Just built a New Gaff - wife wants more Kids
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Morning All
We have just built a new house and the wife wants to add to the brood (2 as it stands both under the age of 5) considering the amount of space, but my reservations are Not necessarily in this order):
1. Medical risk considering we are in our late 30's
2. Number 3 means a new car.
3. Too expensive
I am really flip flopping - some days yes other days no. Whats are the thoughts on this here.
We have just built a new house and the wife wants to add to the brood (2 as it stands both under the age of 5) considering the amount of space, but my reservations are Not necessarily in this order):
1. Medical risk considering we are in our late 30's
2. Number 3 means a new car.
3. Too expensive
I am really flip flopping - some days yes other days no. Whats are the thoughts on this here.
Edited by rastapasta on Thursday 22 August 11:09
Already got a boy and a girl ? - nah
Already got two boys or girls ? - yup
We had a third towards end of last year, I was very much on the fence but don’t regret it at all now as we have added a girl to the two boys we already had.
The reduced options for what car you can get are a bit of a pain but hey ho, it’s just the family car end of the day.
Already got two boys or girls ? - yup
We had a third towards end of last year, I was very much on the fence but don’t regret it at all now as we have added a girl to the two boys we already had.
The reduced options for what car you can get are a bit of a pain but hey ho, it’s just the family car end of the day.
We have three (oldest will be 10 in October, middle one turned 4 in early July and the third will be 3 early next month).
I was content with one, happy to have a 2nd (we tried for a long time), the third was a shock and not planned, she has a completely different character to the other 2, still doesn't sleep fully through the night but we wouldn't have it any other way.
Car wise - wife still has her old CRV (skip on wheels) but I did swap out my XF sportbrake for an XC90 about 15 months ago. The two youngest share a bedroom, although I suspect at some point I will lose my office at home so that the 4th bedroom can once again be a bedroom.
We don't tend to do hotel holidays (family tickets are always 2 adults + 2 kids) but plenty of holiday cottages etc around.
Be warned though, friends of ours had 4 children, tried for 1 more and ended up having triplets...
I was content with one, happy to have a 2nd (we tried for a long time), the third was a shock and not planned, she has a completely different character to the other 2, still doesn't sleep fully through the night but we wouldn't have it any other way.
Car wise - wife still has her old CRV (skip on wheels) but I did swap out my XF sportbrake for an XC90 about 15 months ago. The two youngest share a bedroom, although I suspect at some point I will lose my office at home so that the 4th bedroom can once again be a bedroom.
We don't tend to do hotel holidays (family tickets are always 2 adults + 2 kids) but plenty of holiday cottages etc around.
Be warned though, friends of ours had 4 children, tried for 1 more and ended up having triplets...
Nickp82 said:
Already got a boy and a girl ? - nah
Already got two boys or girls ? - yup
We had a third towards end of last year, I was very much on the fence but don’t regret it at all now as we have added a girl to the two boys we already had.
The reduced options for what car you can get are a bit of a pain but hey ho, it’s just the family car end of the day.
A former boss was of this thinking. They stopped after 5 girls.Already got two boys or girls ? - yup
We had a third towards end of last year, I was very much on the fence but don’t regret it at all now as we have added a girl to the two boys we already had.
The reduced options for what car you can get are a bit of a pain but hey ho, it’s just the family car end of the day.
3+ kids has become a bit of a status symbol. All the extra costs mount up and unless you're both earning really good money, the cost of childcare means one parent can't work at all.
You are approaching this with reason.
She is approaching it with emotion.
You cannot win a debate using rationale over belief. It’s like arguing with a flat earther or Darwinism refuser.
My wife said she wanted a third, I made all the same arguments about houses, cars, cost of upbringing. One day we were on the beach and she said “when I watch our children playing I just feel that there is one missing”. At that point I realised we were not having a rational debate where factors could be balanced and an optimal decision reached by mutual agreement so I conceded gracefully.
12 years later I wouldn’t have it any other way of course. We were late 30s, there is a lot of extra support and information available to manage the risks.
She is approaching it with emotion.
You cannot win a debate using rationale over belief. It’s like arguing with a flat earther or Darwinism refuser.
My wife said she wanted a third, I made all the same arguments about houses, cars, cost of upbringing. One day we were on the beach and she said “when I watch our children playing I just feel that there is one missing”. At that point I realised we were not having a rational debate where factors could be balanced and an optimal decision reached by mutual agreement so I conceded gracefully.
12 years later I wouldn’t have it any other way of course. We were late 30s, there is a lot of extra support and information available to manage the risks.
I have four, 3 girls ( 5,4 and 2), 1 boy.(8)
The oldest ones look after the youngest. The 3 girls have just moved into the same room as each other as that is what they wanted. Downstairs playroom is now my playroom and the children's playroom is now in a vacant bedroom upstairs.
Car wise, I have a Touran for when its the entire family, but to be honest. most of the time it is me and 1 or 2 of them so can use a 'normal' car.
The oldest ones look after the youngest. The 3 girls have just moved into the same room as each other as that is what they wanted. Downstairs playroom is now my playroom and the children's playroom is now in a vacant bedroom upstairs.
Car wise, I have a Touran for when its the entire family, but to be honest. most of the time it is me and 1 or 2 of them so can use a 'normal' car.
bulldong said:
xjay1337 said:
S. Gonzales Esq. said:
There are already too many people...
YupPlus more money to spend on csa if a divorce! :-(
king hell. Is that seriously the way you people think?We all need to be responsible.
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