step daughter from hell

[jlee]

My partner has 3 kids from prev marriage. The eldest is 14. She is a fking little bh. Her dad has bipolar and a personality disorder. She seems to have similar traits and he does nothing but fill her head with poison. Slagging her mother off & me. My partner wanted to go on holiday this week but ive had enough and said no. The girl is highly materialistic and acts like a spoilt st. She told me to my face that I was going to take her on holiday.

[elanfan]

If she’s so materialistic you’ve got the perfect lever to get what you want. Give her something for good behaviour but if she misbehaves then you take it away again. She’ll soon learn that if she wants something she’d better comply?

[GT03ROB]

jlee said:

The eldest is 14. She is a fking little bh.

They all do that.Teenage girls are just like that... the fact shes a step daughter has nothing to do with it!!

[zygalski]

jlee said:

...The girl is highly materialistic and acts like a spoilt st...

What's her username?

[greygoose]

I blame the stepfather.

[Parkette]

My step daughter was a nightmare from 12 through 19, she improved considerably after that but we still do not have the bond that fathers and true daughters seem to have.

My advice to you is that you do not allow her behaviour to get to you, dont respond, go to a different room or take a walk.

[anonymous-user]

elanfan said:

If she’s so materialistic you’ve got the perfect lever to get what you want.

If you get a clicker and stun belt you could try a Pavlovian experiment on her. Keep sweets for good and stun belt for bad, you will her trained in no time, might even fetch your paper.

[Alucidnation]

Leave.

[tribalsurfer]

Alucidnation said:

Leave.

Remain ? Maybe a Peoples Vote.

[Countdown]

GT03ROB said:

jlee said:

The eldest is 14. She is a fking little bh.

They all do that.Teenage girls are just like that... the fact shes a step daughter has nothing to do with it!!

Definitely not true - mine are all incredibly sweet (fortunately they take after their mum!!)

Sorry to sound harsh but kids’ behaviour reflects their upbringing.

[juice]

14 you say ? They all do that....(Speaking from experience of 2, now grown up step-daughters !)

[HTP99]

Countdown said:

GT03ROB said:

jlee said:

The eldest is 14. She is a fking little bh.

They all do that.Teenage girls are just like that... the fact shes a step daughter has nothing to do with it!!

Definitely not true - mine are all incredibly sweet (fortunately they take after their mum!!)

Sorry to sound harsh but kids’ behaviour reflects their upbringing.

Yep, my 2 daughters (now 20 and 26), had their moments; as all teenagers do, but ultimately they weren't "fking little bhes", the friends of theirs that were, it was fairly obvious why.

My colleague's fiancee has 4 kids, he has none and is never likely too now; 2 are in their 20's and the other 2 are 10 and 12; 3 different fathers.

The 12yo girl is a horror, however her father plays her off against the mum and he's not particularly reliable and in the past, the mum has let her get away with murder and pretty much waited on her and done her bidding as and when the daughter wants it so its no real surprise that she is hard work.

I admire my colleague for getting involved with some one with kids, particularly as being 44 he has no real experience with them, however I know he finds it bloody hard going; I couldn't do it, I just wouldn't want the stress and grief.

[Starfighter]

Likely to be true - poison from the father combined with testing boundaries like all teens. you need mum on board with this.
Carrot and stick - Your behaviour is not acceptable and must change. If you do (this) then I am will to ..... If you do not then WE will .....

[GT03ROB]

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GT03ROB said:

jlee said:

The eldest is 14. She is a fking little bh.

They all do that.Teenage girls are just like that... the fact shes a step daughter has nothing to do with it!!

Definitely not true - mine are all incredibly sweet (fortunately they take after their mum!!)

Sorry to sound harsh but kids’ behaviour reflects their upbringing.

The other thing teenage girls do is practice flirting with their dads to be seen as perfect little angels whilst making mums life hell while dad is at work!!

Kevin Patterson is also not far off as a depiction of teenage boys!

I'm being rather toungue in cheek before you take me too seriously, but I'm not far wide of the mark.

[sgtBerbatov]

tribalsurfer said:

Alucidnation said:

Leave.

Remain ? Maybe a Peoples Vote.

I definitely think a referendum on the subject is in order.

[Countdown]

GT03ROB said:

The other thing teenage girls do is practice flirting with their dads to be seen as perfect little angels whilst making mums life hell while dad is at work!!

Kevin Patterson is also not far off as a depiction of teenage boys!

I'm being rather toungue in cheek before you take me too seriously, but I'm not far wide of the mark.

You may have a point - my wife argues a lot more with my daughters than I do (although I’m not sure I’d class it as “flirting!!”

And my son’s behaviour is EXACTLY like KP ....

[KP328]

Countdown said:

And my son’s behaviour is EXACTLY like KP ....

U Wot !??

[cobra kid]

GT03ROB said:

They all do that.Teenage girls are just like that... the fact shes a step daughter has nothing to do with it!!

No they don't.

[Bluesgirl]

GT03ROB said:

jlee said:

The eldest is 14. She is a fking little bh.

They all do that.Teenage girls are just like that... the fact shes a step daughter has nothing to do with it!!

They aren't all like that. Being 14 is tough, whether you're a girl or a boy. There are all sorts of issues to deal with - school, siblings, parents, step-parents, friendships and relationships, physical and mental changes. You're beginning to look like an adult but still feel like a kid. There's all the crap on social media about looking this way, behaving that way, acting like you know what you're doing when you haven't a clue.

It's hard being a parent and having to deal with all that, but that's the job and you're there to protect them and provide somewhere where they feel safe and secure and where they know what the boundaries are. And yes, sometimes they behave like idiots and act like selfish, self-centred brats, but how you deal with that shows them what being an adult is all about, so they'll learn from that.

To the poster who mentioned 'the close bond between a father and daughter', it must be a wonderful thing to have, but I don't think it's very common.

[Adenauer]

Thesprucegoose said:

elanfan said:

If she’s so materialistic you’ve got the perfect lever to get what you want.

If you get a clicker and stun belt you could try a Pavlovian experiment on her. Keep sweets for good and stun belt for bad, you will her trained in no time, might even fetch your paper.

What a great time to be alive.