Do you have somewhere you call 'home'?
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Until I married I'd never lived anywhere for more than five years, more often for three years, once as short as a month, as my Father was attached to the forces.
Those five years were my teenage years and spent in the town where my Mother was born though I haven't lived there since and when I return now it's a very different place though it's the place I still regard as 'home'. I've met people who have never moved from place where they were born so understandably they have a 'home'.
If you've moved frequently, do you feel you have a 'home'? If you don't, do you feel you've missed out in some way? Just idle curiosity on my part prompted by some family history research when I realised that until my generation few of them had moved more than a handful of miles (wartime service excluded) in their whole lifetimes.
Those five years were my teenage years and spent in the town where my Mother was born though I haven't lived there since and when I return now it's a very different place though it's the place I still regard as 'home'. I've met people who have never moved from place where they were born so understandably they have a 'home'.
If you've moved frequently, do you feel you have a 'home'? If you don't, do you feel you've missed out in some way? Just idle curiosity on my part prompted by some family history research when I realised that until my generation few of them had moved more than a handful of miles (wartime service excluded) in their whole lifetimes.
Moved 5 times before I was 11 then 19 years in one place and the last 19 years in another. None of these feel like home.
Home is Edinburgh where my parents were born and grew up, moving away just before I was born. Most aunts, uncles and cousins were there, we visited frequently. I know my way round Edinburgh better than anywhere else.
Home is Edinburgh where my parents were born and grew up, moving away just before I was born. Most aunts, uncles and cousins were there, we visited frequently. I know my way round Edinburgh better than anywhere else.
keirik said:
home is a small town in yorkshire even though I havent lived there since I was 18 (40 years ago), always will be.
Since then I've lived in 11 different houses and towns, my current house is my home, but my "home" is still where I grew up
Thanks to remote working, I was able to move back to the small town in Yorkshire I left at 18.Since then I've lived in 11 different houses and towns, my current house is my home, but my "home" is still where I grew up
Best thing we ever did. Wasn't sure at the time (in fact we rented for 2 years to be sure) but it's been great, no regrets at all.
Only really think home for me was when i lived with my folks (30yrs ago) although the last house i lived in for the last 22yrs.
I have a small property on the coast and i really only feel at home when im there oddly enough so i figure that is my eventual calling.
Everywhere else just seems 'temporary'.
Never really moved much and so in some ways maybe i missed out by previously not finding a place i really thought was home
I have a small property on the coast and i really only feel at home when im there oddly enough so i figure that is my eventual calling.
Everywhere else just seems 'temporary'.
Never really moved much and so in some ways maybe i missed out by previously not finding a place i really thought was home
keirik said:
home is a small town in yorkshire even though I havent lived there since I was 18 (40 years ago), always will be.
Since then I've lived in 11 different houses and towns, my current house is my home, but my "home" is still where I grew up
I'm very similar to you. I moved south about 16 years ago (Since then I've lived in 11 different houses and towns, my current house is my home, but my "home" is still where I grew up
) and it's just where I live. Home is definitely Yorkshire.My parents are Lancastrians but even though they have lived in Yorkshire for longer, my mum will still talk about 'going home' if she's off to see relatives.
Opposite end of the spectrum I still live in town I grew up in actually I can look out the window and once see the place where the house my parents brought me home to some 36 years ago used to stand. Left for uni and then came back, now married with a family it's a good place to live but like anywhere has it's positives and negatives.
Dad had a job where we moved every few years, left school joined the Army and changed unit every three years, left and still moved often so I don't have a home town as such. I've lived from Plymouth to Glasgow, from the UK, Europe and the Middle East.
Parents have split and moved away from their last place so no attachment to their locations.
Home is where my wife is as that's where I'm happy and we love where we live now so this is now our home.
Parents have split and moved away from their last place so no attachment to their locations.
Home is where my wife is as that's where I'm happy and we love where we live now so this is now our home.
Home for me is North Wales (where the parents live) despite the fact that I left over 20 years ago for Uni and never returned for anything more than to visit a couple of times a year.
5 years in Durham, never been back.
18 years, 3 houses and 2 kids in Cambridge including this year our "forever home" but interestingly still don't see this as a truly permanent thing. Not sure why....
I still perhaps imagine that at some point, I'll return to North Wales to potter round in a fishing boat catching lobsters but in practice that will probably never happen.
5 years in Durham, never been back.
18 years, 3 houses and 2 kids in Cambridge including this year our "forever home" but interestingly still don't see this as a truly permanent thing. Not sure why....
I still perhaps imagine that at some point, I'll return to North Wales to potter round in a fishing boat catching lobsters but in practice that will probably never happen.
Yes. My home is the Conwy Valley and can be any house in this valley. For me, the most beautiful place in the world. I have worked away from home a lot in the past and always came home down the A5 via Llangollen even though it was a longer journey. Seeing the mountains rising up in the distance and driving the twisties down towards Betws is a life affirming joy. Knowing that in ten minutes I would be safe in my house in my valley felt wonderful and still does. The Welsh have a word for it, it is a beautiful word, hiraeth (pronounced hereeyth). It has no direct translation as with many Welsh words but generally means the longing for home.
Mark Benson said:
keirik said:
home is a small town in yorkshire even though I havent lived there since I was 18 (40 years ago), always will be.
Since then I've lived in 11 different houses and towns, my current house is my home, but my "home" is still where I grew up
Thanks to remote working, I was able to move back to the small town in Yorkshire I left at 18.Since then I've lived in 11 different houses and towns, my current house is my home, but my "home" is still where I grew up
Best thing we ever did. Wasn't sure at the time (in fact we rented for 2 years to be sure) but it's been great, no regrets at all.
Not that its not nice and the places are cheap and I could do remote working, but everyone I knew there, I left when I was 18... so everyone has nearly 22 years of friendship on me... the snobby sounding southerner that visits a few times a year to see my folks that still live there.
So I really dont think myself and OH would ever fit in and our eclectic group of friends would be downright strange to those people that have never left the area, let alone who have never worked all over the world and experienced differing cultures.
Truckosaurus said:
I'm another person who considers 'home' to be the town I lived in between ages 8 and 18 (25yrs+ year ago).
It helps that I still have family living there and return frequently. All my school friends have moved away, so if I was to move back there I'd be a total stranger.
Not as straight forward for me as the area i grew up in has gone downhill.It helps that I still have family living there and return frequently. All my school friends have moved away, so if I was to move back there I'd be a total stranger.
Getting out with lots of space is where i feel more comfortable
North Wales, even moved back here, God's own country!
Nice to see a few others from this neck of the woods (originally)
Feel lucky to live here, have work on my doorstep and everything I need within 60mins added to the fact houses are cheap ! I think if I ever leave again I will always return.
Nice to see a few others from this neck of the woods (originally)
Feel lucky to live here, have work on my doorstep and everything I need within 60mins added to the fact houses are cheap ! I think if I ever leave again I will always return.
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