22) male colleagues last year at a gig in Hyde Park; lovely guy and no issues with him whatsoever (apart from him being controlled by his mum!), when we dropped him home I got out of the car, extended my hand for a handshake, he did some weird grasp of my hand and pulled me towards him for a hug, I went with it, it was awkward and must have looked it as the wife ripped the piss out of me, all the way home, I just wasn't expecting it and I wasn't comfortable with it!
I always stay back when leaving somewhere, the wife is always all over her mates; hugs, kisses etc, I stay back so as not to get dragged in to it, as it feels awkward for me.
My BIL will always give me a hug when we depart, I extend my hand for a handshake, he always pulls me in for a hug and a slap on the back, I've known him 15 years and still it always takes me by surprise and still I am not overly comfortable with it. (however knowing what he is like I wouldn't be surprised if he has twigged that I'm not overly comfortable with it and does it on purpose!)
The wife and I spent a day with one of her far younger (22) male colleagues last year at a gig in Hyde Park; lovely guy and no issues with him whatsoever (apart from him being controlled by his mum!), when we dropped him home I got out of the car, extended my hand for a handshake, he did some weird grasp of my hand and pulled me towards him for a hug, I went with it, it was awkward and must have looked it as the wife ripped the piss out of me, all the way home, I just wasn't expecting it and I wasn't comfortable with it!
Edited by HTP99 on Friday 5th October 19:49
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