Leaving kids at home....
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Im planning a surprise trip away abroad for 3 nights for the OT's birthday, years ago this would had been fine for us world was our oyster but I've got a 18month old so we aren't as flexible.
Parents will be looking after them for the 3 nights but I'm having doubts and guilt trips in my head as to whether this is just a selfish act.
We did have a night away before xmas so we've left him with folks before albeit he was younger.
Am I just being OTT? Do I not make it a surprise and come clean making it a joint decision so easier?
Parents will be looking after them for the 3 nights but I'm having doubts and guilt trips in my head as to whether this is just a selfish act.
We did have a night away before xmas so we've left him with folks before albeit he was younger.
Am I just being OTT? Do I not make it a surprise and come clean making it a joint decision so easier?
The bit I most remember about The Female Eunuch by Germaine Greer is how she talks of how modern western families have got used to having their own homes separate from others in their wider families such as grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. So the kids get used to just being with their parents and especially their mums. Kids should get used to being with the whole of their families. It's how we have evolved to be and it helps us mature and become independent.
BoRED S2upid said:
3 nights is a big ask IMO. Nobody knows how a 18 month old will be without mum and dad for 3 days and you can’t just pop back.
Been ok'd I'm bricking it a bit of he gets ill in the run up as that's the only time he gets hard work at night. He has done overnighters before. I will be a train ride away tbh as its a Paris trip.
Maybe cutting down to two nights is more sensible.
Digger said:
Miscellaneous question & apologies for asking. What does OT stand for? I assume it is for your partner / wife? It is the T that is confusing me. 
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=OT...Edited by PHZero on Monday 24th January 22:12
PHZero said:
Digger said:
Miscellaneous question & apologies for asking. What does OT stand for? I assume it is for your partner / wife? It is the T that is confusing me.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=OT&=true . . .i assume a typo . . . OH ? Other Half.Oh well, carry on
Mine is the same age but is not an easy one and is a proper handful in the day and is very active, and even though he hasn’t woke out of turn since he was 5 months old I think i would call it at 2 nights myself. (Not least because 3 in Paris is too long anyway 
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It also means that they won’t be put off too much for doing it again at some point, with 3 they’ll be glad to see the back of him for a while
That all said I’ve seen other kids that literally just sit there and play/watch TV so i may think differently if mine did that.
)It also means that they won’t be put off too much for doing it again at some point, with 3 they’ll be glad to see the back of him for a while
That all said I’ve seen other kids that literally just sit there and play/watch TV so i may think differently if mine did that.
Digger said:
PHZero said:
Digger said:
Miscellaneous question & apologies for asking. What does OT stand for? I assume it is for your partner / wife? It is the T that is confusing me.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=OT&=true . . .i assume a typo . . . OH ? Other Half.Oh well, carry on
Why feel guilty you aren't leaving them with random strangers, it's their grandparents.
If they are happy to look after them then go enjoy your holiday.
3 days isn't that long.
Some people don't have that kind of help on hand so end up not even being able to get away for themselves.
It also gets the kids used to being around different people instead of depending on you guys so much.
If they are happy to look after them then go enjoy your holiday.
3 days isn't that long.
Some people don't have that kind of help on hand so end up not even being able to get away for themselves.
It also gets the kids used to being around different people instead of depending on you guys so much.
We're doing it next month to go abroad (surprise trip for my g/f's 40th which was actually 2 years ago but we was buying a house then covid and young baby)
Ours will be 2 and a half. we're away for 4 nights but he's effectively being split between the grandparents for 5 nights. He's pretty good at night and busy during the day but the grandparents don't seem to mind in fact they seem more upset when i suggest giving them a break on one of their scheduled days to have him.
we may well facetime him if hes asking for us but no doubt he'll be having mountains of funny with the grandparents and we'll miss him more that the other way round. hes actually more concerned with us going on a plane so we can bring him a paw patrol toy home as thats where he thinks they come from lol
Ours will be 2 and a half. we're away for 4 nights but he's effectively being split between the grandparents for 5 nights. He's pretty good at night and busy during the day but the grandparents don't seem to mind in fact they seem more upset when i suggest giving them a break on one of their scheduled days to have him.
we may well facetime him if hes asking for us but no doubt he'll be having mountains of funny with the grandparents and we'll miss him more that the other way round. hes actually more concerned with us going on a plane so we can bring him a paw patrol toy home as thats where he thinks they come from lol
Biggest question is the age of the grandparents.
If they’re 50s or early 60s and fairly active then probably no problem. Any older, or if they have any mobility issues, then not so good an idea.
Our son is 7, my mum was 75 when he was born. She’s happy to do one night but finds any more than that tiring. That baby is gonna be awake at 6am and need 12hrs of attention every day, naps aside.
If they’re 50s or early 60s and fairly active then probably no problem. Any older, or if they have any mobility issues, then not so good an idea.
Our son is 7, my mum was 75 when he was born. She’s happy to do one night but finds any more than that tiring. That baby is gonna be awake at 6am and need 12hrs of attention every day, naps aside.
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