Left for University today
Left for University today
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stuartmmcfc

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8,775 posts

221 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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He might be an annoying little st at times but my oldest son left for University today and I’m sat here blubbing like a baby I’m missing him so much!!
Anyone else?

Edited by stuartmmcfc on Saturday 17th September 18:35

rallye101

2,517 posts

226 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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bigmowley

2,655 posts

205 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Ha three times here, know how you feel.

Tomorrow’s job is to blitz his old bedroom, chuck away all the tat, posters, old socks etc and repurpose it as a guest room. That’s what I did with all of mine, very cathartic. Stops the little buggers coming home and slipping back into childhood. They are still welcome to come and stay but the game has moved on.


rallye101

2,517 posts

226 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Patrick Star

203 posts

92 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Not today,but 5 years ago I was similar.
He wasn’t only my son,but my mate as well. We’d go West Ham,gym,gigs,cinema,play Xbox,watch SpongeBob.
His sister went a year later,and tbh I’ve still got a bit of empty nest syndrome.

Evanivitch

26,320 posts

151 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Don't worry, the first phonecall asking for money is only 2 weeks away...

The spinner of plates

18,084 posts

229 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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bigmowley said:
Ha three times here, know how you feel.

Tomorrow’s job is to blitz his old bedroom, chuck away all the tat, posters, old socks etc and repurpose it as a guest room. That’s what I did with all of mine, very cathartic. Stops the little buggers coming home and slipping back into childhood. They are still welcome to come and stay but the game has moved on.
That is exactly how to do it.
But you’ve got to be quick and decisive. Otherwise the womenfolk start treating their rooms like some sort of holy shrine to lost prophets, waiting at the window for the prodigal son to return.

vaud

59,325 posts

184 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Friends had 3 kids. When the last went to uni they downsized to a 2 bed cottage in the middle of nowhere (no transport links, very much a locals pub, no 4g, etc)

"You are always welcome to stay for the weekend and visit..."

...not moving back home.

leigh1050

2,456 posts

194 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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I don't know him! So no I don't miss him!

anonymous-user

83 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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It's called empty nest syndrome. When last one left I was the same, felt like a bereavement.

HTP99

25,143 posts

169 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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I was a bit teary and choked when my daughter went off a few years ago, however she was back every weekend (reasonably local), TBH it would have been nice if she'd stayed up there!

The second term she was on placement so was back home and then Covid hit and I think she then only went back for exams!

Condi

20,298 posts

200 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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If its any consolation by now he'll be pissed, by 10pm off his tits on something chemical, and with any luck by 2am balls deep in a lovely 18 year old. He won't be worried about you. hehe

Tango13

10,055 posts

205 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Condi said:
If its any consolation by now he'll be pissed, by 10pm off his tits on something chemical, and with any luck by 2am balls deep in a lovely 18 year old. He won't be worried about you. hehe
And by Friday afternoon he'll be down the clinic with a nasty rash... yikes

hotchy

4,828 posts

155 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Evanivitch said:
Don't worry, the first phonecall asking for money is only 2 weeks away...
I lasted 1 week before phoning wink good times.

The spinner of plates

18,084 posts

229 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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Tango13 said:
Condi said:
If its any consolation by now he'll be pissed, by 10pm off his tits on something chemical, and with any luck by 2am balls deep in a lovely 18 year old. He won't be worried about you. hehe
And by Friday afternoon he'll be down the clinic with a nasty rash... yikes
Well at least in 6 weeks time at least he won’t have to Google where it is.

Slowboathome

4,461 posts

73 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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My father when I Ieft for uni:

"You're welcome back any time. The charge will be £15 per day, or part thereof"

readit

parabolica

7,009 posts

213 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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The spinner of plates said:
bigmowley said:
Ha three times here, know how you feel.

Tomorrow’s job is to blitz his old bedroom, chuck away all the tat, posters, old socks etc and repurpose it as a guest room. That’s what I did with all of mine, very cathartic. Stops the little buggers coming home and slipping back into childhood. They are still welcome to come and stay but the game has moved on.
That is exactly how to do it.
But you’ve got to be quick and decisive. Otherwise the womenfolk start treating their rooms like some sort of holy shrine to lost prophets, waiting at the window for the prodigal son to return.
Not my mum! I left for uni on the Sunday but we had a family dinner with extended family a few days later on the Thursday; I went to get something out of my room and she had already painted it magnolia, put in new furniture and bedding. And I was promptly told “don’t go in there, it’s for guests only”.

mcelliott

10,477 posts

210 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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My daughter is overseas so its not always easy to visit, it's weird at first but you do get used to it, easter and xmas are extra special now, she's currently working in a school for troubled kids as a part of her degree, doors locked in corridors and walkie talkie radios, sometimes id rather not know what she's up to.

Wacky Racer

41,265 posts

276 months

Saturday 17th September 2022
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stuartmmcfc said:
He might be an annoying little st at times but my oldest son left for University today and I’m sat here blubbing like a baby I’m missing him so much!!
Anyone else?
My three lads went to University over fifteen years ago.

Take a nose peg and sick bucket if you go to visit his accommodation hehe

American iv

468 posts

225 months

Monday 19th September 2022
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Speak to your kid before changing what was/is "their" room - remember that the Uni holidays where they will likely still return for a longer period of time, and it'll be after Uni finishes that they'll vacate properly.

My parents did the whole "clear out" and didn't tell me - they even removed my bed completely so there was no chance of staying. Whilst completely understandable (old bed, I'd moved to Australia etc), it gave pangs of sadness when I found out 6months later by accident, especially since my elder sister's room had been preserved for years after she moved out. It'd be worse if I was in the UK and simply gone to Uni...