The Wife isn't so bad
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PH can sometimes be a bit negative about the farer sex. Which I suppose is not surprising as often the topic of discussion is going through the process of separation/divorce which isn't the most positive topic.
Thought I would start a thread of times you didn't want to go Dahmer on your other half.
My most recent ones all centre unsurprisingly around cars.
1) Last year I was looking around the Emira trying desperately to justify a third car that I have wanted for years. My wife suggested I buy it and use it as my everyday car going all over Europe and just buy a cheap van for us going on holiday. Effectively making the van the third car. She grabbed the salesman and made me spec one, I would have probably kicked the can down the road for another couple of years.
2) My Range Rover broke down (huge shock to everyone I'm sure) led to me renting a Ford Tourneo for the 3 weeks it took to fix. Having a disabled son means that having something like that has been on the cards for quite sometime, I have avoided it so far but renting one became something of a trial period. My wife could see I was struggling in side as I drove something that represented everything that I struggle with my life not going how I hoped. She asked if I could put a tow hook on one of these? I said sure don't see why not why? If our son is happy in it and it is big enough for all our stuff would be good car for going racing like you want. I now want a van
I have of course been manipulated but made me realise it wasn't the end of the world.
3) Sold our house recently which will give us a good injection of cash in our account. My plan was to spend the money finishing off our house build and having a smaller mortgage, all very sensible. My wife has offered to spend all the money on a Ferrari for me and we just put all that other stuff on a bigger mortgage. I'm not going to but nice that she suggested it.
Anyone else wife not a total dick all the time?
For balance my wife and I are also prone to massive explosions when we don't get along. Our friends often joke we are equally the best and worst couple in our friend group.
Thought I would start a thread of times you didn't want to go Dahmer on your other half.
My most recent ones all centre unsurprisingly around cars.
1) Last year I was looking around the Emira trying desperately to justify a third car that I have wanted for years. My wife suggested I buy it and use it as my everyday car going all over Europe and just buy a cheap van for us going on holiday. Effectively making the van the third car. She grabbed the salesman and made me spec one, I would have probably kicked the can down the road for another couple of years.
2) My Range Rover broke down (huge shock to everyone I'm sure) led to me renting a Ford Tourneo for the 3 weeks it took to fix. Having a disabled son means that having something like that has been on the cards for quite sometime, I have avoided it so far but renting one became something of a trial period. My wife could see I was struggling in side as I drove something that represented everything that I struggle with my life not going how I hoped. She asked if I could put a tow hook on one of these? I said sure don't see why not why? If our son is happy in it and it is big enough for all our stuff would be good car for going racing like you want. I now want a van
I have of course been manipulated but made me realise it wasn't the end of the world.3) Sold our house recently which will give us a good injection of cash in our account. My plan was to spend the money finishing off our house build and having a smaller mortgage, all very sensible. My wife has offered to spend all the money on a Ferrari for me and we just put all that other stuff on a bigger mortgage. I'm not going to but nice that she suggested it.
Anyone else wife not a total dick all the time?
For balance my wife and I are also prone to massive explosions when we don't get along. Our friends often joke we are equally the best and worst couple in our friend group.
I suppose I find myself taking my wife for granted from time to time, but upon hearing about other peoples' relationships I feel incredibly lucky.
She's brilliant. Not perfect, and quite flawed in some respects as am I, but just brilliant.
We're mutually respectful, mutually loyal, very happy in one another's company, supportive of each other's different interests etc.
Sometimes we don't work especially well together and tend to nip at one another for not entirely following the same line of thought as the other when trying to do tasks together but we're both aware of it and don't let it become a mountain out of a mole hill.
We've known one another 19 years, lived together for 18 years and been married 17 years. I wouldn't want to swap for some of the disfunctional sh*tshows that some seem to have.
She's brilliant. Not perfect, and quite flawed in some respects as am I, but just brilliant.
We're mutually respectful, mutually loyal, very happy in one another's company, supportive of each other's different interests etc.
Sometimes we don't work especially well together and tend to nip at one another for not entirely following the same line of thought as the other when trying to do tasks together but we're both aware of it and don't let it become a mountain out of a mole hill.
We've known one another 19 years, lived together for 18 years and been married 17 years. I wouldn't want to swap for some of the disfunctional sh*tshows that some seem to have.
Another "I wouldn't swap mine for anyone else" (not even a pampas grass scenario)...
FFS she puts up with me!! On the motoring side she's got no real interest but indulges me (no way I'd have had most of my nice cars without her). She's encouraged me to retire early and make the most of our (hopefully) healthy times/years. (Cliche alert!) She's my best friend and in the 10 years we've been together we've had 2 arguments...
FFS she puts up with me!! On the motoring side she's got no real interest but indulges me (no way I'd have had most of my nice cars without her). She's encouraged me to retire early and make the most of our (hopefully) healthy times/years. (Cliche alert!) She's my best friend and in the 10 years we've been together we've had 2 arguments...
Mine literally covered my arse when I was going through a dark spell - housed, fed & watered (too much) - that was pre-marriage too, and she still did it... then bought 'us' an old L322 with ridiculous fuel consumption and like OP, loves to break down but is wonderful when it works. There are wonderful people in the world still.
Yes, I'm afraid I feel very sad when I read some of the threads on here.
My wife once declared herself my best friend. Which I objected to initially, but she's right. We rarely fall out. Best friend with benefits too. Win-win! ;-p
PH highlights include;
She suggested we buy a Eunos Roadster V-Spec back in the day. I've had two more MX5s since as I discovered they're awesome!
Rarely moaned when I used to have a regular habit of going home via the local auctions and getting back late in a different car.
After enduring years, nay decades, of my Porsche obsession, declaring us able to afford a Boxster last year. Well-timed thread as my 986S has just sailed through another MOT.
She's also now more into Rev Comps than I ever was. Not entirely sure that's a good thing, mind!
My wife once declared herself my best friend. Which I objected to initially, but she's right. We rarely fall out. Best friend with benefits too. Win-win! ;-p
PH highlights include;
She suggested we buy a Eunos Roadster V-Spec back in the day. I've had two more MX5s since as I discovered they're awesome!
Rarely moaned when I used to have a regular habit of going home via the local auctions and getting back late in a different car.
After enduring years, nay decades, of my Porsche obsession, declaring us able to afford a Boxster last year. Well-timed thread as my 986S has just sailed through another MOT.
She's also now more into Rev Comps than I ever was. Not entirely sure that's a good thing, mind!
My wife has been a rock over the years. In particular when my Dad became terminally ill last year and then died. Supportive with all the post death administration and hassles, then when I ended up off work through stress we made the decision that I would retire early. No question from her, just on a brief chat with our IFA that 'it is possible'.
She is already retired and (obviously) the age gap always been the same over the last 25 years together. However, it suddenly dawned on me that if I waited until I could retire on my State pension then she might be at a point where she is tired of wanting to travel and do the things I might have waited for. It has meant being a bit more careful with money, but we do lots of things together now and it turns out we don't generally need a fortune to do what we want...so long as we are together to do it.
I had hoped to clear the last of our mortgage from some of my Dad's estate, but due to delays and various hassles I am still waiting to get Probate over a year on. Sadly she lost her Mum earlier this year, so once some money was released she insisted that she paid off the mortgage from the money.
I know there are lots of things she would love to buy for her hobby of painting/art, but she's put that on the back burner until the last bit of her Mum's estate comes through. Also just booked and paid for a holiday next year knowing that I'm a bit wary of committing to expenses before I know for sure what I've got coming through 'because you always pay for holidays' (I'm sure I didn't as she would always pay her way).
Last Saturday I watched her absolutely beaming with joy walking her daughter down the aisle and felt so proud of her. I would have loved to walk my Step Daughter down the aisle myself, but it wasn't my place to stand in for her late Dad. I think it was more fitting anyway and worth it to see both their smiles.
She is already retired and (obviously) the age gap always been the same over the last 25 years together. However, it suddenly dawned on me that if I waited until I could retire on my State pension then she might be at a point where she is tired of wanting to travel and do the things I might have waited for. It has meant being a bit more careful with money, but we do lots of things together now and it turns out we don't generally need a fortune to do what we want...so long as we are together to do it.
I had hoped to clear the last of our mortgage from some of my Dad's estate, but due to delays and various hassles I am still waiting to get Probate over a year on. Sadly she lost her Mum earlier this year, so once some money was released she insisted that she paid off the mortgage from the money.
I know there are lots of things she would love to buy for her hobby of painting/art, but she's put that on the back burner until the last bit of her Mum's estate comes through. Also just booked and paid for a holiday next year knowing that I'm a bit wary of committing to expenses before I know for sure what I've got coming through 'because you always pay for holidays' (I'm sure I didn't as she would always pay her way).
Last Saturday I watched her absolutely beaming with joy walking her daughter down the aisle and felt so proud of her. I would have loved to walk my Step Daughter down the aisle myself, but it wasn't my place to stand in for her late Dad. I think it was more fitting anyway and worth it to see both their smiles.
Mine is as good as gold, if you don't mind snoring like a Scania R580 with a noisy exhaust and waste gate.
She sometimes has the habit of ignoring me completely when i'm talking to her and her near pathological inability to see her eldest daughter is a free loading chav is severely irritating.
However
She booked me a surprise holiday to Tenerife for my 50th.
When we bought new cars, she didn't just go for the most expensive thing she could - BMW X5 on our budget at the time - she went for something cheaper so that i could have a new car too.
She isn't materialistic
But most importantly of all, she puts up with me and smiles whilst doing it. Gawd bless her!
She sometimes has the habit of ignoring me completely when i'm talking to her and her near pathological inability to see her eldest daughter is a free loading chav is severely irritating.
However
She booked me a surprise holiday to Tenerife for my 50th.
When we bought new cars, she didn't just go for the most expensive thing she could - BMW X5 on our budget at the time - she went for something cheaper so that i could have a new car too.
She isn't materialistic
But most importantly of all, she puts up with me and smiles whilst doing it. Gawd bless her!
Same here, after spending seemingly years peering in jewellers windows, my wife said just buy a watch, better than looking at bank statements, my new speedy arrived last week. She keeps telling me to get on the waiting list for a 992, if I had done that two years ago, when she first said it, I would have one by now. Have to admit she is always right, suppose it's easier to solve other peoples problems.
Dixy said:
On Saturday we have our 39th wedding anniversary, says it all really.
Congratulations...unlikely we'll ever reach that milestone as we only got married after 21 years together, so we're only 4 years in so far. We might cheat and have a 30th together/ 9th wedding anniversary party though.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff