Lockdown and relationships

[matchmaker]

I've seen a lot in the news about increased domestic violence, marriage breakdowns, etc, during the lockdown. However, my experience is the opposite. I've been married for 35 years and with my wife for 37 years, and have now been with her virtually constantly for the past 6 weeks - the longest period we've ever been in each other's company.

We are loving it! No arguments, falling out, just really enjoying the companionship.

What are other PHers experiences?

[jonamv8]

Got a good one then

So have I tbf but I’d love to get out for night with the boys.

Also I’d love to the Mrs out too.

Lockdown with my ex would have been hell!

[jack_86]

No issues from my relationship either probably helps we aren't party animals and both don’t drink.

It will be weird when she returns to work.

[Pieman68]

Similar story here. We've been together 9 years and married for nearly 4 and can honestly say not a cross word

I'm still working (from home) so am based in the kitchen - she is running the remnants of her business virtually and has based herself in my daughter's bedroom (daughter at home with her mum for the foreseeable future)

16 year old has no schoolwork to do as his GCSEs have been cancelled so he only really surfaces for food and spends most of his time abusing his mates on the xbox

[Einion Yrth]

Very occasional spats with the missus, but no more than usual and they don't last long. Been together for over 20 years, so we're inured to each other.

[JonChalk]

As OP, really.

Together 23 years, married 18.

No more or less arguments than normal, no more or less severity than normal, even though we've probably spent more time in the house together in last 7 weeks, than previous 21 years living together!

[T1547]

Wife and I always seem to get on better the more time we spend with each other. Not that we don’t normally get on, but just seem to value each other’s company even more when we’re not rushing about as normal. Always same when we’re on holiday too. 15 years together.

[Monkeylegend]

No different really, I still let her out of the basement for 1 hour a day to do my washing,cooking and the housework, seems to be working well so....................................................................................


Oh hello darling, just telling the boys how well we have been coping with the lockdown. What.......... no.............. please..............I have only been out for 50 mins, I have another 10 mi............... ouch.

Can you tell the guys I will be back tomorrow, what do you mean I am grounded underground for the next week. Boris is easing the restrictions....................what not for me, why not?

Can I take my lap top please. Will you stop hitting me, it really hurts.

She's gone now, yep all is well, we are getting on like a house on fire,.................st I can smell burning.

It's ok, she's just cooking my dinner, should be lowered down soon..

[Badda]

She has my sympathy.

[tokyo_mb]

I'm normally a weekly commuter, so this period of lockdown/WFH has been the longest my wife and I have spent together in the last 11 years (as I am regularly only here Friday night-Monday morning). It has been a period of adjustment - particularly for her as my presence has disrupted her normal routine. That said, work has been really full on even though working from home, meaning that I have been physically present but not really "present" in the week (regularly working 0800-2200+ with breaks for coffee, lunch and dinner).

That said, we get on as well as ever and make a good team so no real concerns from a relationship perspective. We're treating this as a trial run for when I semi-retire (hopefully sometime in the latter half of the next 10 years) and will be here more continuously.

[Sheetmaself]

Been in relationship now for about 6 months and 2 weeks!

When this corona virus started forcing us into lockdown we had a chat and decided to either let it make or break us as both in 40s so not really going to change too much.

So far so good, there has been one or two wobbles where we just needed to clear the air with things that annoyed us but 99% positive. So much so that at the end of this we are looking to buy a permanent home together.

Definitely wouldn’t of moved this quick without the forced isolation but it’s working for us and we figure if it’s okay now then it will be even easier when we can get back to spending the odd evening out or with other friends giving that bit of space back.

[rxtx]

We've both been working from home for a couple of months now, it's quite normal for me but not my other half. We've been living together for twelve years but got engaged two weeks ago. No rush

[Royal Jelly]

We’ve had a lot of fun. That said, we’re used to having extended periods of time together - not months, but a week or more is fairly normal.

It’s the people that are finding this all a bit difficult that I feel sorry for. Life must be a daunting thing!

[mdavids]

Only had 2 minor arguments, about 1 month between each one

[croyde]

The lockdown separated us, as both in different homes.

As of yesterday it looks like it has permanently separated us.

Maybe it was destined to happen at some point but still a shock.

[Baldchap]

I basically retired in 2017 and we've spent the majority of our time together since. Lockdown is no change for us, albeit we go to pubs and restaurants less.

[Petrolism]

No change here. I stopped drinking at bars and stuff when we met 20 years ago. I've worked from home here in the countryside, since 2008 and we love spending time together as a family or alone together. Feel sorry for those who have been under lockdown alone.

[toon10]

Been together 9 years and we're fine. The only drama in our house is when our 4 year old tests us both. We are both working from home but I have a home office and she is in the kitchen which helps. Our evenings are spent pretty much the same as when I was at the office. Sometimes we are in the lounge watching Netflix together, sometimes she is in the family room while I'm in the snug playing call of duty. I think having a bit of separation helps and we are lucky to have a few rooms to escape to. We got the garage converted into a summer house just before lockdown so we even have date nights where we play pool, have a drink and listen to music. In the past, I would have went to my friends or had a mate over to play pool with instead so it's nice to have a bit of us time.

[Spare tyre]

My new patio is really coming along nicely

[Mafffew]

Been with my fiance for 6 years. No real change in our relationship, she's been cramming for exams so is naturally a bit stressed. I've still been able to get out and go to work, which I think has helped me too, I think I would struggle staying home for so long.

The weekends are a bit dull as we can't go out and do the things we like.