After School Detention
Discussion
Without going into detail - my 15 year old son has been given after an school detention for something that his mum and I feel is totally unjust.
The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
welshjon81 said:
Without going into detail - my 15 year old son has been given after an school detention for something that his mum and I feel is totally unjust.
The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
Pointless without the detail.The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
normalbloke said:
welshjon81 said:
Without going into detail - my 15 year old son has been given after an school detention for something that his mum and I feel is totally unjust.
The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
Pointless without the detail.The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
My thoughts are its not a hanging offence, and they cant forcably detain your son, so tell him just to come home, and dont attend detention.
Obviously something has pissed you off, and guessing righly so.
But its worth discussing it face to face with the school as well, there are always two sides to a story.
Obviously something has pissed you off, and guessing righly so.
But its worth discussing it face to face with the school as well, there are always two sides to a story.
Vipers said:
My thoughts are its not a hanging offence, and they cant forcably detain your son, so tell him just to come home, and dont attend detention.
Obviously something has pissed you off, and guessing righly so.
But its worth discussing it face to face with the school as well, there are always two sides to a story.
They can't forcibly detain him, equally they're not forced to educate him. The local authority have that responsibility, and could place him in another school.Obviously something has pissed you off, and guessing righly so.
But its worth discussing it face to face with the school as well, there are always two sides to a story.
OP I suggest you open a dialogue with the school asking that the after school detention be put aside until it is resolved. Maybe a meeting before half term is possible?
welshjon81 said:
normalbloke said:
welshjon81 said:
Without going into detail - my 15 year old son has been given after an school detention for something that his mum and I feel is totally unjust.
The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
Pointless without the detail.The school already knew how we felt but still handed down the punishment. What would happen if I rang the school and told them point blank, that he isn't going to attend?
Suck it up like a man and attend. Or tell us the detail and we can be a fairer audience.
Jonmx said:
Let your son know that while you support him, sometimes in life, things happen that are unjust and you have to deal with the consequences. A good life lesson that sometimes s
t happens that we don't deserve.
Pretty much what I said to my 13 year old daughter for something similar. If it became a recurring thing, and she still felt it unfair, I'd bring it up with the school. t happens that we don't deserve. That said, the OP knows what has happened and we don't. If it's something that they feel they need to take a stand over, then contact the teacher at the earliest opportunity.
simon_harris said:
As said they cannot forcibly detain him, I woul dcall the school and tell them he won't be attending and tell him to come straight home at the end of the school day.
The liklihood is they will probably try and make him attend a lunchtime detention or something like that
My old school the escalation from after school detention was an all day detention in isolation.The liklihood is they will probably try and make him attend a lunchtime detention or something like that
Zarco said:
Jonmx said:
Let your son know that while you support him, sometimes in life, things happen that are unjust and you have to deal with the consequences. A good life lesson that sometimes st happens that we don't deserve.
Absolutely this.t happens that we don't deserve. welshjon81 said:
He has been "taught" that lesson a few times but in this incident, I believe he needs to learn to stand up for what he believes is right. And to be taught that, he also needs to see it coming from his parents.
Just make sure he does that knowing full well that there are consequences, and that he might not like them.The repercussions are whatever their standard ones are for not attending a detention for that school and whilst you support him, 30 mins of his life and the 'lesson' some people mention are potentially the lesser of what could happen.
For example, after school detention was 1 step from going on report and losing some daily freedoms when I was at school.
Also, ultimately it's not your decision, you agreed to allow them to run their environment, in a manner they see fit without others intervening. I went to school with enough scummy types whose parents would likely say giving someone a bloodly nose for no particular reason was not grounds for a detention. School ground, school rules.
For example, after school detention was 1 step from going on report and losing some daily freedoms when I was at school.
Also, ultimately it's not your decision, you agreed to allow them to run their environment, in a manner they see fit without others intervening. I went to school with enough scummy types whose parents would likely say giving someone a bloodly nose for no particular reason was not grounds for a detention. School ground, school rules.
Master's detention at my school was held on a Saturday morning, every time i ended up travelling to school for that detention (often) i thoroughly deserved it even though it didn't always feel so at the time, finally learned to keep my big trap shut and not go beyond a certain point.
Prefect's detention was after school but i never received one of those.
Not attending will surely result in escalation, let alone the 'troublemaker' note being applied to the record, which could have repercussions at some point one might prefer to avoid.
Prefect's detention was after school but i never received one of those.
Not attending will surely result in escalation, let alone the 'troublemaker' note being applied to the record, which could have repercussions at some point one might prefer to avoid.
u-boat said:
I’m assuming this is a state school?
Shouldn’t you support the school and teachers? No wonder schools are in such a mess.
Rubbish. Shouldn’t you support the school and teachers? No wonder schools are in such a mess.
The school and teachers are perfectly capable of making mistakes and mishandling a situation. And should be called out when they do.
Blindly accepting what they say and automatically believing them over the child is outdated and lousy parenting.
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