Friends 40th - What to to do!
Friends 40th - What to to do!
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joestifff

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890 posts

135 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Usually I could come up with loads of ideas, but the way the world is, this is proving to be an issue.

Obviously, during current state of affairs, I am asking this on behalf of his fiancé (as I wont be able to be involved, social distancing innit). They were meant to get married last year, and probably not this year now, and it's his 40th, and just wants to do something special.

But with current restrictions what can you do?

He is into bikes, cars, drinking, football etc, normal down the pub type of lad. She wants to do something more than steak and a blowie.

We have thought of hot tub hire, camper van hire (is that even allowed) just something different from the last year of sitting on the sofa and having a drink.

So I have come to the collective PH on her behalf for inspiration.

omniflow

3,829 posts

180 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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In theory anything related to "recreation" is not allowed - so camper van hire is probably a no-no.

I think she'll be restricted to something in the home.

The only marginally interesting things I can think of are related to food and drink. Figure out his favourite cuisine, and then find a good quality restaurant of that type that does these meal-at-home things. Likewise with drink - figure out his favourites and then source the very best of that type (well - if it's wine, probably not the very best as that might work out a bit pricey).

Basically - push the boat out on the food and drink - not just steak etc.

The other option is to pretend he's 39 and do it properly next year.

sherman

15,222 posts

244 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Go with the nice meal in the home and an IOU for birthday treat when allowed.

Dromedary66

1,924 posts

167 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Anal.

Dan_1981

18,097 posts

228 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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When his actual birthday?

This side of spring or later in the year?

GreatGranny

9,519 posts

255 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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I couldn't think of anything worse than sex pond hot tub hire with what's going on smile

I'd be scrubbing my bits with dettol for weeks after!

As has been suggested, get the best of what he likes regarding food and drink, maybe a supercar experience for when it's allowed.


Troubleatmill

10,210 posts

188 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Then when you hit your winning recipe...you can name it and order bottles of it. https://www.masterofmalt.com/blend-your-own-whisky...

Is one of his sports heros/ fav singers etc on Cameo.com ? Get a personalised video message.

Sponsor a guide dog in his name - and he can follow its progress over its training.


anonymous-user

83 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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joestifff said:
She wants to do something more than steak and a blowie.
Ironically, this is probably what he would ask for given the choice. I suspect the reality is she doesn't feel she needs to do this anymore as they are engaged now.

joestifff

Original Poster:

890 posts

135 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Dromedary66 said:
Anal.
I said that, he is not that into it she said!

joestifff

Original Poster:

890 posts

135 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Joey Deacon said:
Ironically, this is probably what he would ask for given the choice. I suspect the reality is she doesn't feel she needs to do this anymore as they are engaged now.
Quite agree, as a married man myself, this stopped a long time ago for me.

crofty1984

17,064 posts

233 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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joestifff said:
Dromedary66 said:
Anal.
I said that, he is not that into it she said!
Maybe she needs to be more gentle.

i4got

5,929 posts

107 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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joestifff said:
Dromedary66 said:
Anal.
I said that, he is not that into it she said!
Glad you worked out he was talking about the girlfriend. I thought it was taking friendship a bit far personally.

omniflow

3,829 posts

180 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Just had an email from a local fine dining restaurant (The Artichoke in Amersham) - they're doing 5 course "Dine at Home" for £65 / head. I'm pretty sure they'll be plenty of other places doing this too.

Jamescrs

6,381 posts

94 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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In a similar position to your friend in so far as I'm 40 on the 1st March. I wanted to have a weekend away but in reality at this point ill be lucky to get past the end of the drive way. Due to whats going on. I was also planning on buying myself a special watch for my 40th but again, will be lucky if anywhere is open and ordering online takes away the experience of it.

At the moment I think the liklihood as someone above said is forget it and do it next year instead, I dont think that's being down about it, its just realistic.


768

20,678 posts

125 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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joestifff said:
She wants to do something more than steak and a blowie.
Gutted for him. Nevermind, there's always 41.

ntiz

2,673 posts

165 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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My mate is into flying so I got him a voucher for a aerobatic experience. It’s Covid guaranteed so he can book it for whenever he can go. I would do something like that and order in for a good restaurant, managed to get lobster etc delivered for my wedding anniversary last year was surprisingly special.

I’m turning 30 next month my wife is going bonkers she has had 3 really good plans wrecked in consecutive weeks laugh it’s looking like a Palmer sport day.

Jockinthebox

151 posts

128 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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How about a private dining experience at home?
www.privatechefron.com comes highly recommended

Hub

7,130 posts

227 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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Jamescrs said:
In a similar position to your friend in so far as I'm 40 on the 1st March.
Mine is at the end of the month. I think the maximum excitement will be getting to choose which film we watch on the telly! cry

More gutting by the fact that our 10yr wedding anniversary was also affected, and we haven't had any time away from the kids for a very long time!

lost in espace

6,587 posts

236 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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My wife simply deferred her 50th to next year. And wants a cruise.

deckster

9,631 posts

284 months

Monday 11th January 2021
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joestifff said:
Dromedary66 said:
Anal.
I said that, he is not that into it she said!
scratchchin

Of course he's not.