Training wife to use doors - how?

[TUS373]

The initial message was deleted from this topic on 12 December 2023 at 14:59

[NH-0]

You need to train yourself not to worry about it.

[boyse7en]

Why would you lock the door while you are home? Makes it inconvenient for everyone.

And leaving the interior doors open while the wood burner is lit helps the warm air to circulate around the house, warming the whole place up slightly. In my house its enough to warm the bedrooms up to a pleasant temp without the need for any other heating. You can really feel teh difference if you go into a room where the door has been shut.

So, sorry, but I am on your wife's side with this one.

[RicksAlfas]

When I am outside my wife will lock the door and leave the keys in the lock so I can't unlock it.
What am I to make of this?

[trails]

Ask female friend/sister/mum to talk to her about HRT...otherwise buy some of these.

[mcdjl]

boyse7en said:

Why would you lock the door while you are home? Makes it inconvenient for everyone.

And leaving the interior doors open while the wood burner is lit helps the warm air to circulate around the house, warming the whole place up slightly. In my house its enough to warm the bedrooms up to a pleasant temp without the need for any other heating. You can really feel teh difference if you go into a room where the door has been shut.

So, sorry, but I am on your wife's side with this one.

In the case of my house you can open the outer door from either side of it's not locked. Last night I got in, wandered round for a few minutes (lights all on) before going upstairs to be met by my wife on the stairs who had woken up(napping with the baby) and started panicing about someone in the house....
I've never kept internal doors closed, I use all rooms and want them all warm.

[Amused2death]

Change the lock to one that locks automatically?

[sherman]

Unless you work in the room with the log burner why are you lighting it and leaving it unattended for extended periods of time.

Also leaving the door open will help the air circulate reducing your central heatibg bill.

[PM3]

NH-0 said:

You need to train yourself not to worry about it.

This, All other chatter is a waste , as the solution is already provided. close thread

[Hammersia]

Is this a hill you're prepared to die on?

[sherman]

TUS373 said:

Yes - I have been locked out before now, as the door is locked with the key in the other side, so I cannot use my key!

This why houses have door bells.

[boyse7en]

sherman said:

TUS373 said:

Yes - I have been locked out before now, as the door is locked with the key in the other side, so I cannot use my key!

This why houses have door bells.

That's why you don't lock the door when you are indoors...

[RizzoTheRat]

Amused2death said:

Change the lock to one that locks automatically?

^^This^^ fit a Yale type lock that will automatically latch locked. Ours locks on the catch when you shut it, but you then lift the handle to put the latches in to the frame to lock it properly... but then doesn't have an outside handle and the key doesn't move the latches so if you lift the handle on the inside you can't get in the house even with the key

[TonyRPH]

TUS373 said:

Taking a risk on this one, but I am sure my fellow PistonHeaders are all too familar with these kind of wife traits (hey, Mr Sexist masoginist Pig).

1. I keep the door to the house locked at all times. It were left unlocked, any intruder could simply walk away with the keys to the house and keys to of the cars. I am security conscious and lock the door, putting the key out of reach/sight. Following any use of the door, my wife leaves the door unlocked, with the keys in. This morning, the Mother-in-law came to visit, and so the door was left unlocked. The courier that visited 5 minutes only to make a delivery, could quite simply opened the door, tossed the parcel in, and been on his merry way.

2. We have a relatively open plan house, and at this time of year, I am trying to keep us all warm. I frequently work from home too and it is nice not to be freezing cold when working. I make a fire (log burner) and put the central heating on. All of this is undermined by leaving a room and leaving the door widen open. Within seconds, the heat has shifted elsewhere. Last night was a corker, with entry to the kitchen meaning lights on in there, kitchen door wide open, and living room door wide open. In the meantime, she went upstairs for a bath....to get 'nice and warm'.

What is a man to do? It is precarious mentioning such things, such is the time of year and use of HRT too!

I agree with the OP about keeping external doors locked, even when at home. I've heard of far too many 'walk in' burglaries / assaults over the past few years because of unlocked doors.

I get the frustration with leaving lights on - but depending on the property, it can sometimes be beneficial to warm the whole house in my experience.

Edited by TonyRPH on Tuesday 12th December 15:07

[RizzoTheRat]

TonyRPH said:

I get the frustration with leaving lights on

Smartifying the house solves a lot of these problems. I have a motion sensor to turn the kitchen lights off if there's no movement for 10 minutes, and button by the front door that turns most of the lights in the house off (everything except the bedrooms and bathroom). I need to finish sorting out the integration with the router so the lights all go off when both our mobile phones drop off the home network.