I’m not passionate about anything
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When I was a teenager, I was extremely knowledgeable and proficient about the subjects I was passionate about, and anything new I turned my hand to turned to gold.
Now I'm in my early thirties, my enthusiasm for these subjects has not only gone but it hasn’t been replaced by anything, at least not to the same degree.
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Does anyone else feel this way?
Now I'm in my early thirties, my enthusiasm for these subjects has not only gone but it hasn’t been replaced by anything, at least not to the same degree.
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Does anyone else feel this way?
3xAAA said:
When I was a teenager, I was extremely knowledgeable and proficient about the subjects I was passionate about, and anything new I turned my hand to turned to gold.
Now I'm in my early thirties, my enthusiasm for these subjects has not only gone but it hasn’t been replaced by anything, at least not to the same degree.
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Does anyone else feel this way?
3xAAA: Perhaps you are a bit 'run down' & could do with a 'charge'.Now I'm in my early thirties, my enthusiasm for these subjects has not only gone but it hasn’t been replaced by anything, at least not to the same degree.
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Does anyone else feel this way?
Seriously, it's age - I'm mid 50's and I look back with envy at my recollection of how passionate and enthusiastic I was back in my early 30's!
I used to do too many things, and most of them only averagely because there would be too much of a timegap between getting experience and losing experience. So I decided to concentrate on my favourites:
Caving/mine exploring (which I also combine with photography)
Mountain biking (because I ride with Vikingette2)
I set myself additional challenges each year of things I want to do, so this year I want to learn to sail or kayak.
Caving/mine exploring (which I also combine with photography)
Mountain biking (because I ride with Vikingette2)
I set myself additional challenges each year of things I want to do, so this year I want to learn to sail or kayak.
3xAAA said:
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Learning is a bit of a skill in itself. I started playing cello at 40 and it's going well.Could be you're going through a phase of being "satisfied" for want of a better word, and there's nothing at all wrong with that.
In a similar vein, I don't get 'excited' about anything, haven't done for years, and by that I mean the actual feelings inside of proper excitement, butterflies and so on. I get excited mentally in that I tell myself something really good is happening tomorrow and so I am looking forward to it, but actual feelings inside......nothing.
For example, if I was heading off on holiday to Vegas tomorrow, I'd be really looking forward to it, I know I was going to have the best time ever, but inside I'd be feeling totally normal and like any other day.
Maybe I'm dead inside?
For example, if I was heading off on holiday to Vegas tomorrow, I'd be really looking forward to it, I know I was going to have the best time ever, but inside I'd be feeling totally normal and like any other day.
Maybe I'm dead inside?
I am very lucky to be passionate about a whole bunch of things, on many different levels.
And honestly the only people I meet very often who have no passion for anything outside family, kids, job are women!!
Seriously, I spent years on dating websites, and finding a woman with any kind of passion for ANYTHING outside fitness, work, family, kids was very very difficult. The most common is music obviously.
I realise they are very common things that I do not take any interest in, but I do find it odd that a lot of people go through life taking no interest in anything outside those things other than perhaps the odd holiday.
but then I guess I am different.
And honestly the only people I meet very often who have no passion for anything outside family, kids, job are women!!
Seriously, I spent years on dating websites, and finding a woman with any kind of passion for ANYTHING outside fitness, work, family, kids was very very difficult. The most common is music obviously.
I realise they are very common things that I do not take any interest in, but I do find it odd that a lot of people go through life taking no interest in anything outside those things other than perhaps the odd holiday.
but then I guess I am different.
3xAAA said:
When I was a teenager, I was extremely knowledgeable and proficient about the subjects I was passionate about, and anything new I turned my hand to turned to gold.
Now I'm in my early thirties, my enthusiasm for these subjects has not only gone but it hasn’t been replaced by anything, at least not to the same degree.
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Does anyone else feel this way?
This rings true with me - I have been feeling like that for the last 10 years. Now I'm in my early thirties, my enthusiasm for these subjects has not only gone but it hasn’t been replaced by anything, at least not to the same degree.
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Unless it’s not that, but more to do with the fact that your brain is very malleable when you are young, and now I’m older, it’s more difficult to learn new skills?
Does anyone else feel this way?
You’ve got some hobbies and things you enjoy doing, that sounds pretty rewarding tbh.
It’s not all about goals and orgasmic enthusiasm it’s about enjoying the journey and finding things you like and enjoying life whilst it’s happening not always looking to some idealised future
I’ve got loads of hobbies and sports I like, I doubt I’d say I’m “passionate” about any of them.
Most of these t
ts you see online with ridiculous over the top enthusiasm, are actually fighting all sorts of demons.
It’s not all about goals and orgasmic enthusiasm it’s about enjoying the journey and finding things you like and enjoying life whilst it’s happening not always looking to some idealised future
I’ve got loads of hobbies and sports I like, I doubt I’d say I’m “passionate” about any of them.
Most of these t
ts you see online with ridiculous over the top enthusiasm, are actually fighting all sorts of demons. 3xAAA said:
I’ve got various hobbies/sports, but I’m an amateur in all of them, and I have zero interest in actually getting any better.
I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Sounds like a good thing to me. Once you really start to become at something the competitive element starts to kick in and erodes the actual enjoyment of doing whatever it is. Also you’re likely to get drawn into a never-ending cycle of “needing” ever better gear which is expensive and a bit draining.I do enjoy them, but at the same time, I’m a bit jaded and have a short attention span.
Basically if you enjoy your hobbies just be happy and satisfied with that.
PS as mentioned above already, people waffling on about being “passionate” all the time usually want a good punching (not you OP
); it’s just another over used buzzword. I don’t really mind Robbie Savage but after last night’s Wales match in the Euros he just wouldn’t shut up about how passionate they were and the ankle of my kicking leg started to twitch. He’s got previous with the “p” word from the last Euros in 2018 when Wales did quite well. Needs to learn a new word.Edited by shih tzu faced on Thursday 17th June 14:06
Edited by shih tzu faced on Thursday 17th June 14:18
I find myself a lot less enthusiastic about things these days. I used to have various interests that I threw myself into.
Was a keen photographer for 15 years, got really good at it, ended up with £6k worth of kit, and was doing a bit of photography for various magazines, publications, and products in my spare time. Last year came and I sold every last bit of my camera equipment as I suddenly realised I wasn’t enjoying it, and couldn’t be arsed anymore.
I have always been massively into cars and bikes, and until two years ago had a couple of superbikes, a DB9, a couple of air cooled 911’s, and various other fun vehicles. I then sold everything apart from mine and my wifes daily drivers, and then felt strangely relieved. Like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and I didn’t have to worry about all the toys in my garage anymore. What was going to break down next, what it was going to cost, what would fail an MOT, worry about blobs of rust appearing or a fluid leak, all that sort of thing. I honestly don’t miss cars at the moment. A friend asked me if I wanted to come out in his new Lambo the other week, and I genuinely couldn’t be arsed as I was happy doing stuff at home that day.
Was really keen on collecting music. Had a big vinyl collection and some nice turntables and speakers. Sold it all at the same time as I sold the cars. Now I just use Apple Music, have my own playlists, and a couple of Sonos speakers for everything, and I’m actually happier and listening to more music than before.
Was also into shooting for years. I own some nice shotguns. Enjoyed clays and driven game. Haven’t shot for 18 months now and will probably sell the guns.
I pretty much don’t do a lot in my spare time apart from just enjoying time with the wife, going for walks, seeing friends and family, meeting people for food and drink, and pottering around my house and garden improving stuff.
At the age of 41, I’ve worked out that I’m a ‘less is more’ type person. I enjoy life more if it is simplified and I don’t have numerous collections of items to think about or worry about.
Was a keen photographer for 15 years, got really good at it, ended up with £6k worth of kit, and was doing a bit of photography for various magazines, publications, and products in my spare time. Last year came and I sold every last bit of my camera equipment as I suddenly realised I wasn’t enjoying it, and couldn’t be arsed anymore.
I have always been massively into cars and bikes, and until two years ago had a couple of superbikes, a DB9, a couple of air cooled 911’s, and various other fun vehicles. I then sold everything apart from mine and my wifes daily drivers, and then felt strangely relieved. Like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and I didn’t have to worry about all the toys in my garage anymore. What was going to break down next, what it was going to cost, what would fail an MOT, worry about blobs of rust appearing or a fluid leak, all that sort of thing. I honestly don’t miss cars at the moment. A friend asked me if I wanted to come out in his new Lambo the other week, and I genuinely couldn’t be arsed as I was happy doing stuff at home that day.
Was really keen on collecting music. Had a big vinyl collection and some nice turntables and speakers. Sold it all at the same time as I sold the cars. Now I just use Apple Music, have my own playlists, and a couple of Sonos speakers for everything, and I’m actually happier and listening to more music than before.
Was also into shooting for years. I own some nice shotguns. Enjoyed clays and driven game. Haven’t shot for 18 months now and will probably sell the guns.
I pretty much don’t do a lot in my spare time apart from just enjoying time with the wife, going for walks, seeing friends and family, meeting people for food and drink, and pottering around my house and garden improving stuff.
At the age of 41, I’ve worked out that I’m a ‘less is more’ type person. I enjoy life more if it is simplified and I don’t have numerous collections of items to think about or worry about.
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