Do you still get genuinely "excited" about things in life?
Do you still get genuinely "excited" about things in life?
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M4cruiser

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4,916 posts

174 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Yesterday we went out to a show, and on the way I could tell by my wife's words that she still had a genuine sense of excitement about what was to come.
Whereas I seem to have become numbed to that sense, I've had too many disappointments in life, so I approach things with less enthusiasm and expectation these days. Doesn't matter what it is, a show, a holiday, a new gadget, a day out, anything really.
I wonder if anyone else is the same?
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jayymannon

286 posts

101 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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I can't remember the last time I was ever excited by anything. Think it's just the way I am.
I work with a few people though that seem to get giddy at the idea of things they're doing, whether it's just going for food, holidays, day trips, gigs etc.
Does seem weird when a 50-year-old man is getting excited about eating a burger, to take one example.

glenrobbo

39,578 posts

174 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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I'm at that age where I can barely contain myself! bounce
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Hoofy

79,506 posts

306 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Hm. I guess I'm a bit funny in the head. I was excited to have an MOT last week. I thought it would be interesting to see how a new (OEM) exhaust would sound compared to the old leaky one that resulted in a failed MOT. Call me a simpleton if you must.

smn159

15,209 posts

241 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Yes, I play with a decent quality local band and get genuinely excited when we have a gig coming up

Same if I get a PB at a running event that I've trained for, although that's much rarer these days

Nethybridge

1,146 posts

36 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Not much, but the prospect of driving your newly purchased car for the first time is a highlight.

Jamescrs

5,965 posts

89 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Picked up a new (to me) car earlier this week and was very excited about that, its an M4 so.i still get excited every time I look at it on the drive or get in and drive it.

I get excited about trips with mates to the Nurburgring.

Nothing else really excites me, family holidays etc I don't find exciting, more hard work.
I dont get excited about shows or concerts so I don't go to them.

Digger

16,217 posts

215 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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I'm currently experiencing a monthly cycle of excitement followed by disappointment as I attempt to save up for a new oled TV . . .

Get to the end of the month again failing to have saved up enough for the purchase smile

Maybe the excitement will return at the end of this month when I FINALLY win the monthly draw for a John Lewis £1000 gift card biggrin


Otherwise - I am the same as the OP - not much in life excites me, & never really has to be honest. Guess I am just not the excitable type smile


eta - early 50's if that matters . . .

Lincsls1

3,942 posts

164 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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I can look forward things and enjoy them, but get excited - no.

Geffg

1,332 posts

129 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Maybe like myself I don’t get too excited about stuff as it’s mostly going to be who has the hassle of sorting it all out.
Just an example relevant now for me is we are gonna get the bathroom redone, and she is all excited. I’m not though as it’s me who has to arrange people to come round, me to rip out the old one, remove all the tiles, sort out any repairs to walls after removing tiles, get rid of the rubbish, and that’s before it gets fitted. She’s excited picking the stuff and to see it all finished. I just see it as loads of work.
With holidays / days out etc it’s me sorting it all out she just has to pack and jump in the car!

OldSkoolRS

7,085 posts

203 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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smn159 said:
Yes, I play with a decent quality local band and get genuinely excited when we have a gig coming up.
I was going to post a similar comment; we played our first gig as a three piece last weekend (previously done many gigs as a five piece), where I'm doing the guitar and vocals. I don't tend to get nervous before a gig, though I could describe it as excited.

I also get excited about trips away/holidays, going to gigs: I retired last year, so I'd rather be excited looking forward to things than just sitting around being grumpy and waiting for death. biggrin Perhaps not having the Sunday evening feeling of doom helps too, but even back when I was hating being at work I'd get excited about doing the things above.

EDIT: I have got over the excitement of buying new 'toys' for a good few years now as it usually ends up short lived and then hasn't really changed my life in any significant way. Though I do get excited about changing my car, even though it's never a brand new one.




Edited by OldSkoolRS on Sunday 17th September 14:50

98elise

31,572 posts

185 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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M4cruiser said:
Yesterday we went out to a show, and on the way I could tell by my wife's words that she still had a genuine sense of excitement about what was to come.
Whereas I seem to have become numbed to that sense, I've had too many disappointments in life, so I approach things with less enthusiasm and expectation these days. Doesn't matter what it is, a show, a holiday, a new gadget, a day out, anything really.
I wonder if anyone else is the same?
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I feel exactly the same.

Being retired might be part of it for me. With less stress and more time on my hands I don't need a break or a treat. The only reason were going to book a holiday this year is for some winter sun.




Bryanwww

397 posts

163 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Yep life is pretty awesome, being miserable is a choice

x5tuu

12,693 posts

211 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Yes, but not about much.

Recently I was approached about a new role out of the blue and it ticked lots and lots of personal and professional boxes, I was super excited about it and the potential and prospects.

I was gutted when it fell through but haven't let it dampen my enthusiasm still for the area.


Matt Harper

6,954 posts

225 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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I believe that anticipatory excitement is good for our health and something I embrace and encourage. Even little things like the reaction of my dog, when I grab the lead and she gets all giddy about going out for her walk. It makes me happy that she's happy.

I get excited at the prospect of a visit from my 7 year-old grandson, because I know there is going to be lots of laughter, play-fighting and enjoyment of our back-yard pool. I'm exhausted by the time he heads home, but is a joy that I really look forward to. I know he's good for me.

When I lived in the UK, the prospect of Le Mans each year gave me a real buzz and the closer it got, the more I felt it. I feel the same about the 12 Hours of Sebring these days. My friends and I make a very big deal about Sebring which is essentially a 12 hour motor race that spans a week. It is the high-spot of my social year and I look forward to it with a great deal of anticipation the whole year round.

I travel very extensively with my work, so I don't get gee'd-up much about the prospect of going places - but I do get excited about the prospect of heading home at the end of the work week.

ChocolateFrog

34,954 posts

197 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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M4cruiser said:
Yesterday we went out to a show, and on the way I could tell by my wife's words that she still had a genuine sense of excitement about what was to come.
Whereas I seem to have become numbed to that sense, I've had too many disappointments in life, so I approach things with less enthusiasm and expectation these days. Doesn't matter what it is, a show, a holiday, a new gadget, a day out, anything really.
I wonder if anyone else is the same?
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Live life through the eyes of a toddler.

Life is awesome.

James_33

652 posts

90 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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I very rarely get excited about anything now, even the things that use to bring me excitement, gone are seemingly the days where i use to wake up in a morning and jump out of bed to get on with a hobby of some kind, and rather sad to also say that i feel that at the age of 38 the best part of my life has been and gone and any realistic goals what i should have thought about years ago are long gone too, I've been told i am probably suffering from depression, but i just think i am a realist with my situation and so life feels more of a chore than something to be excited about, however i envy those who do have the passion in life to live their lives to the fullest.

Xcore

1,460 posts

114 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Picking up a new to me car is always quite exciting, which wears off about 15mins later.

I am looking forward to getting my scooter registered with the dvla so I can strip it to a frame and start tinkering with it properly though! It’s also my first two wheeled vehicle in my 15 years of driving so it will be a completely different experience to the 65 or so cars Iv owned.

Mojooo

13,287 posts

204 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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James_33 said:
I very rarely get excited about anything now, even the things that use to bring me excitement, gone are seemingly the days where i use to wake up in a morning and jump out of bed to get on with a hobby of some kind, and rather sad to also say that i feel that at the age of 38 the best part of my life has been and gone and any realistic goals what i should have thought about years ago are long gone too, I've been told i am probably suffering from depression, but i just think i am a realist with my situation and so life feels more of a chore than something to be excited about, however i envy those who do have the passion in life to live their lives to the fullest.
Pretty much the same for me.

However, I think the 2 main issues are
- we generally live comfortable lives and by mid 30's we have seen it and done most of it so nothing is THAT exciting
- we suffer from constant stimulation so our minds are kind of numb from it all

I wrote in another thread about how I went on a retreat for a week - away from everyday life. Basic things like walking, the air and food suddenly really became intense once all the other stimulation was gone.

For all the talk of how good we have it, I do wonder if my life would have been more 'raw' if I lived 100 years ago.

Edited by Mojooo on Sunday 17th September 16:02

anonymous-user

78 months

Sunday 17th September 2023
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Never get excited about anything.
Most things in general are a disappointment.