Why be a good person?
Why be a good person?
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Skeptisk

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8,897 posts

138 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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There is no evidence for the existence of god(s), an afterlife, heaven or hell or reincarnation. In fact they would be inconsistent with everything we do know about reality and the history of the universe. So when you die, you just disappear and your body rots.

If there is no afterlife and no one is judging you then the most rational approach to life would be to be selfish and never do anything that doesn’t benefit you personally. That might mean faking good behaviour as having people think you are nice often means they are willing to sacrifice themselves for your benefit.

I think it is interesting that so few people seem to take that approach though. Probably we are genetically programmed to be empathetic and nice to others, at least those within our own groups. Some people lack that programming but they seem to be the exception rather than the rule. I know I don’t and do things that I know are not rationally in my best interests but can’t seem to help myself.

Probably fortunate that more people seem to follow Plato than Machiavelli.

Davie_GLA

6,876 posts

228 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Do you have kids?

m3jappa

6,948 posts

247 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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I think the old saying treat people how you want to be treated goes a long way tbh.

I enjoy being nice to others and i appreciate people treating me nicely.

People who are unreasonable, rude or unnecessarily selfish wind me the fk up and make me want to be nasty to them. Thats no good for anyone.


TyrannosauRoss Lex

36,729 posts

241 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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m3jappa said:
I think the old saying treat people how you want to be treated goes a long way tbh.

I enjoy being nice to others and i appreciate people treating me nicely.

People who are unreasonable, rude or unnecessarily selfish wind me the fk up and make me want to be nasty to them. Thats no good for anyone.
This.

Skeptisk

Original Poster:

8,897 posts

138 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Davie_GLA said:
Do you have kids?
Yes - why?

gregs656

12,338 posts

210 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Read Camus' The Stranger (also published as The Outsider).

dundarach

6,220 posts

257 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Are you interested in a faith answer, happy either way, rather it not be another 'skyfairy' bashing however!

austinsmirk

5,597 posts

152 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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I reckon I’ve tried to be good over my life. Be nice to others. Do a good turn. Certainly there’s been a few people who have screwed me over, cost me money etc.

Broadly speaking when I look at their lives, who they’ve married, what they’ve achieved: I’d say they’ve managed to fail in life, if perhaps we consider that heath, we’ll being, a nice family etc are a reasonable yard stick.

I’m not watching my back, alls well, I’ve no worries. Life’s fine. I deal with a lot of people professionally who are endlessly in trouble, having to keep an eye out and that’s a whole load of grief to cope with day in day out.

Then again some people are utter nut jobs and - a good phrase- couldn’t lie straight in bed, they re that crooked.



964Cup

1,626 posts

266 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Three standard answers that don't depend on ontology (e.g. external morality arising from a deity or from the nature of things):

1. Enlightened self-interest - essentially do unto others as you would have them do unto you / pay it forward etc. Works unless you think you have the means to dominate absolutely - and of course want the kind of life that comes from dominating. See also Mackie's error theory (we act as though morality is ontological, but underneath that is a subsconscious desire to live in a particular kind of world, one that is informed by the morality we believe is absolute).

2. Fear of punishment - we live in society; it has rules. Even if you don't yourself subscribe to those rules, the mechanisms of enforcement will still be applied to you. So be good lest you get caught. Works unless you absolutely know (somehow) that you won't get caught. Rousseau and the social contract if you want to read more.

3. The failure of J.S. Mill's system of measurement. You might think that instead you should behave in whatever way will benefit you the most, but this is simply a solipsistic variant of general teleology - the idea that you should behave in the way that generates the most good for the most people. The issue is that it's largely impossible to know what will happen, and harder still to measure relative "goodness" (for you or others). So moral rules of thumb evolved over millennia represent experimentally tested approximations of the best general outcome.

Kawasicki

14,359 posts

264 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Because it’s what we have evolved to be. It’s less effort to follow your instincts, and for most people that means being good.

Eric Mc

125,609 posts

294 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Being good is nice. That’s it.

Jiebo

1,087 posts

125 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Kawasicki said:
Because it’s what we have evolved to be. It’s less effort to follow your instincts, and for most people that means being good.
The world we live in is totally made up, it's all fabricated by other humans through thousands of years of religious dogma and other nonsense. We no longer live in the animal kingdom where natures evolutionary rules apply.

If you look at the Sentinelese, they are probably closer to 'normal' humans and they certainly aren't 'good' in the way we define that in our world.

Good and bad is a fluid concept, it's not absolute.

MikeM6

6,033 posts

131 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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It makes evolutionary sense to be good to others as it allows for the greatest chance of survival for many. Good predates the invention of religion, it's how we evolved enough to reach the point where religion could even be conceived.

SpartacusF

203 posts

82 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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As 964 and M6 say.

But in the conscious here and now, I feel quite good when I’ve been helpful or kind or made a positive difference. It’s a reward thing. I don’t feel that when I’ve cheated or stolen or been selfish. Sociopaths may do, I don’t know.

FerrousOxide

229 posts

174 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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Because the alternative is being a dick?

I've always assumed that we're naturally inclined to working towards the good of the many, as that's what's best for the long-term survival of the species. There have probably been evolutionary branches of hominids with a strong "fk you" gene, but these haven't been great at collaborative working and haven't thrived.

I'm sure there are lots of examples in nature of apex species which do not form family / pack / tribal groups. But I can't think of many. Whereas successful social animals are everywhere: Wolves, bats, ants, humans....

bigpriest

2,531 posts

159 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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"...most rational approach to life would be to be selfish and never do anything that doesn’t benefit you personally"

That's not most rational, it's an option. It would be equally rational to be benevolent. You can have the same personal benefits from either appraoch.

Sheets Tabuer

21,398 posts

244 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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As butcher said, don't be a .

It's not hard.

anonymous-user

83 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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CoolHands said:
Well most of the population is gradually changing so hang around long enough and it will happen. As well as the lack of moral compass these days, there is pretty much a collapse in law & order (there is, be honest), so it will all go to st in the not too distant future.
Really? Because if I want to find a wilfully unpleasant person who delights in being obstructive, rude and making things difficult for others they’re much more likely to be old than young.

I’m always surprised by the kindness and consideration of young people these days, especially teenagers.

darreni

4,519 posts

299 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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TyrannosauRoss Lex said:
m3jappa said:
I think the old saying treat people how you want to be treated goes a long way tbh.

I enjoy being nice to others and i appreciate people treating me nicely.

People who are unreasonable, rude or unnecessarily selfish wind me the fk up and make me want to be nasty to them. Thats no good for anyone.
This.
+ 1.

Bright Halo

3,974 posts

264 months

Monday 4th July 2022
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I do my best to do the right thing and think of others because I believe it is simply the right thing to do.
The times I haven’t weigh heavily on me and I strive to correct those times or make up for them.

The guidance I have is the examples given to me by my parents and extended family.

I am fallible and I accept that but hopefully I give good guidance to my children and grandchildren.

Doing the right thing is the right thing no matter whether that comes from religious doctrine or other examples.