30+ shoot your shot
Discussion
During an evening of sampling the locals pubs finest beers, I spoke to a chap, probably 10 years younger than myself. He obviously had a thing for the similar aged bar maid and I told him (speaking from experience), shoot your shot, if she turns you down, take the cheapest road legal car you can find and drive it till you break down, live a little and get some life experience. He managed not to yell "ok boomer" but I do regret not taking this advice when I was his age. Which got me wondering...
What would a 50 or 60 year old tell someone of my age (30ish). What am I missing out on that I dont even realise? What would be the shot I dont take? I'm married with a couple of young children, what will I look back on and regret?
What would a 50 or 60 year old tell someone of my age (30ish). What am I missing out on that I dont even realise? What would be the shot I dont take? I'm married with a couple of young children, what will I look back on and regret?
Enjoy being fit and attractive. You might not think you are, but you’re comparing with other people your age. Compare with the population in general and you’ll realise you are fit and attractive.
Look for big emerging trends and shift your job to get into one early. The career canoe goes quicker down a river that’s flows quickly, and if you get in early you’ll be ahead.
Take half of your money and be sensible with it. Take the other half and be an idiot with it. Later on, you’ll need to use all of it sensibly and you’ll be sorry you weren’t an idiot when you could be.
Don’t compare yourself to other similar people. Compare yourself to people who are totally different. It’s more interesting and hurts less.
Treat success and failure as the two imposters they are (after Kipling)
If you meet someone you like but think is out of your league, have a go anyway. Sometimes local sides do surprisingly well in the FA cup.
Be nice to your parents. They may have been terrible parents, but they were no worse at it than you will be.
Use sunscreen.
Don’t worry about what is on the news. Things won’t turn out as bad as you fear. Unfortunately, things won’t turn out as good as you hoped either.
Buy a 1980s Maserati. They cannot stay this cheap forever.
Look for big emerging trends and shift your job to get into one early. The career canoe goes quicker down a river that’s flows quickly, and if you get in early you’ll be ahead.
Take half of your money and be sensible with it. Take the other half and be an idiot with it. Later on, you’ll need to use all of it sensibly and you’ll be sorry you weren’t an idiot when you could be.
Don’t compare yourself to other similar people. Compare yourself to people who are totally different. It’s more interesting and hurts less.
Treat success and failure as the two imposters they are (after Kipling)
If you meet someone you like but think is out of your league, have a go anyway. Sometimes local sides do surprisingly well in the FA cup.
Be nice to your parents. They may have been terrible parents, but they were no worse at it than you will be.
Use sunscreen.
Don’t worry about what is on the news. Things won’t turn out as bad as you fear. Unfortunately, things won’t turn out as good as you hoped either.
Buy a 1980s Maserati. They cannot stay this cheap forever.
Go with your gut but sometimes you have to do things which make you feel uncomfortable - it will only be short term pain!
Example, in 2005 ish I was offered a job in the USA, visa, place to live, good money and for a company which at the time was nothing really to write home about. It made me feel a bit out of my comfort zone and I turned it down at the last minute for stability here. A friend of mine took the job instead.
That company turned into one of the largest companies in the world. He now lives in an amazing house on the west coast and is married to a local lady who is well above his pay grade. He is now a citizen and has a very good work life balance, perfect weather and some of the best beaches and places to eat etc etc.
I can still think back and remember the exact 5 minutes which I decided... nah not for me mate.... even though it was on a plate in front of me. STUPID SOB!!!
Things have turned out ok in the end but I have a feeling I missed the opportunity of a life time back then.
Example, in 2005 ish I was offered a job in the USA, visa, place to live, good money and for a company which at the time was nothing really to write home about. It made me feel a bit out of my comfort zone and I turned it down at the last minute for stability here. A friend of mine took the job instead.
That company turned into one of the largest companies in the world. He now lives in an amazing house on the west coast and is married to a local lady who is well above his pay grade. He is now a citizen and has a very good work life balance, perfect weather and some of the best beaches and places to eat etc etc.
I can still think back and remember the exact 5 minutes which I decided... nah not for me mate.... even though it was on a plate in front of me. STUPID SOB!!!
Things have turned out ok in the end but I have a feeling I missed the opportunity of a life time back then.
67Dino said:
Enjoy being fit and attractive. You might not think you are, but you’re comparing with other people your age. Compare with the population in general and you’ll realise you are fit and attractive.
Look for big emerging trends and shift your job to get into one early. The career canoe goes quicker down a river that’s flows quickly, and if you get in early you’ll be ahead.
Take half of your money and be sensible with it. Take the other half and be an idiot with it. Later on, you’ll need to use all of it sensibly and you’ll be sorry you weren’t an idiot when you could be.
Don’t compare yourself to other similar people. Compare yourself to people who are totally different. It’s more interesting and hurts less.
Treat success and failure as the two imposters they are (after Kipling)
If you meet someone you like but think is out of your league, have a go anyway. Sometimes local sides do surprisingly well in the FA cup.
Be nice to your parents. They may have been terrible parents, but they were no worse at it than you will be.
Use sunscreen.
Don’t worry about what is on the news. Things won’t turn out as bad as you fear. Unfortunately, things won’t turn out as good as you hoped either.
Buy a 1980s Maserati. They cannot stay this cheap forever.
i love this dinoLook for big emerging trends and shift your job to get into one early. The career canoe goes quicker down a river that’s flows quickly, and if you get in early you’ll be ahead.
Take half of your money and be sensible with it. Take the other half and be an idiot with it. Later on, you’ll need to use all of it sensibly and you’ll be sorry you weren’t an idiot when you could be.
Don’t compare yourself to other similar people. Compare yourself to people who are totally different. It’s more interesting and hurts less.
Treat success and failure as the two imposters they are (after Kipling)
If you meet someone you like but think is out of your league, have a go anyway. Sometimes local sides do surprisingly well in the FA cup.
Be nice to your parents. They may have been terrible parents, but they were no worse at it than you will be.
Use sunscreen.
Don’t worry about what is on the news. Things won’t turn out as bad as you fear. Unfortunately, things won’t turn out as good as you hoped either.
Buy a 1980s Maserati. They cannot stay this cheap forever.
67Dino said:
Enjoy being fit and attractive. You might not think you are, but you’re comparing with other people your age. Compare with the population in general and you’ll realise you are fit and attractive.
Look for big emerging trends and shift your job to get into one early. The career canoe goes quicker down a river that’s flows quickly, and if you get in early you’ll be ahead.
Take half of your money and be sensible with it. Take the other half and be an idiot with it. Later on, you’ll need to use all of it sensibly and you’ll be sorry you weren’t an idiot when you could be.
Don’t compare yourself to other similar people. Compare yourself to people who are totally different. It’s more interesting and hurts less.
Treat success and failure as the two imposters they are (after Kipling)
If you meet someone you like but think is out of your league, have a go anyway. Sometimes local sides do surprisingly well in the FA cup.
Be nice to your parents. They may have been terrible parents, but they were no worse at it than you will be.
Use sunscreen.
Don’t worry about what is on the news. Things won’t turn out as bad as you fear. Unfortunately, things won’t turn out as good as you hoped either.
Buy a 1980s Maserati. They cannot stay this cheap forever.
cracking post, very well summarised Look for big emerging trends and shift your job to get into one early. The career canoe goes quicker down a river that’s flows quickly, and if you get in early you’ll be ahead.
Take half of your money and be sensible with it. Take the other half and be an idiot with it. Later on, you’ll need to use all of it sensibly and you’ll be sorry you weren’t an idiot when you could be.
Don’t compare yourself to other similar people. Compare yourself to people who are totally different. It’s more interesting and hurts less.
Treat success and failure as the two imposters they are (after Kipling)
If you meet someone you like but think is out of your league, have a go anyway. Sometimes local sides do surprisingly well in the FA cup.
Be nice to your parents. They may have been terrible parents, but they were no worse at it than you will be.
Use sunscreen.
Don’t worry about what is on the news. Things won’t turn out as bad as you fear. Unfortunately, things won’t turn out as good as you hoped either.
Buy a 1980s Maserati. They cannot stay this cheap forever.
red_slr said:
Go with your gut but sometimes you have to do things which make you feel uncomfortable - it will only be short term pain!
Example, in 2005 ish I was offered a job in the USA, visa, place to live, good money and for a company which at the time was nothing really to write home about. It made me feel a bit out of my comfort zone and I turned it down at the last minute for stability here. A friend of mine took the job instead.
That company turned into one of the largest companies in the world. He now lives in an amazing house on the west coast and is married to a local lady who is well above his pay grade. He is now a citizen and has a very good work life balance, perfect weather and some of the best beaches and places to eat etc etc.
I can still think back and remember the exact 5 minutes which I decided... nah not for me mate.... even though it was on a plate in front of me. STUPID SOB!!!
Things have turned out ok in the end but I have a feeling I missed the opportunity of a life time back then.
If it's any consolation that's probably not entirely true, the image people portray and the reality are often far from similar.Example, in 2005 ish I was offered a job in the USA, visa, place to live, good money and for a company which at the time was nothing really to write home about. It made me feel a bit out of my comfort zone and I turned it down at the last minute for stability here. A friend of mine took the job instead.
That company turned into one of the largest companies in the world. He now lives in an amazing house on the west coast and is married to a local lady who is well above his pay grade. He is now a citizen and has a very good work life balance, perfect weather and some of the best beaches and places to eat etc etc.
I can still think back and remember the exact 5 minutes which I decided... nah not for me mate.... even though it was on a plate in front of me. STUPID SOB!!!
Things have turned out ok in the end but I have a feeling I missed the opportunity of a life time back then.
Pothole said:
Take every sh@g that's offered. There will be good and not so good, but they'll all be worth it. I'm no bronzed Adonis and never was, but I still rue some opportunities I turned down...and have no idea why I did.
This is so true. I was just about to post something along these lines. I was on a single gentleman's rampage from the age of 18 until about 28-29, so managed to get a good 10 years in of sleeping with as many girls as possible, even managing to enjoy some threesomes, shagging at work, ending up at big parties after clubs where essentially all the girls took their clothes off and everyone started banging, and all sorts of other debauchery. I was a disgrace at times.
But being the pervert that I am, I still really regret not sleeping with every single girl I got the opportunity to, even the ones that weren't attractive.
It bothers me more than it should, and I have no idea why.
Pothole said:
Take every sh@g that's offered. There will be good and not so good, but they'll all be worth it. I'm no bronzed Adonis and never was, but I still rue some opportunities I turned down...and have no idea why I did.
As someone whose only 33 now, I'd give that advice to my 16 year old self, nevermind early 20's. The best piece of advice I've ever received is to appreciate what's right in front of you. Appreciate the things and people you love as one day they'll be gone. Negative visualisation is a really good tool to wake yourself up to what you've got right in front of you.
Next time you kiss your loved one goodbye in the morning realise that one day it will be the last time you do that. One day you'll have to say goodbye for the last time. Everything is on loan. You'll suffer the loss that's a given, so value these moments as one day you will look back and you'll long for them.
Next time you're caught out in the rain, rather than moan and mutter about it, tip your head back and enjoy the feeling of the rain on your face, one day (maybe next week, maybe in 40 years) you'll feel rain for the last time.
Here and Now
Next time you kiss your loved one goodbye in the morning realise that one day it will be the last time you do that. One day you'll have to say goodbye for the last time. Everything is on loan. You'll suffer the loss that's a given, so value these moments as one day you will look back and you'll long for them.
Next time you're caught out in the rain, rather than moan and mutter about it, tip your head back and enjoy the feeling of the rain on your face, one day (maybe next week, maybe in 40 years) you'll feel rain for the last time.
Here and Now
Pothole said:
Take every sh@g that's offered. There will be good and not so good, but they'll all be worth it. I'm no bronzed Adonis and never was, but I still rue some opportunities I turned down...and have no idea why I did.
Same here. There were loads of opportunities I didn't take for a variety of stupid reasons. Some I can't fathom what I was thinking.67Dino said:
citizensm1th said:
Shame it is plagiarism, its a really s
te song btw
As far as I know, only the line about sunscreen was plagiarism. I put it in because I realised I was sounding like the song. If the rest resonates, hopefully that’s because it’s true...te song btwjamest1988 said:
During an evening of sampling the locals pubs finest beers, I spoke to a chap, probably 10 years younger than myself. He obviously had a thing for the similar aged bar maid and I told him (speaking from experience), shoot your shot, if she turns you down, take the cheapest road legal car you can find and drive it till you break down, live a little and get some life experience. He managed not to yell "ok boomer" but I do regret not taking this advice when I was his age. Which got me wondering...
What would a 50 or 60 year old tell someone of my age (30ish). What am I missing out on that I dont even realise? What would be the shot I dont take? I'm married with a couple of young children, what will I look back on and regret?
Anyone else confused by this, it seems such utterly bizarre 'advice'!What would a 50 or 60 year old tell someone of my age (30ish). What am I missing out on that I dont even realise? What would be the shot I dont take? I'm married with a couple of young children, what will I look back on and regret?
You ask someone out, they turn you down, so you buy a car and drive it till it breaks down? Why? You've now (presumably) left your home and your job and your life, you're hundreds, maybe thousands of miles away (depending on how long the car lasts), stood next to a broken down car with no money and nowhere to live.
And do you do this every time?
Either I'm missing something pretty fundamental, or this is utter nonsense.
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