Does this person think I will 'struggle in the real world'?
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Do you think the person who said the advice (below) to me is a friend? What do they mean by 'struggle in the real world'? Do they think I will?
Someone I went to school with gave me the following advice about settling in at uni. Do you think they are a friend, and is this good advice. What do they mean by 'struggle in the real world'? Does this message suggest that they think I will?
"Hey, _ is great exams start on the 17th so stress levels are at a reasonable high of course.
Had any exams yet yourself? Fear of failure is also what drives me but also the fear of letting people down.
You just have to take a step back.
Back in November we had a quantum mechanics exam. Through the whole of the semester I just struggled and no matter who tried to help or what I did I just couldn't do it. When it came to revision I spent so much time on that I knew I was neglecting the others. But then I took a step back and realised it was only worth a 􏰂fth of a whole module so I scraped a pass but aced the others. Its a tough question mate as everyone is different. I don't think ive ever let the fear win so to speak.
I've always had sport to let out stress.
I've been at the same low points as you where I just feel I cant do it anymore or im not smart enough. But everybody has. You just have to realise its not the end of the world. How do I deal with it? Another tough one. Usually its through a bit of self belief. Giving myself a shake and saying it can be done. Bit of a crap thing but it has to be done otherwise you'll never get out of it.
The important thing is to not shut yourself off from the world.
you'd think my 􏰂rst port if call would be family but its actually Mr _ and my course mates.
as none of my family have been to uni they don't understand. But does. He usually puts things into perspective or gives me ideas of what to do.
Also my course mates are usually having similar thoughts and uts good to talk about it. For instance this week we've been meeting to go through papers and its just good to talk it out. Another lame one i know but it works. The perfectionist battle is I going but in reality nobody is perfect.
Socialising is great so don't pull back. It all well and good doing well in exams but we are all working towards getting a job and if you don't have good communication, teamwork or a personality then you'll struggle in the real world. Thats what uni is for. Coping strategies. If there is one thing you need to know. You cant learn everything from a book, website, article or YouTube. So i guess to conclude, id have to say you have to 􏰂nd the best coping method for you.
Experiment. Whether it is taking a step back and realising how much something is actually worth; letting off steam from sport; or just talking to someone who has been through it. Its all relative.
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There is no magic f i􏰂x. We will probably have to deal with fear of failure for the rest if our lives.
have you thought about any teachers back at school you got on well with or close friends. Im always available if you just want to rant. Thats what i usually need, a good rant and sometimes a cry. Don't bottle it. If i think of anything else ill let you know. But dont hesitate to message me or text. 077********"
Does this person think I will 'struggle in the real world'?
Someone I went to school with gave me the following advice about settling in at uni. Do you think they are a friend, and is this good advice. What do they mean by 'struggle in the real world'? Does this message suggest that they think I will?
"Hey, _ is great exams start on the 17th so stress levels are at a reasonable high of course.
Had any exams yet yourself? Fear of failure is also what drives me but also the fear of letting people down.
You just have to take a step back.
Back in November we had a quantum mechanics exam. Through the whole of the semester I just struggled and no matter who tried to help or what I did I just couldn't do it. When it came to revision I spent so much time on that I knew I was neglecting the others. But then I took a step back and realised it was only worth a 􏰂fth of a whole module so I scraped a pass but aced the others. Its a tough question mate as everyone is different. I don't think ive ever let the fear win so to speak.
I've always had sport to let out stress.
I've been at the same low points as you where I just feel I cant do it anymore or im not smart enough. But everybody has. You just have to realise its not the end of the world. How do I deal with it? Another tough one. Usually its through a bit of self belief. Giving myself a shake and saying it can be done. Bit of a crap thing but it has to be done otherwise you'll never get out of it.
The important thing is to not shut yourself off from the world.
you'd think my 􏰂rst port if call would be family but its actually Mr _ and my course mates.
as none of my family have been to uni they don't understand. But does. He usually puts things into perspective or gives me ideas of what to do.
Also my course mates are usually having similar thoughts and uts good to talk about it. For instance this week we've been meeting to go through papers and its just good to talk it out. Another lame one i know but it works. The perfectionist battle is I going but in reality nobody is perfect.
Socialising is great so don't pull back. It all well and good doing well in exams but we are all working towards getting a job and if you don't have good communication, teamwork or a personality then you'll struggle in the real world. Thats what uni is for. Coping strategies. If there is one thing you need to know. You cant learn everything from a book, website, article or YouTube. So i guess to conclude, id have to say you have to 􏰂nd the best coping method for you.
Experiment. Whether it is taking a step back and realising how much something is actually worth; letting off steam from sport; or just talking to someone who has been through it. Its all relative.
􏰀

There is no magic f i􏰂x. We will probably have to deal with fear of failure for the rest if our lives.
have you thought about any teachers back at school you got on well with or close friends. Im always available if you just want to rant. Thats what i usually need, a good rant and sometimes a cry. Don't bottle it. If i think of anything else ill let you know. But dont hesitate to message me or text. 077********"
Does this person think I will 'struggle in the real world'?
To those who have said 'yes and no' - what do you mean by that?
No, I am a real person - and one that struggles greatly with social interpretation. Give me a Text Captcha if you want to check and I will pass with flying colours, lol. Social interpretation? Maybe not...
Do you think that they are a friend ?
No, I am a real person - and one that struggles greatly with social interpretation. Give me a Text Captcha if you want to check and I will pass with flying colours, lol. Social interpretation? Maybe not...
Do you think that they are a friend ?
CoolHands said:
By the way everyone this is not a real person
That's right - so I disclose a disability in this thread (Aspergers Syndrome) and you think that it is acceptable to call me 'not a real person'. What total scum you are - on par with the racist thugs who thought it was acceptable to abuse Rashford, Saka and Sancho on Sunday. Hang your head in shame. SamD38 said:
CoolHands said:
By the way everyone this is not a real person
That's right - so I disclose a disability in this thread (Aspergers Syndrome) and you think that it is acceptable to call me 'not a real person'. What total scum you are - on par with the racist thugs who thought it was acceptable to abuse Rashford, Saka and Sancho on Sunday. Hang your head in shame. rix said:
Do you have a tub of Birds custard available?
He does but it went out of date in March 2020...https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=...
red_slr said:
He does but it went out of date in March 2020...
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=...
Very oddhttps://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=...
red_slr said:
rix said:
Do you have a tub of Birds custard available?
He does but it went out of date in March 2020...https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=...
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