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This is why I would never say to someone with depression ''things could be worse'' or ''theres always someone worse off" because it just makes them think what a horrible world we live in.
It's okay to feel sympathy for others, but I doubt they want your pity.
If you want to improve life for people less fortunate there are plenty of charities you can volunteer for or donate to. Every little helps.
It's okay to feel sympathy for others, but I doubt they want your pity.
If you want to improve life for people less fortunate there are plenty of charities you can volunteer for or donate to. Every little helps.
I can sort of relate to this a bit, firstly my father, a champion cyclist, while training for the tour de france, had a crash, aged 18, broken neck, partial spinal cord damage, actually the very same injury as frank williams, they were the only two to ever survive that particular injury.
He was looking down and rode full on into a stopped buss, aparently his deralier slipped and he was looking at it and a kid ran out infront of the buss, buss stopped, kid not hit, dad in traction for 6 months.
He was about to go to cambridge then post grad in veternary, think large animals/ james herriot type thing.
Obviously his rehab took years, but was then forever wheelchair bound, this was late 50's
He ended up getting a job doing articles at a solicitors, and then qualified.
A compleatly different field from his dream, but he needed a job, he married and we were adopted, my brother and i, as obviously he couldnt father a child.
He became a very successful lawer, and senior partner at his firm,a great dad and husband, and as i got to know him better as i got older, an amazing man, nothing fazed him.
He later got sepsis in his 70s and spent 5 yeaars in a bed in a care home, how he never quit i dont know, but always was chearfull.
You could say he was my insperation, in my 20's i used to race motorbikes, and had a bad crash, mainly lower spine, pelvis, legs area, but alot of other broken stuff, also was about 6 months in traction, but better medical care of the age saw me walking again, albe it badly, but still i will take it.
In my darkest times when in traction , like at night in the dark, wandering if this was my life now, i thought about my dad and how he obviously made his mind up to do the best with what he had, and not let it get him down.
I am now retired early having had a very good life, done lots, worked with many people , indulged my pasions where possable.
Life isnt easy as i got lymphoma in my late 40's early 50's, however that was in a way a good thing, it made me realize what was important in life, and career and money isnt it.
Im still going, who knows how long for, but i think about him everyday, espesially when it hurts so much i dont want to get out of bed, and just think what would he do.
I was very lucky to have known him, and im having a great life.
But god did it hurt getting here, and not just phisicaly.
He was looking down and rode full on into a stopped buss, aparently his deralier slipped and he was looking at it and a kid ran out infront of the buss, buss stopped, kid not hit, dad in traction for 6 months.
He was about to go to cambridge then post grad in veternary, think large animals/ james herriot type thing.
Obviously his rehab took years, but was then forever wheelchair bound, this was late 50's
He ended up getting a job doing articles at a solicitors, and then qualified.
A compleatly different field from his dream, but he needed a job, he married and we were adopted, my brother and i, as obviously he couldnt father a child.
He became a very successful lawer, and senior partner at his firm,a great dad and husband, and as i got to know him better as i got older, an amazing man, nothing fazed him.
He later got sepsis in his 70s and spent 5 yeaars in a bed in a care home, how he never quit i dont know, but always was chearfull.
You could say he was my insperation, in my 20's i used to race motorbikes, and had a bad crash, mainly lower spine, pelvis, legs area, but alot of other broken stuff, also was about 6 months in traction, but better medical care of the age saw me walking again, albe it badly, but still i will take it.
In my darkest times when in traction , like at night in the dark, wandering if this was my life now, i thought about my dad and how he obviously made his mind up to do the best with what he had, and not let it get him down.
I am now retired early having had a very good life, done lots, worked with many people , indulged my pasions where possable.
Life isnt easy as i got lymphoma in my late 40's early 50's, however that was in a way a good thing, it made me realize what was important in life, and career and money isnt it.
Im still going, who knows how long for, but i think about him everyday, espesially when it hurts so much i dont want to get out of bed, and just think what would he do.
I was very lucky to have known him, and im having a great life.
But god did it hurt getting here, and not just phisicaly.
Grief isn’t depression, though it can lead to it. People can adapt to all sorts of awful things once they have got over the loss of what they thought their life was going to be. An inability to eventually accept the s
tty thing that has happened and find some sort of acceptable normality is something people can sometimes be helped with.
tty thing that has happened and find some sort of acceptable normality is something people can sometimes be helped with. You know society is heading in the right direction when a lot of people are on medication in order to appear calm and collected. It is really odd seeing so many people up close and personal going through their pharmaceutically induced roller coaster rides. More and more people are on some form of mental illness medication to function right. We have surpassed 1984
Super Sonic said:
This is why I would never say to someone with depression ''things could be worse'' or ''theres always someone worse off" because it just makes them think what a horrible world we live in.
you should never say it due to it being completely devoid of empathy. might as well tell them to cheer up! I think the current trend of looking to social media influencers as the people to follow has a lot to do with things. You see the likes of the Kardashians and their lifestyle and so everyone thinks that is what you have to strive for.
I could spend ages detailing my health issues or those of my wife but you know what, we make the best of what we have and adjust our sights to a level that we can attain.
An example? I used to be into fitness even though my body wont allow me to be - long story - and as i get older, the health issues are getting worse, so rather than chase an unattainable dream, i reset my sights. Always have liked reading and thought, i have an idea for a book and so i've started writing a book.
Will it ever get to the stage of being published? Who knows but i'm having fun writing it.
yeah it sucks i can no longer do stuff i used to enjoy or wanted to try - mountain biking for example - but i've reset my sights to allow me to chase a different goal that i CAN achieve. Positive mindset doesn't have to be " cheer up" or "look on the bright side" but i am a firm believer in having a positive mindset, sometimes you just have to mold it to suit your circumstances
I could spend ages detailing my health issues or those of my wife but you know what, we make the best of what we have and adjust our sights to a level that we can attain.
An example? I used to be into fitness even though my body wont allow me to be - long story - and as i get older, the health issues are getting worse, so rather than chase an unattainable dream, i reset my sights. Always have liked reading and thought, i have an idea for a book and so i've started writing a book.
Will it ever get to the stage of being published? Who knows but i'm having fun writing it.
yeah it sucks i can no longer do stuff i used to enjoy or wanted to try - mountain biking for example - but i've reset my sights to allow me to chase a different goal that i CAN achieve. Positive mindset doesn't have to be " cheer up" or "look on the bright side" but i am a firm believer in having a positive mindset, sometimes you just have to mold it to suit your circumstances
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