Opinions on why friends block contact
Discussion
Thought about this long enough but why does a friend block all contact with me for no reason, knew him for years and would chat often and everything was on good terms .would do favours etc and good person stuff .Not had any reply to anything in 3 months but can see has been online , out of interest I tried calling a few times with withheld number and that gets through but doesn't pick up otherwise I just line busy like dnd turned on or just blocked me .I was worried what was going on or what the reason was , I don't plan on just going to his house either as doesn't feel the right thing to do , maybe just a dimwit with his head in the sand and that's fine
Jack.77 said:
Thought about this long enough but why does a friend block all contact with me for no reason, knew him for years and would chat often and everything was on good terms .would do favours etc and good person stuff .Not had any reply to anything in 3 months but can see has been online , out of interest I tried calling a few times with withheld number and that gets through but doesn't pick up otherwise I just line busy like dnd turned on or just blocked me .I was worried what was going on or what the reason was , I don't plan on just going to his house either as doesn't feel the right thing to do , maybe just a dimwit with his head in the sand and that's fine
There will be a reason. It's just that you're not aware of it. 
Jack.77 said:
Thought about this long enough but why does a friend block all contact with me for no reason, knew him for years and would chat often and everything was on good terms .would do favours etc and good person stuff .Not had any reply to anything in 3 months but can see has been online , out of interest I tried calling a few times with withheld number and that gets through but doesn't pick up otherwise I just line busy like dnd turned on or just blocked me .I was worried what was going on or what the reason was , I don't plan on just going to his house either as doesn't feel the right thing to do , maybe just a dimwit with his head in the sand and that's fine
It happens, has happened to me, painful and difficult to understand.One long term friend didn't like my ex and so stopped all contact, another friend stopped all contact because, well i think two reasons, I didn't drink as much as him and his wife was always telling him that he should be more like me.
Put it behind you and move on
Social contact on top of work, family commitments and other struggles is often too mich for me to bear. People i absolutely love messege me and the notification fills me with dread when I see it. I know its wrong but its just how my body reacts. Oneof my closest people sent me messege in Dec I still haven't responded.
Does your friend block contacts with others as well or?
Does your friend block contacts with others as well or?
My best friend and I blocked contact with our other, at the time, “best friend”.
The straw that broke the camels back was that he got married to an escort he had brought over to the UK and the first we knew of it was when he sent a photo from a pub with her wearing a wedding ring. He had spent years trying to cause issues between the wider friendship group and we decided that enough was enough. It sounds harsh but sometimes people feel that there is no better option than cutting contact.
I do feel bad from time to time about it, but I also think it was the best decision we could have made.
The straw that broke the camels back was that he got married to an escort he had brought over to the UK and the first we knew of it was when he sent a photo from a pub with her wearing a wedding ring. He had spent years trying to cause issues between the wider friendship group and we decided that enough was enough. It sounds harsh but sometimes people feel that there is no better option than cutting contact.
I do feel bad from time to time about it, but I also think it was the best decision we could have made.
Without a lot more info it's difficult to second guess why some folks act the way they do.
However, many people will fit into family life very easily and won't/don't want anything encroaching upon that and that's fair enough IMO. People might find it easier to ignore rather than explain how they feel their life has moved in a different direction than your own. Other people might look at your adventurous and amazing lifestyle and feel their own life is a bit boring and dull but have no real need to inject any excitement into their own lives, heck they might even be a little bit embarrassed at how their life is boring compared with your own.
Partners and family also can have a big impact on our old social contacts and lifestyles, especially when kids come along. Some other people just don't rate loyal friendships as important at all. I wouldn't sweat it, move on and find some people that are more in tune with how you see the world.
However, many people will fit into family life very easily and won't/don't want anything encroaching upon that and that's fair enough IMO. People might find it easier to ignore rather than explain how they feel their life has moved in a different direction than your own. Other people might look at your adventurous and amazing lifestyle and feel their own life is a bit boring and dull but have no real need to inject any excitement into their own lives, heck they might even be a little bit embarrassed at how their life is boring compared with your own.
Partners and family also can have a big impact on our old social contacts and lifestyles, especially when kids come along. Some other people just don't rate loyal friendships as important at all. I wouldn't sweat it, move on and find some people that are more in tune with how you see the world.
I blocked a couple of good friends over that last few years,
one only contacted me when he needed something for free,
the other, been friends for 40 years, would "borrow" something whenever we met, never returned it, when finally I had to ask for stuff back, he denied all knowledge,
I guess we grew apart,
one only contacted me when he needed something for free,
the other, been friends for 40 years, would "borrow" something whenever we met, never returned it, when finally I had to ask for stuff back, he denied all knowledge,
I guess we grew apart,
Blib said:
There will be a reason. It's just that you're not aware of it.
That.Every know and then, someone I am friends with will randomly delete me from Instagram or whatever. Its often someone I haven't spoken to in a while. But not fallen out with. Its odd to me, since it doesn't save them any money.
I can only assume I did something years ago they didn't like. And they suddenly remembered it. Its funny, that some of the people that I dont really like, but worked with and felt obliged to "add" to my social media never delete themselves
There's a few that I know why they deleted me.
Not every friendship is supposed to last. You'll go insane trying to work out the whys and what fors
I've been at the other side of this i.e. dropping someone who was for a period my best friend, what became apparent was that I wasn't their best friend.
We were always competitive in our careers, aspirations etc., and he's done well ultimately, probably even better than my situation, with how he married the 2nd time. I did achieve a little bit more first/quickly, if you want to put it that way.
We had a lot in common musically, football teams, books we read, strangely not movies though. Anyway, I'd text him news about our team. memes, who was touring, upcoming gigs, and so on. It became apparent that the replies were getting more and more taciturn. Often I'd send him something, and get "seen it" as a reply, and from the message trail it was also obvious that I always initiated the conversation.
It came to a head during COVID lockdown, where he pulled a stroke and boasted about it. I decide there, and then we were done, and went no contact.
He has since tried a few time to strike up conversation, I'm polite but non-committal, and I did attend his mother's funeral, as she was a lovely, lovely person. I've since got a new number (for other reasons), and didn't bother forwarding it on.
When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
We were always competitive in our careers, aspirations etc., and he's done well ultimately, probably even better than my situation, with how he married the 2nd time. I did achieve a little bit more first/quickly, if you want to put it that way.
We had a lot in common musically, football teams, books we read, strangely not movies though. Anyway, I'd text him news about our team. memes, who was touring, upcoming gigs, and so on. It became apparent that the replies were getting more and more taciturn. Often I'd send him something, and get "seen it" as a reply, and from the message trail it was also obvious that I always initiated the conversation.
It came to a head during COVID lockdown, where he pulled a stroke and boasted about it. I decide there, and then we were done, and went no contact.
He has since tried a few time to strike up conversation, I'm polite but non-committal, and I did attend his mother's funeral, as she was a lovely, lovely person. I've since got a new number (for other reasons), and didn't bother forwarding it on.
When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
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