Classic Mumsnet thread...
Classic Mumsnet thread...
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happytobealive

Original Poster:

228 posts

129 months

Saturday 7th February
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This is a tragic story, but is also a classic Mumsnet thread.

Guy posts on Mumsnet... says he is looking for a female perspective.... explains he is married with three young children. His wife is a stay-at-home mum. He is the main "breadwinner".

He says his wife wanted a luxury holiday to Dubai, so he generously books it for them all. Then he fortuitously realises that his buddy will be in Dubai at the same time, so he plans to spend one afternoon going with him to play golf. His wife says "no", which he thinks is unreasonable, so he posts on Mumsnet looking for some moral support....

After a dozen or so pages of bitter women, posting mostly bile based on their own failed relationships, his wife finds the thread, and posts to give her own perspective, using her main Mumsnet account. Explains she is a golf-widow, how he is always playing golf etc etc, how she feels tired and unappreciated. So probably everything you would have expected her to say.

But she doesn't seem to remember that she posted back in 2021 how her husband had a gambling addiction, was a bit of a loser, and how she was debating online whether she should divorce him, or stay with him, even though she didn't want to, just to have more children (which she desperately wanted).

Quite an embarrassing situation ... a group of strangers now picking over the bones of their toxic relationship, with both husband and wife reading the content....

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonab...

Nothingtoseehere

5,009 posts

210 months

Saturday 7th February
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It's got to be a windup. I only read some of the first post... but what man uses "AIBU", or would write that content, in that style, and on that website biglaugh.




MDMA .

10,091 posts

124 months

Saturday 7th February
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Nothingtoseehere said:
It's got to be a windup. I only read some of the first post... but what man uses "AIBU", or would write that content, in that style, and on that website biglaugh.
Probably half the spinsters from here who are in NP&E all day.

bigandclever

14,212 posts

261 months

Saturday 7th February
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It's alright but it's no penis beaker is it.

Getragdogleg

9,856 posts

206 months

Saturday 7th February
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Christ their forum layout is st isn't it ?

Narrow columns and fluff round the edges, only a few posts per "page", plus pop ups and other crap.

Makes this place look very functional by comparison.

lizardbrain

3,801 posts

60 months

Saturday 7th February
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I asked for a female perspective on mums net once, on how to offer help to a female acquaintance without misinterpretation.

Got my ass thoroughly whipped. It's brutal!!!

Edited by lizardbrain on Saturday 7th February 23:30

happytobealive

Original Poster:

228 posts

129 months

Saturday 7th February
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lizardbrain said:
I asked for a male perspective on mums net once, on how to offer help to a female acquaintance without misinterpretation.

Got my ass thoroughly whipped. It's brutal!!! Maybe 1 in 10 posts was even vaguely sane
They are just fighting back against the patriarchy... smile

Super Sonic

12,177 posts

77 months

Saturday 7th February
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Does nobody on here have a mn profile so they can advise the husband to post on ph here?

geeks

11,121 posts

162 months

Saturday 7th February
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bigandclever said:
It's alright but it's no penis beaker is it.
roflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflrofl

happytobealive

Original Poster:

228 posts

129 months

Saturday 7th February
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bigandclever said:
It's alright but it's no penis beaker is it.
Just looked for that on Google.... oh dear biggrin

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/1875...

Condi

19,642 posts

194 months

Saturday 7th February
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I thought all links from PH to Mumsnet got blocked, after the last "tour" of that place??

Ridgemont

8,680 posts

154 months

Saturday 7th February
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What kind of cretin posts in mumsnet in feedback re family v golf day?

You may as well drench yourself in kerosene and wander into a fireworks factory and hope no one has dropped a lighter.



fttm

4,349 posts

158 months

Sunday 8th February
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happytobealive said:
This is a tragic story, but is also a classic Mumsnet thread.

Guy posts on Mumsnet... says he is looking for a female perspective.... explains he is married with three young children. His wife is a stay-at-home mum. He is the main "breadwinner".

He says his wife wanted a luxury holiday to Dubai, so he generously books it for them all. Then he fortuitously realises that his buddy will be in Dubai at the same time, so he plans to spend one afternoon going with him to play golf. His wife says "no", which he thinks is unreasonable, so he posts on Mumsnet looking for some moral support....

After a dozen or so pages of bitter women, posting mostly bile based on their own failed relationships, his wife finds the thread, and posts to give her own perspective, using her main Mumsnet account. Explains she is a golf-widow, how he is always playing golf etc etc, how she feels tired and unappreciated. So probably everything you would have expected her to say.

But she doesn't seem to remember that she posted back in 2021 how her husband had a gambling addiction, was a bit of a loser, and how she was debating online whether she should divorce him, or stay with him, even though she didn't want to, just to have more children (which she desperately wanted).

Quite an embarrassing situation ... a group of strangers now picking over the bones of their toxic relationship, with both husband and wife reading the content....

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonab...
WTF are you doing on Mumsnet ya weirdo ?

thinkofaname

375 posts

156 months

Sunday 8th February
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I think that apart from the chromosomes/ribs/penis, Mumsnetters and PistonHeaders are cut from the same cloth. PH is like the male Mumsnet. The cars thing is just a front.

Andeh1

7,494 posts

229 months

Sunday 8th February
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Holy st, I thought Pistonhead's could be bad but some of the toxicity there.... eek. Some seriously unpleasant people.

Smollet

15,226 posts

213 months

Sunday 8th February
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Mumsnet makes he happy I’m that I’m a bloke.

Hugo Stiglitz

40,607 posts

234 months

Sunday 8th February
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Its one afternoon. Even of it was a fix up my wife would roll her eyes and say crack on. She'd be happy for some space for a bit.

I'm into bikes so you could say its an obsession. I wouldn't use the term bloody widow.

the cueball

1,710 posts

78 months

Sunday 8th February
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Smollet said:
Mumsnet makes he happy I m that I m a bloke.
Some of the posts, if true, make me ashamed to be a bloke.

The sheer amount of abuse, both mental and physical as well as ‘maintenance sex’ so their partner doesn’t sulk is truly abhorrent.


CanAm

12,940 posts

295 months

Sunday 8th February
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Nothingtoseehere said:
It's got to be a windup. I only read some of the first post... but what man uses "AIBU", or would write that content, in that style, and on that website biglaugh.
Well, its on the AIBU sub-forum on Mumsnet so that's not unreasonable. The first two replies were OK, but did warn him of what would follow. But the guy was really throwing himself to the wolves posting that question.

I asked a female colleague for her thoughts, and she avoids it like the plague because of the number of vicious harridans on there. It's their NP&E.