Neighbours moaning my kid is waking them up early
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So we received a message from our neighbours today moaning that the past few weeks/months our little boy wakes them up when he gets up (between 6 and 6:30). I assume it's because he runs from his room into ours and the sound travels into their house, we live in an old 50's semi detached with suspended floors and a solid wall between the 2 houses so sounds do travel quite freely between the houses and in some cases often sound amplified.
Not really sure how to tackle this one as our little boy is only 4 and doesn't fully understand he can't run around upstairs when he first wakes up, even though we try our best to get him to be quiet. We've just responded for now saying we'll try our best to get him to be quiet but until he gets a bit older and fully understands it might still happen every so often.
Neighbours are in their early 30's and moved in about 6 months ago, a bit of me thinks well you could have done you're homework and realised you're moving next door to a family with a young kid but I guess they also don't realise kids his age get up early and are instantly ready to tackle the day?
Not really sure how to tackle this one as our little boy is only 4 and doesn't fully understand he can't run around upstairs when he first wakes up, even though we try our best to get him to be quiet. We've just responded for now saying we'll try our best to get him to be quiet but until he gets a bit older and fully understands it might still happen every so often.
Neighbours are in their early 30's and moved in about 6 months ago, a bit of me thinks well you could have done you're homework and realised you're moving next door to a family with a young kid but I guess they also don't realise kids his age get up early and are instantly ready to tackle the day?
Frozen sausa......
A door knock and a sensible chat. If they're reasonable, they'll understand and it won't be an issue.
If they're unreasonable, then nothing you can do will keep them quiet and you'll carry on getting silly notes.
My little boy is 3, autistic and very much enjoys running around and making the noise. The lady next door has lived there over 50 years and accepts that a noisy toddler is part and parcel of living in a terraced house.
A door knock and a sensible chat. If they're reasonable, they'll understand and it won't be an issue.
If they're unreasonable, then nothing you can do will keep them quiet and you'll carry on getting silly notes.
My little boy is 3, autistic and very much enjoys running around and making the noise. The lady next door has lived there over 50 years and accepts that a noisy toddler is part and parcel of living in a terraced house.
We still have this with neighbours 18 years later.
It's yelling on computer games now rather than running.
Neighbours don't like it and neither do I. We also don't like hearing neighbour's wife singing loudly to her baby at 6am.
If your neighbours don't like it they should have bought detached.
I now live in a tiny one bedroom flat where I can listen quite clearly to next doors television, as I'm sure he can hear mine, and I can hear them downstairs when they are chatting.
Thank heavens no one plays loud music but in general people are well behaved in my block.
I miss my detached cottage in the country.
It's yelling on computer games now rather than running.
Neighbours don't like it and neither do I. We also don't like hearing neighbour's wife singing loudly to her baby at 6am.
If your neighbours don't like it they should have bought detached.
I now live in a tiny one bedroom flat where I can listen quite clearly to next doors television, as I'm sure he can hear mine, and I can hear them downstairs when they are chatting.
Thank heavens no one plays loud music but in general people are well behaved in my block.
I miss my detached cottage in the country.
We have had the last three years living above a young family with a new born and a 2/3 year old when we moved in. It was horrendous (The baby had the most blood curdling scream I've ever heard and went on for hours a day) but we moved in above a family with very young children so what did we expect?
The day they moved out, we popped a bottle of prosecco (we're saving for a house, the champers can wait)
Tell them very politely to do one.
The day they moved out, we popped a bottle of prosecco (we're saving for a house, the champers can wait)
Tell them very politely to do one.
J8 SVG said:
We have had the last three years living above a young family with a new born and a 2/3 year old when we moved in. It was horrendous (The baby had the most blood curdling scream I've ever heard and went on for hours a day) but we moved in above a family with very young children so what did we expect?
The day they moved out, we popped a bottle of prosecco (we're saving for a house, the champers can wait)
Tell them very politely to do one.
Careful what you wish for. I sincerely hope it's not a family with teens that moves in next. The day they moved out, we popped a bottle of prosecco (we're saving for a house, the champers can wait)
Tell them very politely to do one.
Full on screaming arguments at all hours, all night Fortnite gaming or similar, vomiting yoof parties etc
Fingers crossed for you.
kup, they should probably consider themselves to be getting off lightly.6am isn't that early. Kids can be noisy, wouldn't worry about it. Surely they should be getting up about then to go to work anyway ;-)
I'm aware that our kids can make a bit of noise, but it's easiest to just let them get it out of their system for a few minutes than they'll calm down rather than me making more noise by shouting at them. If they get up too early though we just send them downstairs (solid floors, stick TV on low for a bit). Next door neighbour has a dog that barks, he's been on a DIY mission for the last few months and we hear him practicing piano now and again. No-one has complained about anything. It's a semi detached house, you're always going to get some noise transmission.
I'm aware that our kids can make a bit of noise, but it's easiest to just let them get it out of their system for a few minutes than they'll calm down rather than me making more noise by shouting at them. If they get up too early though we just send them downstairs (solid floors, stick TV on low for a bit). Next door neighbour has a dog that barks, he's been on a DIY mission for the last few months and we hear him practicing piano now and again. No-one has complained about anything. It's a semi detached house, you're always going to get some noise transmission.
Edited by lufbramatt on Tuesday 16th March 11:10
Thanks all for the positive responses on our behalf, I know how these threads can go and was half expecting some of the responses to tell me I should be controlling my son in a better manor. I think I'm struggling with the concept as I don't think my son's really doing anything wrong, he just wakes up excited to come and see me and the wife, at best we have about a year of that left before he just gets up and grabs the ipad or flicks on some cartoons, so I'm a bit reluctant to moan at him about it.
As suggested above when I next see them I'll try to have a sensible chat with them about it. I think they are intending on having kids so not sure if they think they'll have a baby that doesn't cry at all hours in the night and wake us up...but they'll get a bit more understanding from our side having been there once ourselves before.
As suggested above when I next see them I'll try to have a sensible chat with them about it. I think they are intending on having kids so not sure if they think they'll have a baby that doesn't cry at all hours in the night and wake us up...but they'll get a bit more understanding from our side having been there once ourselves before.
popeyewhite said:
Noise is noise, whether it comes from a child or TV. Apologise even if you don't want to, say you'll do your best. Good neighbours are a rarity and if you plan staying there... .
Good point. The source of the sound is irrelevant. Comments about detached houses come across as somewhat snide
Wait until you live in a flat - the old boy above me is deaf as a plank and loved to blast his music at silly AM, when getting into the shower - think 7am at the weekend (I work silly hours) - thankfully a knock at the door from me (19st) having just been woken up (again) and wearing just my pants sorted it out. I tolerate it after ~9am as normal domestic noise even of the news at 10am (loud enough to hear in the bedroom) is a bit annoying.
Funniest is working from home - c2pm one weekday afternoon and I hear the old boy playing porn, loudly on his TV - surprising stamina for a bloke that must be mid-70's!
Funniest is working from home - c2pm one weekday afternoon and I hear the old boy playing porn, loudly on his TV - surprising stamina for a bloke that must be mid-70's!
I've been on both sides of this, and am regularly reminding my two that we share a wall with our neighbours and their shouting and stomping can be heard. Yes, kids can be noisy at times but 4 is old enough to be learning that early in the morning isn't the time.
On a practical note, get a gro-clock. Ours set it themselves in the evening, know that they at least have to be quiet (reading or playing quietly) until the sun is up.
On a practical note, get a gro-clock. Ours set it themselves in the evening, know that they at least have to be quiet (reading or playing quietly) until the sun is up.
We have had new neighbours move in this month. I thought it totally inconsiderate of them to come round to introduce themselves at 2am and interrupt me when I was half way through practicing my 3 hour drum solo.
Just take your children into the street with a pistol in your hand. Hold the gun to the child’s head whilst shouting at the top of your voice and pointing at them looking out of the window “IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT ME TO DO YOU MISERABLE bleep? WELL IS IT PUNK?”
Just take your children into the street with a pistol in your hand. Hold the gun to the child’s head whilst shouting at the top of your voice and pointing at them looking out of the window “IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT ME TO DO YOU MISERABLE bleep? WELL IS IT PUNK?”
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