Mother's Day - solidarity with my fellow "No-Mum" ph'ers

[CloudStuff]

22 years since that classic school days insult became a reality - "You've got no mum".

It is what it is, really. But if you too are a No Mum, you also know it's bit of a tricky day. So, I'm raising a coffee to all the departed mums and those left behind.

[pidsy]

First one without Mum.

Bit of a downer on the day - don’t have a dad either so just get on with stuff.

[Pitre]

pidsy said:

First one without Mum.

Bit of a downer on the day - don’t have a dad either so just get on with stuff.

[anonymous-user]

Been without both parents since 2015, take flowers up the crematorium to the tree her ashes were spread round every year.

[75Black]

11 years this year. Her ashes were taken back by her sister and she's buried in Poland along side her parents.

[TownIdiot]

My mother will be sat in her bungalow with Gordon for company

That's the gin.
And probably some wine.

It's a shame, but no good can come from a visit.

[Gren]

Coming up to 6 years. This Mothers Day has been a bit of a struggle to be honest. Not sure why...

Will raise a glass later. To all of them.

[vaud]

5 years for me, just before the pandemic. A 320 mile race across the country In Jan 2020 through a storm to get there just before she lapsed into a coma.

[Antony Moxey]

Lost my mum to cancer just before the pandemic. She wasn’t long from diagnosis to going, and I’m thankful for that, and also thankful that she went when she did - the thought of her in hospital/hospice with us looking through a window from outside doesn’t bear thinking about. Of course we didn’t know it at the time, and there’s never really a good time to go, but looking back I think she timed it well.

Now we visit a couple of times a year to refresh the flowers and hope she’s happy where she is.

[Skyedriver]

After years of verbal abuse I left home and my Mum in 1979. Never saw her again for about 25 years, she was still screwed up and self obsessed in her head. She died about 14 or 15 years ago. Miss her? Nope.
Do wish I'd kept in touch with my Dad a bit more but couldn't without her getting involved.

[Last Visit]

Certainly miss my mother, 24 years ago she went. Glass will be raised later for sure.

[keo]

8 years for me. I miss my mum everyday. Hard one this year I have just locked myself away.

We should all stay strong and keep our heads up. I’m sure they would all be proud of us.

[Killer2005]

CloudStuff said:

22 years since that classic school days insult became a reality - "You've got no mum".

It is what it is, really. But if you too are a No Mum, you also know it's bit of a tricky day. So, I'm raising a coffee to all the departed mums and those left behind.

Lost both my parents within 10 weeks in 2021, my dad was expected (highly aggressive prostate cancer) but we found my mum had passed away in her sleep 10 weeks later.

Will also raise a glass to all those who've lost their mums

[vw_99]

Dont speak to my mum much. My dad brought me up.
So spent the morning with my dad and son at his hockey games. My 12YO son has not seen or heard from his mum in 3.5 years. So this a backwards mothers day as the bairn has taken his guitar and drum kit to annoy grandad.

[vaud]

keo said:

8 years for me. I miss my mum everyday. Hard one this year I have just locked myself away.

We should all stay strong and keep our heads up. I’m sure they would all be proud of us.

I have to remember the better times as my mum became incredibly toxic in the last 5 years of her life.

[Riley Blue]

I never knew my birth mother as I was put up for adoption shortly after I was born and my father's name is absent from my birth certificate. She did give me one thing though, her initials, M.A. but those changed after I was adopted.

My adoptive Mum was told she'd never be able to have children though after adopting me she did, twin girls. My Mum and Dad were the most wonderful parents anyone could wish for; they both lived into their 90s and I miss them every day.

So to both my mother and my Mum, thanks for everything you gave me.

[HertsBiker]

First for me and no problem sadness to report. She wrote me out of her will in favour of her second family while promising me everything. So only child, who visited weekly and messaged daily.... gets virtually nothing. After her death I found the will and have honoured it, but I have no sadness about her passing now, only rage at being lied to. I had thought we were close!!!

[QuartzDad]

The Alzheimer's Society advert is so true.

I first lost my Mum in 2021 when she was diagnosed.

I lost her again last year when she stopped recognising me.

I'll lose her again at some point.

Love you Mum.

[S100HP]

It's a load of marketing bullst anyway. My mother lives the other end of the country. Selfish cow moved away last year without even saying goodbye to her grandkids or her own mother. I keep in touch for their sake, but I couldn't care less if I never saw her again.

[Bubbas Grill]

Mother 10 years gone. She didn't like me and I didn't like her. Some regrets but assess that it's just Life.

I'm severely in the Dog-House today as I refused to go spend the day with the MIL due to her complete lack of interest in anyone but herself. She is also a serial trouble-maker. I saved her Life a few years back and she has never thanked me. Mother's Day should be about saying 'Thanks' for being a good Mother or even MIL. She's been terribly st at it!

I'm off out to see my unwell Mate so I'm not a COMPLETE !